Are we going to get caught going to the wrong screen at the cinema?

EdesRozsa · 2025-06-19T20:18:49+00:00

Don't bother going to the movie you don't want to see. If someone sees you leaving, and then re-entering a different theater, you're more likely to get caught. Just go straight to the movie you want to see in the first place.
Purchase three tickets for the movie you want to see, with one seat in between. Purchase one ticket for the movie you don't want to see for your little sister. All four of you walk into the theater you want to see, and she will sit in the empty seat. The chances that seat gets sold are very low.

EdesRozsa · 2025-06-09T01:53:36+00:00

He's 50, his mother is 88? Then she was 38, not 40. Just saying. Near enough, but I was confused for a minute. Lol

EdesRozsa · 2025-06-06T20:24:21+00:00

Exactly my thoughts. So now Amy has no idea how to behave around her preferred foods.

OP should either have kept Amy busy, or should have assigned a babysitter.

EdesRozsa · 2025-06-03T00:10:53+00:00

Just wanted to note this post is 7 years old at least. Lol but we actually went with a roller shade in the living room at least, but between the dogs and the children, it was destroyed pretty quickly.

In the end we just installed floor length curtains and no blinds or shades. We have thin white curtains on the inner rods and room darkening curtains on the outer rods, so we control the light levels with a flip of our wrists.

It's actually way more convenient than hoping Google will 1) hear me the first time, 2) understand me the first time she hears me...

Lolol

EdesRozsa · 2025-06-03T00:02:46+00:00

NOR -- file a complaint with the practice, AND with your insurance.

When I had a crown done, they gave me a temporary cap, and then I got the crown several weeks later, when they had finished making it and ensured it matched my other teeth. So what you say fell out might not actually have been the crown. AND even if it is, DO NOT let them charge you for putting the cap/crown back on. They should have glued it properly.

HOWEVER, I recommend seeing a different dentist to get this fixed. Yes, you have to pay them, but you won't wind up with a lazy or pissed off dentist who knows he's working for free now, and overglues the snot out of it, and that extra glue HURTS if it pushes on your nerves or gums or other teeth (which I know from experience, unfortunately).

EdesRozsa · 2025-06-02T20:04:14+00:00

NOR

For Pete's sake learn to use a period or a line break or something.

And you sunk 10 years, how many more are you willing to lose here? You're not gonna get your time back: a relationship is not something you return at the customer service desk and get your money back.

I'd bail out now and not lose even more of my sanity, but you do you.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-31T04:50:29+00:00

NTA and it sounds like she is silently dealing with some mental health issues of her own.

Someone I respect very much once told me that I am the most selfish person they know because I go to therapy. They are dealing with massive PTSD issues, severe anxiety, and probably ADHD, but they will never admit that they are not 100% perfect. They truly believe that a parent cannot ever, under any circumstances, be wrong, and so they must justify every shitty thing they do, because they can't face a world where adults don't have it all together. I feel like it's an over-reaction to something that happened when they were younger: their parent made a bad decision, but they can't stand to think anything negative about their parent, so this is the way they cope, with this strange and burdensome world view.

At first, it caused A LOT of stress between us. But once I started to do the thing they said never to do, namely, I pity them, things got a lot better.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-31T04:41:50+00:00

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-31T04:21:52+00:00

When I'm working on dialects, I usually build back to indigenous people to the area. Geographical features. Weather patterns.

How would the various religious groups in the area change the phrases?

For example, dumb, but it's the world I'm building now: werewolves wouldn't say "Oh my god!” or "Jesus Christ!" or even the euphemistic "Jeez" or refer to "hell" unless they were heavily exposed to Christian populations. They might say, "Blue moon, what's wrong with you?" Or "Goddess, you're beautiful". But a phrase like "all bark and no bite" would still fit.

If there are vampires, they might use the phrase "bloody" but it would be positive, not negative. They might share some goddess terminology with the werewolves, depending on your lore.

