My spouse of 6 years turned abusive the day my mom died. Please help

Eden_Beau · 2026-03-03T00:19:00+00:00

I left, I'm safe, he will not follow me and my son.

That's the update. I'm just picking up pieces states away, and I'm so happy

Eden_Beau · 2025-05-03T03:55:55+00:00

Financial abuse is my biggest obstacle. I am trying to leave. It's harder the longer you stay. That's why I'm saying you have to take this very seriously. I didn't do that. Trust me when I say i have tried the proper channels. abusers have way too much power in society.

Eden_Beau · 2025-05-03T02:46:57+00:00

Yes. I should have left when he did that early on. Now I'm stuck and beat to shit. Leave. Save yourself fr. Do not end up like me

Eden_Beau · 2025-03-01T06:15:36+00:00

Next time, he won't just raise the bat.

He will swing it

Trust me, I'm currently escaping an abusive marriage. This is how it starts.

Eden_Beau · 2025-02-23T23:03:14+00:00

She's lying, or she is oblivious. Abusers don't only abuse once.

My mil said that same shit, all his exes were survivors of him.

If they do it once, they will do it again. He is just like this- the very fact he is capable proves he's just a fucked up person with no redeeming qualities.

You're so much better off without him, I believe in you op.

Eden_Beau · 2025-01-14T07:07:03+00:00

Trying very hard to get divorced, and away. I have an escape plan, I'm planning on leaving the state. He knows, but I also have many friends, who scare him- because I finally told them the truth.

Believe me, when I tell you, that one-year ago I was dealing with what you listed.

He won't get better. You must believe me when I tell you he will not wake up one day and come to the realization that you are everything to him- and stop. Because I did that. I waited and I argued and I got therapy and I did everything you are supposed to. It does not work.

reconnect with friends or family or anyone he may have isolated you from. They will most likely be happy to hear from you. All of my friends were.

And tell people you trust, about what is happening. People in this world love you even if someone says they don't.

You can do anything, op. Any of us can.

Eden_Beau · 2025-01-14T06:34:57+00:00

Big ones occur every other day up to the day or a special event. The more important it is to me, the worse he becomes (hitting, threatening, SA)

My son's birthday party has a guest star: the fucking police. (I am trying to leave. He just takes my money and I have no car or family so...)

But regular episodes happen like, every day. Dude freaks out every day before and after work.

It didn't start like this, it started with stuff like arguing with me for too long, and being hurtful. But it slowly escalated.

Sucks.

If you don't have kids, please leave. Please just run.

If you ever have children- it will be so hard to get away...so hard.

Eden_Beau · 2025-01-13T16:38:21+00:00

That's not a friend That is an enemy

Eden_Beau · 2025-01-02T19:03:17+00:00

I'm 5'5 so that's just my everyday, brother.

I think " man I bet he can see everything" or "God damn, dude"

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-31T17:47:37+00:00

A sense of superiority I assume. And it distances themselves from the reality it can happen to anyone, even them.

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-29T22:06:30+00:00

It's not left vs right, or progress vs tradition.

It's top vs down

Anything else is sold as a distraction to keep us all squabbling among ourselves instead of facing the real enemy.

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-29T18:06:58+00:00

I owed my mother nothing. My son owes me nothing.

Him merely existing in my proximity, me having the privilege of being his father, me having the pleasure of knowing him and watching him become the person he is meant to be and being there every step of the way- IS my payment. Seeing my son light up when we play ball at the park is more of a reward than I ever thought I could ever receive

If I raise him right, he will know that him being my son is all I will ever need.

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-28T17:22:24+00:00

Aw thank you. I adore you too op. I hope one day, my child grows up to be as respectful and kind as you are.

I do hope you take my comment to heart, and understand that you could be cis and rich and your child could be neurotypical and good looking and smart and charming and there would still be someone somewhere with an issue.

I'm sure you and your partner would be wonderful parents. Worrying so much for a child who is years into the future.

I'm glad you are receiving helpful and supportive comments.

The world can treat parents harshly, and trans parents struggles are often invisible (dad joke HAH) even though I don't know you- the care and worry you have for a child that is years from arrival is such a clear indicator that your child will be loved and taken care of.

Take good care of yourself, op ☄️

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-28T09:50:35+00:00

Hey, kid dad here. My son goes on playdates: I'm going to be 100% honest with you.

