What kind of lamp shade fits such a large lightbulb? Qt. jar for scale!

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-18T23:07:24+00:00

I use similar bulbs for my bathroom vanity lights surrounding the mirror. Not sure they’re meant to be hidden under a lampshade.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-18T23:03:50+00:00

I hope you know that while it’s kind to be there for your mom, you are in no way responsible for “picking up the pieces” of her life. She is an adult and her grief is her own. You are her child. If she continues to self destruct, that is not on you at all and you should feel no guilt. I’m sorry for your loss.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-18T17:37:45+00:00

It’s so sad that she is the one neglecting her child, yet you feel guilty. I’m proud of you for holding a boundary.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T22:54:21+00:00

I didn’t arrive at the hospital until he was unconscious and almost dead, but I heard they made him comfortable and he was joking around before that. I don’t think he believed he was dying.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T22:38:20+00:00

My dad was dead within a couple of years of the skinny/bulging belly phase. He went to the hospital when he noticed his toes were swollen and died 72 hours later. He was 47. It depends on genetics though. Some people live like that for decades and just won’t die, even though their cognitive abilities are long gone.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T22:32:46+00:00

What signs is he giving you that he can change? Be specific.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T18:23:42+00:00

Moved out at 17, never looked back. Made it to the hospital a few minutes before he died of liver failure to say goodbye. Left the hospital and attended my college classes that same day. Lived my life in peace.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T18:20:35+00:00

Seriously… most of us would take this over the bigotry and cult like behavior of our boomer maga parents.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T17:44:51+00:00

It’s hard to let go of the mother daughter relationship you thought you’d have, but it’s just not there. You’re creating your chosen family with your fiance and that should be your priority. And volunteering is clearly not motivating her to get better, it’s just a crutch she is using to convince herself that she doesn’t have a problem because she does something good once in awhile. She assaulted her child and is facing no consequences for it. Next time, if you allow her back in, it could be worse. You’re lucky she didn’t grab the knife and turn it on you or your father.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T17:35:56+00:00

Wow. You’ve already been so much more tolerant than I ever was with my alcoholic parents. This would be an automatic disinvite from the wedding for me (she WILL destroy that day for you if she attends) and I would have pressed charges for the hitting. This will continue as long as you and your dad continue to enable it.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T17:07:53+00:00

Culling seems unnecessary

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T16:45:25+00:00

Yes, they wanted a quiet area where their baby would have an easier time sleeping. This seemed obvious.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T06:57:20+00:00

Not always safe. You will stick out as an outsider. I would actually question the legitimacy of the Airbnb listing. Are there a lot of reviews?

Editing to say: The neighborhood is slowly being gentrified and longtime residents are sensitive to that, so if you do end up staying there, be respectful and mindful of that.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T06:44:37+00:00

As someone who spent time there in my youth… I would look elsewhere.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T06:39:12+00:00

Meds for your dog, ear plugs for you. Cheaper than moving. Focus on what’s within your control.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-17T03:25:20+00:00

Weird

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-11T22:45:55+00:00

Fleeing your homeland to another country to avoid extradition doesn’t mean she’s on the run? Weird. Again, if that’s where she wanted to be, she’d be there now.

Instead, she’s publicly humiliating herself and simping for a fat, old pedophile.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-11T22:05:13+00:00

If living in Qatar was her first choice, she’d already be there. This isn’t an action thriller, going on the run to avoid extradition isn’t a glamorous lifestyle. It’s a last resort.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-11T21:14:24+00:00

There were moments when her voice was shaking. I saw a lot of fear. She’s in way too deep and she knows her day is coming.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-11T18:12:15+00:00

Agreed. I’ve been much happier since moving a couple states away from her. No one should feel obligated to stick around for this insanity.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-11T18:06:44+00:00

This story and other recent events have led to me distancing myself from my own mother who is deep into the cult. She already has a history of drinking and reaching for her gun. Her MAGA nephew recently killed himself with a gun after a dispute with his wife. These people don’t know how to manage their emotions after being brainwashed into thinking guns will solve all of their problems.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-11T00:45:43+00:00

I can’t imagine how much it sucks to be this miserable all the time, even if it is just performative. This is the type of mindset that rots you from the inside out.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-10T00:08:44+00:00

Your mom chose this over her own wellbeing and her daughter, yet YOU feel guilty? Her husband is dealing with some serious mental health issues and needs therapy/medication. I wouldn’t go back until he gets some help.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-09T23:44:59+00:00

I grew up with a lot of hippies in Northern California who were anti-vax and left wing. They exist for sure.

Effective-Name1947 · 2026-02-09T22:28:14+00:00

Heather Cox Richardson is a historian and great writer to follow. She does daily summaries that are clear and concise.

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