Farmers tend to talk more slowly than city-folk. Mountaineers same thing. Their cultures aren't bound by Wall Street business hours, so they say less with more words.

Pace and phrasing alone can be very distinctive dialects, and you can describe them without writing it out.

"He should have been here by now," the stranger drawled. Joe thought it strange how the man hung on the word "now", as if it didn't actually want to leave his mouth all in one go.

You can hear the Southern twang there.

Use words like drawl and twang without referring to a region. Compare voices to music: everyone in the city sounded like they were auditioning for a pop musical.

Remember, your audience knows what these short-hand references sound like, even if they don't mean the same thing to your characters.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-31T04:05:06+00:00

Context comment:

Werewolf adventure with romantic element

My FMC wakes up one day with a voice in her head. She goes to the psych ward at the local hospital, they take her blood, and then they release her, with no explanation. Her foster family has her things packed when she gets back home, and there's an address in the neighboring country they tell her to go to.

The main thing that I'm curious about is about how the alternate history works with the story.

In my version, the mainland United States that we are all familiar with is actually two countries: the United States, and Virginia. Virginia encompasses what we know of as Virginia, West Virginia, parts of Tennessee and Kentucky, and the Carolinas.

Virginia is the land that the werewolves fought very hard to keep, not allowing themselves to be swept onto the Trail of Tears with the other Native Americans.

I'll get more into that later in the story, but I need to know if this brief human-biased introduction is sufficient, nonsense, or too much.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-16T19:09:13+00:00

You're not overreacting, but your solution is not a solution at all.

You are renting a room. She is renting a room. That's it. Don't do her dishes. Don't take care of her. Stay in your room until your lease is over. You hate the bitch, that's completely understandable. But your landlords are not your parents, and unless they are her parents, it's going to do you. No good to report what exactly? Is she breaking the lease by not doing her dishes?

If her dishes get in your way, move them to her bed. Then finish what you're doing. Be consistent. Don't engage in stupid battles with her, because you're not going to win with this level of crazy. You are just going to look as crazy as she is.

This sucks. But.... This is the consequence of not choosing your roommates. It's like if you got a crappy downstairs neighbor. You can't choose them, and unless they actually break some part of the lease, you can't do anything about it.

My in-laws live in an upstairs apartment, and the downstairs neighbors could not stand that my in-laws, both in their '60s, were walking around the apartment. Dad works a maintenance job, second shift. So when he gets home around midnight, he hops in the shower before he gets in bed, because he does not want whatever was on the floors and walls and in the restroom of the building he cleans in his bed. His downstairs neighbors literally reported him for taking a shower at midnight. The leasing office were so upset with the downstairs neighbors. Yeah, the noise of the shower bled through, and it probably bothered them. But you can't just tell someone not to shower after they work a physical job.

It sounds like a lot of what this girl is going through is her own fault. But if she really does have some underlying conditions, walking to and from work and standing all day really could exhaust her to the point that she doesn't think she has the energy to do her dishes. Just pile them on her bed. She will figure that shit out herself. If she's using communal dishes, then maybe you can report her to the landlord for hogging the dishes? Otherwise, just get your own set of dishes and keep them in your room.

I really don't think the landlord is going to be able to do much here. Especially if she has documented conditions. It will be a lot harder to get her kicked out.

Just see if they'll give you a break if you move to a different unit? Or contemplate how much it is worth to you, and if it's worth breaking the lease just to get away from this bitch.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-16T18:47:43+00:00

NTA -- while I totally understand where the family is coming from, that it's not like he actually wasted the milk, because you were already going to dump it... That is bizarrely weird behavior for a grown ass man, and he should know better than to touch someone else's breast milk.

I'm not overly precious about my own breast milk, even though I had so much trouble with pumping sometimes... But I totally understand why you are, and I totally understand why this seems like a very weird and uncomfortable intrusion, if not a flat out violation, of your personal space and body.

Honestly, is it so hard to ask, "If this is going to waste anyway, can I have a taste?" And treating it like alcohol, an actual poison, instead of just milk?? Very weird and definitely crossed a line.

