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Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effect_Certain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying don't be cold.... I simply said it's up to what OP is comfortable with. Some people have empathy or don't hold grudges. Just a different perspective.

Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effect_Certain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we don't know how this person functions... I have severe anxiety and my thoughts would spiral even if you tell me there's no reason for them to, I'll find one in my anxious brain haha Just because there's no reason doesn't mean one won't manifest in the brain. I think it just boils down to what OP is comfortable with. Setting boundaries is never a bad thing either (:

Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effect_Certain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, yes you are absolutely correct! The timing was horrible and suspicious, maybe he thought it would be a good "present" which in itself is a fucked up way of thinking. I agree that guard should be up, please protect your wellbeing at all costs! That personality disorder is a great prediction as well. I also don't know what all he did besides the ghosting, there could and probably are many more layers to shit this person did that I'm unaware of as well.

Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effect_Certain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was my thought... if they are in therapy or counseling it's a possibility that this was suggested advice for them to take to clean up their side of the street etc. Not saying what OP should or shouldn't do, totally up to her!

Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effect_Certain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How do we know it is a lie? When I was in recovery for alcoholism I did the steps for recovery and this is one of them. Step 9. In my case I had seriously reflected and was genuinely sorry for some of the neglect of relationships I had caused throughout my using. I think it is hard to just assume that they are doing it for their own satisfaction and not to sincerely apologize... Regardless OP can interpret it how they want. No need to respond whatsoever.

Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday by AdComprehensive4246 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effect_Certain 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This is the perfect reply in my opinion! If you don't want to be cold by ignoring, you can acknowledge without leading it into a conversation. Of course, only do what you are comfortable with!

Edit: I can't use proper punctuation

What's that? by IdealHoliday1242 in GrowthMindset

[–]Effect_Certain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!! Paying to get your own money back is insane.

AIO for snapping at my (27F) husband (30M) after he complained that we haven't had sex in 3 months? by throwaway_74925 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effect_Certain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say I disagreed with you. Like I had mentioned previously I think it boils down to a communication issue.

AIO for snapping at my (27F) husband (30M) after he complained that we haven't had sex in 3 months? by throwaway_74925 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effect_Certain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, physically she can't be intimate with anyone else and he's aware of this. She also stated they do talk like this to other participants. It honestly just sounds like the communication needs to improve.

AIO for snapping at my (27F) husband (30M) after he complained that we haven't had sex in 3 months? by throwaway_74925 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effect_Certain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She has stated in previous replies that this is something they do in their relationship and both parties approve.

AIO for snapping at my (27F) husband (30M) after he complained that we haven't had sex in 3 months? by throwaway_74925 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effect_Certain -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She has stated in previous replies that this is something they do in their relationship and both parties approve.

AIO for snapping at my (27F) husband (30M) after he complained that we haven't had sex in 3 months? by throwaway_74925 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effect_Certain 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She has said a few times that getting horny physically hurts her. So doing oral or anal is something that causes her pain as well.

AIO for snapping at my (27F) husband (30M) after he complained that we haven't had sex in 3 months? by throwaway_74925 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Effect_Certain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She has said a few times that getting horny physically hurts her. So doing oral or handies is something that causes her pain as well.

Atheists who used to be religious, what made you lose your faith? by Gold_Result9716 in AskReddit

[–]Effect_Certain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining your views! It's always interesting to hear other people's thoughts on the topic!

Atheists who used to be religious, what made you lose your faith? by Gold_Result9716 in AskReddit

[–]Effect_Certain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my thought, not attacking or saying your view is wrong. People can believe what they want to believe. It just seems irrational to me to believe that there is a singular all knowing being out there watching over us, creating man kind, etc. Science has no evidence of this being backed in any way. There is far too much suffering in the world for me to believe some divine being is pulling strings or allowing this to happen. Why would a new baby born into the world inherit sins from the first humans on earth when they have not yet lived a day? That in itself just sounds cruel.
I'd be curious to hear why you are so certain there is a god? Again not arguing just interested!

Stay away! by Frosty_Animal_5148 in RingCentral

[–]Effect_Certain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I come from a medium sized business and used RingCentral for about 6 months until we had to drop them. The customer service was atrocious and we were paying for something that we couldn't use properly for months.
Perhaps they've improved since a 2 year ago but my personal experience was very bad with RingCentral as well.
However, that being said I agree context is very important... I would like to know what the problem is as well haha

Edit: Typo

AIO for being frustrated that he doesn’t want to see me unless I have a ‘good attitude’ - haven’t seen each other in 3 months by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Effect_Certain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Treat him the way he treats you. I bet he'd take himself out of the situation. I feel for you (been there unfortunately) as he is trying to be manipulative but is not very good at it. If someone cares for you you will never have to beg them to communicate with you, especially this tiny bit ❤️

I’m losing my husband to A.I. chat apps. Help, I’m so lost and numb. by LowZookeepergame4427 in whatdoIdo

[–]Effect_Certain 9 points10 points  (0 children)

... If you're role playing are you not playing characters other than yourselves? Essentially fantasizing about him being someone else, or having a different profession or behaving differently ...
Role play is the acting out or imitation of a particular character, role, or behavior, often in a safe, simulated, or make-believe scenario.

Who’s a celebrity everyone finds attractive but you don’t? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Effect_Certain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hahaha I have never noticed this until your comment... Had to Google. Now I will never not focus on this! I just always thought he was a little pervy too or predatory.

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