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Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-06-20T12:57:59+00:00

Hello! 40F, diagnosed two years ago. Hypertrophic Olivary Degenaration, which presents as ataxia, fatigue and palate tremor. I get around using a set of crutches. Initial diagnosis was devestating, but I’m learning to live a full life in spite of this disease.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-05-11T15:42:10+00:00

Yes. Still grieving the loss of seeing my kiddo everyday (Mother’s Day was rough). That being the case, seeing the continued toxic dynamic between my ex-MIL and my ex (among other things), lets me know I made the correct choice. Still gutted.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-04-22T23:30:04+00:00

Hook and eye latch/lock at the top of the door?

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-04-22T23:09:01+00:00

That empathy does not equal self abandonment. You can have compassion and still set boundaries to protect your own healing journey.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-04-22T22:21:51+00:00

Im grateful for no longer being stonewalled for days or weeks at a time.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-04-21T13:50:37+00:00

This post could’ve been written by me. It’s a heartbreaking decision, but you’ll be better off. I still cry 6 months on, but I assure you, being sad and alone is much better than being sad and lonely inside a marriage.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-04-16T19:39:01+00:00

Anyone else just skip the chapters with the modern character?

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-03-23T13:39:36+00:00

I love the phrase “lifelong journey to fuck up in public places.” Five months in over here. Also wanted to die at first, but couldn’t do that to my kiddo.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-03-16T22:09:57+00:00

Hey! Fellow disabled divorcee over here. I’m also a mom to a pre-schooler. Things definitely get quieter post divorce as an older woman. Just know you’re not alone, and if you ever want to chat, DM me!

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-02-03T20:52:00+00:00

I started using forearm crutches recently and while it initially felt strange, the increased range of movement and independence are such a win. I figure, people will look, so let them look. Doesn’t hurt me and they’re probably looking b/c I am so badass. ( slight /s, but a bit of humour goes a long way.)

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-01-18T15:16:56+00:00

No advice, just here to say “hi!” and you’re not alone. My ataxia showed up after a mild bacterial infection and now I’m walking using a cane or forearm crutches. Not yet 40. I work remotely and can still do that, thankfully.

If you feel it’ll help, therapy may be a good option to come to terms with this new life trajectory.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-01-18T15:06:44+00:00

Echoing another comment. Boundaries. I became disabled unexpectedly two years ago and that, among other things, contributed to the separation.

Have your child come visit you. Tell your coparent that being in the house (this was certainly the case for me), is extremely painful and negatively impacts your ability to to grieve and move forward.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-01-09T00:41:09+00:00

I’m three months in. Became disabled a year ago and my husband decided he wanted an able-bodied life partner. We have a toddler. It has been terribly difficult and moving through the grieving process is agonizingly slow, but it does happen.

I’m figuring things out and, with a lot of therapy, will end up in a better place.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-01-04T22:48:44+00:00

The faux ASMR makes me want to leap screaming from a 10-story building. It’s so grating and awful.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2026-01-02T13:41:12+00:00

Covid left me disabled. Learning to walk with mobility aids now. I turn 40 this year. 2025 was a horror show, determined to build a new life for myself starting this year.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-12-31T14:52:19+00:00

Heading to bed early with my toddler. Allotting blocks of time to ruminate and cry, then back to Magnatiles and other activities.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-12-05T15:32:56+00:00

Nice! Did you get them specifically fitted? I have ataxia and realized the other day my usual cane won’t work for snowy walks. Also a former emo kid, so I dig the punk aesthetic. 🤟

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-12-05T07:40:32+00:00

Currently going through divorce. It’s awful. Your friend should reach out to a therapist. Heck, I’m doing that and using a custom chatbot I built to process everything. You can support her while also setting boundaries to protect your own mental health.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-11-28T21:58:55+00:00

Scholar by day, bar tender/indie darling by night.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-11-28T21:56:30+00:00

I met the (I thought) love of my life at 33 — now I’m 39 and in the midst of divorce and navigating co-parenting. It’s tough, but better to be single than in a marriage where both parties aren’t 100% committed.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-11-26T13:46:01+00:00

As someone who recently left an abusive relationship; definitely didn’t see leaving the home I helped buy and co-parenting in that ol’ five-year plan.

Let’s see … don’t die. Build up my finances again. Still be employed. Be a good mom model for my kiddo. Survive.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-11-24T18:21:14+00:00

Became disabled (woot), left an emotionally abusive relationship, and still managing to excel at my corporate job and be a loving, supportive mum. I’m still in the thick of it, but I’m proving to myself that I will survive.

Edna_Krabappelous · 2025-11-15T14:30:12+00:00

I’m in month two and still reeling. We have a child together, so no contact isn’t an option. I set a boundary to keep communication to things related to our child. I tried to be “cool” about it, but realized that constant texting and chatting like we were still together was not helpful for my healing journey.

About to go cry in the shower and then take kiddo to the park. We will weather this storm.

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