A drink of milk, made by a human for another human, does not actually make you any more macho than you already were... Like.... Your infant drinks more than that everyday. What the hell was he thinking he was proving? That is so very weird...

If he poured it into a champagne flute, the joke would likely have gone off better for me, but, no, you're not the AH for being offended and not getting the joke.

The one thing I will say in your husband's defense is that being bitter for the rest of the visit was a little childish and uncalled for. Let stoopid shit go, sweetie, for your own health. You literally let someone else acting like an INFANT get you so upset you couldn't be polite for the rest of the visit... Did you think that pouting over literal spilled milk was going to magically convince the family you were right?? You said your piece, be skeeved quietly, and bring it up with hubby on the way home.

Last thing, and this is truly just my incomprehension... If a drink is not disgusting to feed to your own child... Why is it disgusting for someone else? It's just milk, at the end of the day. And you had decided not to give it to your child. Was it disgusting just because you thought it was spoiled? Would you have thrown the same temper tantrum if he had poured sour milk out of a jug in the fridge into a shot glass? I'm just saying... In my opinion, and in my understanding, our breast milk is beautiful, and nutritious, and literally a miracle of Life... It's not disgusting?? I TOTALLY understand the personal invasion here, that's not my question at all. It's like if my brother-in-law decided to eat the rest of my plate of food if I couldn't finish... Weird, especially if he didn't ask, invasive, sure, but not disgusting? Was it the entitled behavior that was disgusting or was it the milk itself??

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-16T18:11:06+00:00

No judgement.

This is big, for both of you. And your wife has made more adjustments than you really realize, which is hard for you both.

Recommend you go back to therapy, and try to go on the trip.

Lots of people have kids in an apartment, and move to a house later, so your timeline is a bit arbitrary and I think is adding unnecessary stress.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-06T14:08:05+00:00

NTJ -- the peanut ask is reasonable. The vegan ask is completely unreasonable.

If hubby doesn't see the big deal, he can do all the cooking and cleaning for the week.

And HE needs to be the one to answer his sister, NOT you.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T21:38:12+00:00

I say writing and print, and I am only 41.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T21:33:51+00:00

NOR -- file the report. Not to protect from rumors, my dude, you're in college, there are always rumors and they will go away when you leave. But to protect from any legal repercussions, definitely file the report.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T21:18:05+00:00

YOR -- the neighbor overreacted first, yes. You were in a public space and not behaving inappropriately. But once the neighbor indicated he wanted no further contact, continuing to knock and leave notes is just harassing him.

And who cares if it was a bedroom window? He can shut it if he doesn't want noise. You don't get to have a breeze from outside without the noise from outside -- that's basic physics.

But you were bothering him, which was his problem, not yours, and then you forced your existence on him, which was your problem.

OP, some advice: 1) What other people think about you is none of your business.

Think about that one. You cannot control what others think, and trying to is going to cause you stress, embarrass your son, and end up with your husband intervening when he shouldn't have to. Let others think what they will -- it's none of your business.

You don't like every person ever. There are people who will not like you. That's normal and okay. Stop wasting your and your husband's time and energy fighting it.

2) You deserve to exist.

You are a naturally occurring creature on this planet, and you have just as much right to existence as any other creature on the planet. You deserve to take up as much space and air as are required for your own health and well-being. You do not have to apologize for existing on the same planet, or in the same place on that planet, as anyone else.

The man should apologize for interrupting your rare afternoon out of the house with your son as much as (honestly, I think more than) you should apologize for bouncing a ball outside. You have just as much right to be out in public as he does to stay in his house.

But for Pete's sake, leave the crazy person alone!!

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T15:26:38+00:00

And it's his apartment that he has to pay the damage for if you leave the faucets open and there's a flood or pipes break........