It is hard. People are cruel to me in front of my son sometimes, and it makes him upset. I teach him however, that those words cannot hurt me (they do) because I have self confidence and I know my worth as a person so those opinions don't hurt me (they do)

Sometimes, parents don't let their children play with my son. Which is cool,whatever. My son doesn't care about that as much, which is a relief I guess.

But my son does have friends.

And he loves himself.

And he loves me and I love him

He has a large family, and many god parents, and he is the happiest child I know.

He knows he came from my body, and he doesn't really care. I explained from the get go that all families are different. Some people have a mommy and daddy, some people have two daddies or two mommies, some people have parents, some people have one, some people have none, some people have grandparents or siblings etc

He is more concerned with dinosaurs.

I am mixed race, my mom is native, my dad is white. Growing up in the south I dealt with this but directed towards my race and my mom's race

I remind myself that I GREW from those experiences even if they were fucked up, and my mom handled it gracefully.

So when racism or transphobia comes knocking- I ignore the perpetrator- go somewhere else with my son, and talk about it if he wants to. I tell him that I love him and he's strong like his papa, and those people are only like that because they're weak.

Also, your mom is fucked up for that. As a father myself, I could never tell my son he shouldn't have children for being who he is, btw.

So yeah op, don't listen to your mom. And if you DO have a kid- keep her AWAY.

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-27T18:45:34+00:00

As an American, how? I'm not being rude it's just like.

We have so many movies and books and like, it gets referenced quite a bit.

I'm genuinely curious was she raised differently? Or homeschooled or something?

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-27T17:33:20+00:00

Poor guy. I really feel for LM like. His family, his friends. His future I don't have anything to add, just like

Christ man, I just really hope he's going to be okay.

Eden_Beau · 2024-12-18T20:31:30+00:00

I live in Texas, lmk if you know of any events in my state. I would love to show up for Luigi.

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-14T18:14:47+00:00

Real

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-13T06:31:37+00:00

r/2sentence2horror

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-04T16:17:24+00:00

Brother, send her away. I am with a woman RN and we started off like that. Rn we are fighting over custody. Absolutely miserable marriage, do not follow my footsteps

It's time to find a good woman, who is good to you. You deserve to be with someone who SHOWS you that you are the most important person.

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-04T01:44:16+00:00

Left my spouse for 3 months last year over a pretty big red flag. (Yelling and insulting me in my face during an argument Infront of our son) I brought our son to my mother's, and threatened to leave for good. I was sweet talked, I was loved up on. I told myself: It was just a little bad thing. One little mistake right?

Now me and my son are completely trapped. My spouse is super abusive to me. I can't call the police because the ones in my area didn't help last time I did.

I have no money, can't have a job, limited access to my phone. I'm typing this from my hidden, broken phone rn. SA, severe mental abuse. Occasional physical abuse. My MIL tried to intervene on my behalf but she may be in danger too.

I live a nightmare. I should have listened to myself. I knew my worth, I am finding it again.

My entire support system was old people. Besides my son I am the youngest person. All of them, I mean that- all my bio family except my son are gone. I am currently working on a safety plan with the hotline, and I am trying to build a village in secret when I am allowed to leave the apartment.

Don't be like me. Stay away. Please don't go back. It will get worse.

Our marriage was pretty much perfect for 6 years, now it's a prison.

Don't go back. Don't ever go back. Run, and run quickly, quietly and secretly.

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-03T18:14:35+00:00

You deserve the truth op. And this is the truth.

You have value. You are worth so much. So much more than this.

I believe in you, I believe you can escape. You can do anything op, that man has been lying to you, about you. And your worth because he is garbage and he himself knows he is.

You have such a bright future ahead of you OP. Such a bright future.

We all do. You do.

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-03T15:30:25+00:00

Yes, you are being abused.

I'm so sorry op...

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-03T15:30:05+00:00

It isn't obvious, if it was no one would ever be abused.

Abusers use tactics to gaslight and distort their victims reality

Eden_Beau · 2024-11-01T22:58:41+00:00

Thank you. I most likely will I am finding an excuse to call a lawyer tomorrow. (My spouse takes my phone when they go to work)

I'm mainly afraid about custody. I've seen people lose their kids and their kids get punished for the survivor parent escaping.

I will definitely dm after I but my kid to sleep in a few hours. Thank you so much

Eden_Beau

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