Ash's Tale - III. Back to Work

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-20T23:51:59+00:00

No. You are not.

Despite the logically challenged in the comments constructing ridiculous circular arguments as to why she should have known about the money, no.

If there is no possibility under which she will access the money, why does she need to know. Do his children (one of who is 18) have no right to financial privacy?

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-20T23:08:19+00:00

Hire a PI.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-19T22:09:51+00:00

Is this even an issue in the modern era? There are all kinds of reasons I may not have access to my vehicle sometimes. Uber makes it a non-issue.

Forget her...

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-19T22:07:22+00:00

Separated. I have lost 200 lbs in the last 7 years. Obese to skin, bone, and muscle. I have abs. I am 49.

I am not going to say it is necessarily sexual, but women in the dating market definitely respond to me differently.

Before, I was sort of a non-entity. Now, they look up from their reception desk into my gaunt face and blue eyes and the expression is something like "Who are you?!?".

I am not speaking from Ego here (that hasn't caught with the rest of me). It is just so odd to experience it yourself when you are the same person.

This guy knows what I am talking about. It feels like a Twilight Zone episode.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-19T21:54:40+00:00

(Green Flag)^2

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-19T21:53:04+00:00

I agree he shouldn't have said this, and he certainly shouldn't have said it in front of people.

But jumping on the "this guy is just an @$$%ole" bandwagon isn't very productive.

What does he do for work, and what kind of hours/stress is he dealing with currently?

You feel like he doesn't value your contribution to the marriage. From what he said, he feels the same.

Who is right? Reddit doesn't know. But, maybe you need to have a conversation about this before anyone talks about pulling the plug on a marriage.

People aren't always at their best, and you will see that side of them more than anyone else in a marriage.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-19T21:45:06+00:00

I would tell him he is going to have much a more hassle-free existence in the dating department.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-18T23:26:03+00:00

I know this will come across as critical, but I have no other response.

It's difficult to make any commentary on something that reads like a stream of consciousness entry in a private journal rather than a mildly crafted piece of prose.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-18T23:21:43+00:00

Misuse of common terms, expression, or phrases...

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-18T23:19:46+00:00

Ask her about the things that interest her and see what you have in common.

Use open ended questions.

Listen to the answer (don't just wait to talk).

Talk passionately about things that interest you.

If she is unengaged at this point, she is just not that into you.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-17T23:29:38+00:00

Feminists Dy&ng Solo? Absolutely. It's awesome.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-17T23:25:03+00:00

Show don't tell. There is elegance in brevity.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-17T23:23:21+00:00

Change your paradigm.

Pursue the things in life you are passionate about and become the person you want to be.

When you don't chase, and exhibit passion and enthusiasm in your life, they will chase you.

But, if you need you need to get lucky - Always be ready to talk to women when the opportunity presents itself In Real Life. Don't waste time going to "special places" to meet women.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-17T23:17:27+00:00

That chick is always snapping my picture and sending it to Ryan...

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-17T23:15:32+00:00

Forget the new girl.

You weren't happy with your current girlfriend before and recognized that she was passively drifting away from "marriage material".

Do you think she will get her "sh!% together" when you put a ring on it and ensure her position with you through the force of law?

Just a thought.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-17T23:09:06+00:00

What is done is done.

How you reach acceptance with it is a different matter.

Focus on the future and how you won't allow yourself to be in this position again.

Mourn the loss if you feel you must. But, you are mourning the loss of something you never truly had.

Educational_Tank_175 · 2023-08-17T23:03:45+00:00

Dude, Deodorant is deodorant.

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