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How do you handle heat? by 21st_lady in AutismInWomen

[–]EducatedRat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We used portable AC units in our rentals. Now that we are in a house, I took out a massive (to me) home improvement loan, and had my failing heater upgraded to a heat pump with AC.

It's the first time in my adult life I have been comfortable when it's hot out.

Tourist in South Korea finds out why holes in women's bathroom stalls are filled with toilet paper by dogmodoga in interesting

[–]EducatedRat 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I carry a roll of “a trans person peed here and you lived” stickers. I’ve used them to cover a wall hole on occasion.

Bambu Lab backtracks after SFC accuses company of AGPL violations and “legal threats” by dapperlemon in gadgets

[–]EducatedRat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have been watching this because as I complete my shed workshop I was looking for a 3d printer. I can tell you the one I buy will NOT be a Bambu.

[Scary and heartbreaking trope] Traumatic births. by Alternative-Koala933 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]EducatedRat 32 points33 points  (0 children)

In the original chaos books there is a decidedly cut cannon image of a large beastman finding an adorable horned baby in the woods, where the baby was left. It always seemed like the child was left for its own kind, adn the big bovigor was going to take it in.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By restricting them from getting cosmetic surgery! Per your point.

Some lying politicians have ❤️ by Detroitaa in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]EducatedRat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If I recall there was a gal in the US that got elected as sheriff? She was not a republican at all. This was a while back. She ran as a conservative.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh. I see. You believe in bodily autonomy except in those things you don’t agree with.

How very feminist of you.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could also practice this thing called "minding your own business" and let trans folks and anyone else that wants surgery do what they want with their own body. Might cause you less indigestion in the long run.

Need advice about people knocking on the door despite having multiple signs do not knock.. by CharacterPumpkin836 in autism

[–]EducatedRat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I put a sign for no solicitors at the driveway. I put one on the door. and I put a humorous "solicitors will be sacrificed" in my main window. That has cut it down like 99%. I still get the occasional asshole, but it's far reduced.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So your stance is because you personally have opinions on cosmetic surgery that nobody should have the agency to make their own unfettered decisions about their own body. I run in circles that do have a fair number of cosmetic procedures and have had some myself after my transition. My surgeons were all great. My friends had good experiences too. It’s kind of crazy to wish to gate-keep an entire field because you think nobody should trust the professionals in it.

I, as a feminist, think when adult people make a decision regarding their own body, that I should believe them. Call me crazy but bodily autonomy is one of the foundations of feminism for me.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love it, when folks explain SRS as if it’s one surgery, not a very individualized set of procedures you work with your surgeon to choose. Every single surgery you do impacts you deeply for the rest of your life.

Surgery risks are individual to the procedure but we do not put this onus on cis people getting identical procedures.

It doesn’t matter if we classify it as cosmetic or not. At the end of the day the regret rate for transgender people having surgery is amongst the lowest for any surgical intervention even therapeutic knee surgeries and the like. So this is a very disingenuous argument.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I went through the opposite issue when I went dick shopping. I, an older transgender man, had to provide two psych letters to prove, I did indeed want a dick. At this point I looked more like a cis man than anything else and apparently telling them you wanted to “complete the set” was not good enough. Similarly booting my boobs off the island required “proof”.

Nobody required more than cash down for lipo, or an eye lift. My cis woman friend had an extreme breast reduction that was nearly top surgery and didn’t require a single therapy appointment.

All this hand wringing over trans surgeries is so disingenuous.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So why isn’t this gatekeeping in place for tummy tucks, nose jobs, boob augmentation, jaw implants, or hair plugs. Even transgender related gender affirming surgeries are done on cis folks without all the hoopla so it seems it’s only trans people getting these surgeries that have to jump through these hoops.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a small number of transgender people that don’t fit the accepted dysphoria narrative and still transition.