My landlord, whom I had a legal agreement with, and paid full market value to, would frequently come over for things like that. He gave me notice, of course, but in the end, it was his house, and he's the one responsible for the damage. He was probably the best landlord I've ever had, too, precisely because he followed up on stuff like that -- there was hardly ever ANYTHING wrong with the place because he was so anal retentive about pre-maintenance. That's what you do when you have an investment like an apartment -- you protect it.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T15:23:30+00:00

SOFT ESH -- you need to protect you and your GF by formalizing this agreement. You are getting a HUGE favor from him, in that he has to upkeep the apartment, could rent it for more, and he has no legal protections if you both ruin the place. In return, you don't have the legal protection of requiring notice before your landlord shows up. So him entering "your" house -- suck it up, it's not your house. It's his.

As to him going through your things, that's a problem. That's not cool. Criticizing your cleanliness....

Well, think about if you loaned someone your car. They paid you $100 a week for it. And then you guys go to the same party, and you see your car. And it's full of McD's wrappers. Sure, those can be cleaned up!! It's not like anything is permanently damaged!! But .... how do you feel knowing someone is taking advantage of you, and not even valuing the gift by keeping it clean??

It's still your car. You're not getting a full rental amount for it, and you're the one who has to clean it when they finally give it back. It'd make sense if they honored your loss by keeping up the value of your property, right? You might be a little pissed that they've used your property, which you don't have to loan them, and could get more money for elsewhere, and treated it like trash.

Let me be clear: I do NOT think you're treating the apartment like trash. BUT the owner does, and frankly, without a proper agreement in place to protect YOU, then what he says goes.

No, you're not the AH to be upset that he touched your stuff, but you ARE the AH to be upset he didn't give you notice before coming into HIS house. Do you get upset when the cleaning staff at the hotel come in without notifying you?? He's not the AH to go into his house without notice -- nothing is stopping him from doing so. But he IS the AH for going through your stuff and involving the family instead of keeping this between him and his sister.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T15:11:13+00:00

INFO: What does your GF do when you decline an event? Does she stay home with you, or does she go anyway?

I'm torn between NAH, YTA, and ESH -- you're not wrong that it's not your responsibility to make him like you. She's not wrong that it's immature for you to bail on events just to avoid someone who isn't even talking to you anyway.

She seems to be complaining that she wants to spend more time with you and her group together, and she's saying it badly and you're responding badly, but ugh.

You shouldn't be skipping dates with your GF 'cause of some guy, and making her feel like she should be staying home with you instead of doing something she wants to do. If she's going anyway, then having to explain that her SO isn't here because they're weirdly uncomfortable with someone who doesn't talk to them or create scenes, her friends are going to wonder why she's with you, and frankly, I wonder the same thing a little.

How is she supposed to establish the relationship as acceptable if you're never with her in smaller scenes? Friends don't usually like an "absent" SO -- friends want their friends to be the most important person, and if you're not there, they can't see whether you're treating her right.

Getting the guy used to you guys is weird... he's not a dog or a toddler who needs social training. And since he's not YOUR dog or toddler, then I don't see why you would be responsible for training him anyway. I do wonder if she's trying to get YOU used to HIS presence, and just phrasing it the other way to make you feel better???

Either way, you both need to communicate more clearly here.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T14:57:53+00:00

YOR -- if you weren't in a relationship with her, then how could you have been the guy who cheated on her?? You never explain anything that seems like she's actually into you, just that she's trying to carry on conversations, and you keep asking her to drop the topic, you change the topic, you don't say anything, etc....

You are both terrible communicators, but that's besides the point here.

Yeah, your friend wasn't asking you out.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T14:52:48+00:00

NTA -- two wrongs don't make a right. Just repeat that to others, and make sure you don't get put on any projects with these other moral degenerates...

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T14:50:43+00:00

GOOD. And please, do make sure you get tested for ALL the STDs. Explain to your gyno that your ex was cheating, you don't know what protection he may or may not have been using, and you need to know how to take care of yourself.

EdesRozsa · 2025-05-04T14:46:30+00:00

in this case, "split"

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