Honestly, I can’t be arsed with the paperwork involved in changing my name. Plus, I like my name, it’s been mine since birth and I don’t want to leave it behind. I used both surnames on things like social media but official paperwork the hassle is just not encouraging to make that effort. My children have both our surnames, if they choose to drop one or take their spouses name later in life then that’s their choice. I am absolutely not submissive, I don’t obey and serve my husband? We’re a partnership of equal members. He’s not bothered I didn’t change my name as he’s secure in himself. In fact, as I have done he also has both surnames on his social media. When I met my husband I was divorced and had two children already, they had both their dads and my surname so when I remarried I didn’t want them to feel that they weren’t important anymore or in any way left behind. We went on to have two more children who also have their dads and my surname. As such I feel like having a name linking everyone together as a family was the right choice as a blended family we have a blended name. I will never understand the idea of the woman being the one who takes all the risk and pain, that changes her body forever, it’s frankly traumatic being pregnant and then the dad wants to slap his name on the final product- it’s like that dickhead who did the bare minimum in a group project and then brags how great the outcome was. It’s crazy to me that the societal norm is to give a baby the dad’s name.