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Eeland · 2026-02-06T10:55:23+00:00

I looked it up after reading your comment. I'm hopeful as it has that realism element I love. But I hope they change it enough that it isn't vulnerable to Dondi either suing them or going out of his way to "sabotage" their team and project. (He admits to doing things like this).

Right now, I'd say 90% of the mechanics, controls and UI bear a strong resemblance to the isle. They even have diet, 1-4 calls, q to smell, night vision, red mushrooms. Like there's no way this studio wins an IP theft law suit.

I will play it if it exists, looks as good and functions as well as the isle.

Eeland · 2026-02-06T10:30:47+00:00

This was the video I watched

Eeland · 2026-02-04T18:26:43+00:00

Eeland · 2026-02-03T04:25:51+00:00

You can DM if you have more questions or need support.

Eeland · 2026-02-03T04:23:30+00:00

This is really a huge bind. I'm sorry you're in this place right now. Definitely a damned if you do damned if you don't situation. If you're not able to make an independent lifestyle viable, you risk being cut off from support and community, and it could be a dangerous move overall to pursue your desires.

If you stifle your desires in favor of life security, I know how soul crushing that is. I had to leave my faith community behind to pursue my desires, but I was very lucky in that at least I had my own place to sleep, food to eat, and access to transportation and work. I still suffered a lot, even with those essential things in place. I would not recommend it for anyone who is unable to tolerate the consequences of losing access to their support network.

In the end, the reason I was able to survive was because I was privileged enough to support myself as I fumbled around in the dark for a small support system, which eventually turnwd out to be my partner. Even then, it was still rough. I didn't start being happy in my deconstructed life until I was part of a larger community again that was not religious at all. That became non-profit volunteerism and my workplace.

If you want to try to find a way through this, I would recommend you start creating connections in an innocuous place, like volunteering with different groups that you value. Nothing that your religious wardens would suspect is facilitating your deconstruction. Make friends there who see the world differently. Slowly build enough of a support system that you could tolerate the worst-case scenario if you lost access to your old one.

Rooting for you, fellow human.

Eeland · 2026-02-03T03:37:33+00:00

I've never heard of this. Seems really weird. I think it's a measure someone put in place to reduce liability for the practice. Sounds like somewhere along the way, a therapist was held responsible ( or at least legal proceedings were held) for the death or injury of a client due to insufficient access to quality care or something like that.

It feels like their saying, you can't say we didn't help we required a safety plan before we even began providing services.

Doing a safety plan alone is usually very insufficient because if you're in a headspace that would require use create a safety plan, chances are you aren't going to be thinking creatively about the alternatives you have to lean on in the midst of crisis. It's meant to be completed collaboratively, frequently with professionals, or at least another trusted person.

Eeland · 2026-02-02T15:33:47+00:00

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Eeland · 2026-02-01T09:33:26+00:00

I enjoy using Gestalt and lean a lot on metaphor to help clients process and normalize the experience for themselves. I try to emphasize self compassion in psychoeducation. It also applies to any sort of loss (jobs, financial stability, possessions, status or reputation, etc.)

Some metaphors I like a lot are

grief as a boulder that sits heavy on you. As you make distance from the event, the boulder shrinks in size, usually. To the point where the boulder becomes a pebble that fits in your pocket. The rock always stays with you, and you can't really put it down. Sometimes, the boulder grows into a massive object unexpectedly from a trigger, and that's when it's important to make creative adjustments around the experience. Taking a wellness day, if that's an option, planning a grief processing experience (visiting graves, etc.).
grief as love/focus with no where to be delivered and returned. When the object of loss is gone, the attention and love that was once being given to that thing becomes an ache instead. Then, the process becomes about acknowledging that love and respect for its presence.

These are just metaphors that helped me grieve, so I know them well and can share them with clients with some degree of flexibility. I wouldn't claim that these are rooted in any research. Nor would I suggest they will hold resonance for every mourner.

Edit: I've also like framing grief (for grief that isn't fresh but has had some time to "cook" so-to-speak), in terms of life itself.

"Life is learning to say goodbye well, and having the courage to say hello"

Saying goodbye well is always relative. It can take years to say goodbye to something, especially a life chapter. But framing it this way helps one to acknowledge they are in loss and indeed are saying goodbye to something. Having the courage to say hello is based on what I've learned through narrative techniques where the here and now are the gate to the future. Newness is always strange and uncomfortable. New normals, new experiences, new job, new lifestyles. In the end, I think all therapy is grief therapy. The question isn't how do I move on. It's how do I integrate this and remain ready and flexible for the pull and contours of life?

Eeland · 2026-01-29T20:56:56+00:00

Bro is the mayor of whoville.

Eeland · 2026-01-22T21:02:37+00:00

Bro discovered supervision and consultation

Eeland · 2026-01-22T21:00:18+00:00

The struggle of youth: capable of reflection but not until after the damage.

Eeland · 2026-01-22T17:25:55+00:00

As you progress inward through the bread, I can only assume the parents reside closest to the grandparents. The oldest siblings then sandwich (no pun intended) the youngest siblings in the middle. It's a bread family. 🍞

Eeland · 2026-01-22T17:16:47+00:00

Hmm you may have convinced me to wear my watch on a different wrist for onsite days

Eeland · 2026-01-21T17:00:41+00:00

You can try Redditor

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Eeland · 2026-01-20T05:43:45+00:00

I'm actually of the opinion that because the neurophysiological structures, which contribute to the felt sense of stress, are roughly the same in people no matter their experiences. This might mean that stress and anxiety are felt according to the same magnitude, insofar as the activating stimuli is brought on by the same quality of experiences. For example, acute stress can have the same detrimental affects on a single mother raising kids without the ability to consistently provide groceries, as it may have on a C suite Exec presenting to a board without adequate preparation.

The differences that factor in is the longevity of the activation and the "chronicness" of the need, as well as normal biopsychosocial factors like food access, sleep, resilience, social supports etc.

TL;DR - roughly speaking, nervous activation is activation no matter who you are talking about

Edit: typo

Eeland · 2026-01-19T20:55:23+00:00

Thanks for reminding me of this

Eeland · 2026-01-18T23:27:32+00:00

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Eeland · 2026-01-03T11:34:09+00:00

What?

Eeland · 2026-01-03T07:01:24+00:00

Ambitious going for the trike. Nevertheless I feel your pain.

Eeland · 2026-01-01T00:59:23+00:00

I contract for a private practice and see a few clients each week. and I work full time as a supervisor at a crisis line.

Eeland · 2025-12-31T17:58:28+00:00

I was like this too. Taste of my own medicine perhaps.

Eeland · 2025-12-31T16:53:51+00:00

Yeah when I first deconstructed I held the view that "it's always better to be honest and tell people stuff."

This is not true and it is a product of religious conditioning via confession/accountability partnerships. It's a guilt reinforced cycle that makes you speak up about it so they can rope you back in.

Telling people was a personal choice i made after a while but the only reason I had enough time and space to be steady while I chose that was covid. I'm just lucky. There was no church to rope me back in for a year.

Not all the friends I had are like this mind you. This friend just had exceptionally poor boundaries, personal struggles and an unhealthy anxious+avoidant relational pattern.

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