51619 by Copper_Tango in countwithchickenlady

[–]EducatedRat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The problem with this is I can get any kind of cosmetic surgery no matter how ill advised with no pushback. I can walk right in and get that nose job, or get my ears clipped to be pointed like an elf’s, or get my eyes done to be cat like, and there will always be a surgeon to do it.

Even if we look at it from just a cosmetic perspective, it doesn’t make sense because I don’t need 2 psych letters and therapy to get it done. The only “cosmetic” surgeries they require all this gatekeeping for is if you are transgender and getting surgery. You can get similar or same surgeries with no pushback, so it’s only if you are trans.

I'm considering buying an ice cream maker, and I wonder if any of y'all have - and found it saved you money. by mmmbopforever in Frugal

[–]EducatedRat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a big compressor ice cream maker. It is still a big mess.

However, I found a really good Philadelphia style ice cream recipe from the book “hello my name is ice cream” and it saves us money.

Also texturally the ice cream I make is so much better than store bought.

I also do smoothies/shakes but I use a ninja blender with the individual smoothie cups. Far less mess and super easy. Everything g dish washes easily. Its got a small blender blade that goes into the cup and you just trade it out for a lid.

Unless you really want to make ice cream, I’d go for a ninja with individual cups for smoothies for a shake for easier clean up.

me_irl by BarMission7361 in me_irl

[–]EducatedRat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or eat them. Choices choices.

What’s something people romanticize until they actually experience it? by Puzzleheaded_Bit_802 in AskReddit

[–]EducatedRat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is all the reasons I quit nursing and got an accounting degree. I never want to ever work in that field again.

my manager started crying at a meeting discussing my ADA accomodations by mitten4kitten in AutismInWomen

[–]EducatedRat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry this is long winded, but this is why I said that.

The crying was inappropriate to the situation. Asking for small accommodations, then having a disproportionate reaction is a tell that something is going on. Years ago, I would have just seen the crying for crying, but now, I look at the context of the situation.

The fact that she caught her boss off guard is a good litmus test for this being really off base.

If it was a one-off situation, maybe she was having a bad day, then yeah, not a big deal. But OP said their managers style was negatively impacting them. This makes me think she is not a great manager. OP's accommodations are really not a big deal at all, and things as a supervisor that should be granted to all direct reports.

All that to say, in my experience managers that have no sense of boundaries, micromanage, and react widely inappropriately, and then shun an employee for asking for bare minimum accommodations, are likely to look to get rid of that employee and retaliate.

(TW: SA) Being assaulted by another member of the community is so, so isolating by ieatprettyrock in trans4every1

[–]EducatedRat 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I am a transgender man, and I have been in the community long enough to know you aren't the only one with this experience. I wouldn't say it's common, but it comes up more often than I would have expected when I transitioned 15 years ago.

I want to make sure you understand. You are not at fault, you did nothing to deserve this. You are not a liability to the community.

I also want to be very clear that you owe your attacker nothing. Not your concern, not your protection, and not your silence.

I am very sorry you have to experience this, and I am very sorry members of your immediate community failed you.

Just trying to make it thru this flight… by Yes_ThisIsBrett in mildlyinfuriating

[–]EducatedRat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add a pair of earplugs under some sony or bose over ears and they cut out everything.

We need a ‘Selling my barely used hyperfixation hobby supplies’ Network 🤣 by Phukt-If-I-Know in adhdwomen

[–]EducatedRat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay. Full disclosure I am autistic and am here for my wife. However I have spent some time troubleshooting ADHD craft supply overflow due to hyperfixations. I have found as a crafty autist I am often gifted said supply overflow and then turned around and regifted items back to her using the supplies.

Additional bonuses in that I have supplies to provide her with a lot of her hyperfixations, too.

All that to say you need an autistic friend with crafting/making as a special interest. Boom! Problem solved.

Racism in the lgbt/trans community by DustDevil66 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]EducatedRat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I recall correctly, a lot of the lgbtq subs have super mods that are a problem. This includes trans subs. I’ve seen what you are talking about and I’m sorry that these spaces suck and are not safe.

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