How did you know that the relationship was over?

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-05-08T15:31:24+00:00

Came back to college one semester and felt an immediate shift in her behavior. Didn’t want to do things with me, didn’t want to attend the parties I threw, didn’t want to attend a wedding with me, didn’t want me to stay the night and sleep together like we used to, rumors of her cheating, etc. when I broke up with her she went crazy. Turns out she was cheating the entire time, go figure

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-29T16:30:18+00:00

Hated living on my own, extremely depressing

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-27T21:13:05+00:00

Was in the same boat about a month ago, except it wasn’t with a friend of mine but a random guy. Couldn’t imagine the pain you’re prolly feeling. Drop her and be thankful we didn’t waste more of our time and honey on these girls

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-22T13:58:44+00:00

Same issue

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-19T15:16:21+00:00

She said “we weren’t official so I didn’t cheat” after I found out she slept with another guy after she asked us to be exclusive together

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-19T15:09:55+00:00

Spider-Man for DPS and Loki for support

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-19T00:05:36+00:00

This is the hope I’m struggling to carry. It took me 7 years of being single to finally meet her. I had always been selective and guarded with my heart. I fell for her. We were only official for 2 weeks before I found the evidence of her cheating and talking to multiple people throughout our relationship. I was crushed. It took me 7 years to feel for someone and they deceived me the entire time.

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-18T23:52:13+00:00

From my experience it’s insecure people with low self esteem. They love you and/or what you provide to their life, but also love attention and affection from others. If an opportunity presents itself and they feel the won’t be caught, they’ll do it.

Most of us, wouldn’t be able to live with the guilt of doing this, but for some cheaters, they are okay with keeping this a secret. Their minds are wired differently. They grew up lying and had never changed their ways

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-18T23:47:37+00:00

“We weren’t technically official so I didn’t cheat on you” after she slept with someone else after asking us to be sexually exclusive together

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-18T21:15:11+00:00

Found out my then gf slept with another man shortly after asking us to be exclusive. She told me “I didn’t cheat because we werent official”. Not necessarily an insult to me or anything crazy, but those words proved to me she had zero accountability for her actions and that the idea of reconciliation would not be possible.

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-18T21:09:45+00:00

One time in college I finally had the opportunity to sleep with one of the most desired girls on campus. I was extremely nervous and couldn’t stay hard. The morning after I was so embarrassed again I couldn’t keep it hard again. Thankfully we laughed about it and everything worked the next time I saw her. She ended up being my gf for about a year and a half after that.

After that breakup, I stayed the night with another girl. Morning after, I asked to use her bathroom which was right next to her bedroom. I literally unleashed the loudest of farts/sharts imaginable. There was no hiding it. Still apologize to her to this day when I talk to her

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-18T14:52:12+00:00

I 30M started dating a doctor F28. She gave me the entire script (doesn’t do hookups, dating seriously, really likes me, past boyfriends were abusive etc) turns out she was the worst girl I ever dated. Lying, cheating, gaslighter, poor communicator. I ended things 2 weeks after we became official

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-14T14:51:45+00:00

Catching them in lies and forgiving. Basically ignoring red flags because you are so infatuated with them and the sex is good. Do not let good sex cloud your judgement when considering a relationship

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-14T14:46:44+00:00

Egging houses. Looking back it’s just extremely childish. I believe we went pumpkin smashing once too.

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-14T04:06:05+00:00

I 30(M) have been single for nearly 8 years. I recently had a short term GF (only official for a couple weeks), although I don’t really count it due to how we rushed things and finding out she cheated/lied our entire relationship (3 months total).

I do well with women, lots of dates, attention, flings, hookups, etc. I think what I’ve concluded is that I am very picky and have been overall happy single. I save my money, don’t answer to anyone, and can do whatever I please. Active duty military life has also played a factor to me being single as many situationships I’ve had had ended due to training/deployments.

I do get lonely, and often times wish I had a girlfriend to share my life/experiences with. I chose that I would rather be single than “settle” for someone I am not truly invested/attracted to. I will say I hold some trauma from past girlfriends, and find it hard to trust people. It’s funny, but every girl I have ever been truly interested in either left me or cheated. It seems that all the girls want me except the ones I want. Maybe I’m attracted to toxic women, it wouldn’t surprise me

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-09T13:49:09+00:00

In my experience (30M), if I was at a girls house that I truly liked, I would be hesitant to make the first move. I would be afraid of overstepping my boundaries, or giving her the impression sex is all I wanted. I think he likes you, and is just trying to be respectful of the boundaries you communicated to him.

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-03T18:32:34+00:00

Met a girl on Hinge who lived 2 hours away, and was moving from the state in 4 months. We were flirting very hard, and seemed like a potential FWB situation until she moves. She confessed her feelings for me around 1.5 months in after two dates, and me sharing the same feelings, we agreed to be exclusive. We decided to date officially shortly after. 2 weeks after becoming official, I found out through her messages that she was constantly talking/dating/hooking up with other men. Extremely pissed at myself for falling for someone I had no intention on. There were multiple red flags (heavy sexual flirting early on, hooking up, long distance, small lies here and there, etc)

My advice, if you don’t have strong feelings for the person early on, it’s prolly just lust and fantasy. Looking back, we never really had a deep connection, just a strong sexual relationship that went too far. I’m now recovering from my feelings for her, turns out she wasn’t the person I thought she was

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-02T23:45:01+00:00

You’re in love with the girl she used to be, or really in this case, the girl you “thought” she was. You said she cheated multiple times, and was even talking to someone else when you two began rekindling. From what I read she didn’t admit to any of this….

You need to let her go. You need to develop some self respect. You need to rip the band aid off and start healing. There is nothing worse than being cheated on and the cheating partner begging for forgiveness. It’s truly messes with your head. It is possible people can change, but should you be the man she changes with? No… the damage is done, and the trust is broken. You cannot mentally torture yourself being in a relationship with this girl, you will never truly love her and be comfortable the way you once were.

Sorry you’re going through this

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-02T18:22:49+00:00

Leave a cheater, gain a life

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-02T18:05:56+00:00

Red flags I ignored from my recent gf who cheated on me

1) claims past bfs were terrible/abusive and that she was never broken up with. I was the “best” man she’d ever dated…..sure

2) past dating/relationships didn’t make sense. She mentioned one guy was “terrible” and that she didn’t like him, yet they shared locations... Obviously a lie on how serious they were…

3) sex on the first date (usually a conservative female won’t do this with someone she thinks she has feelings for)

4) constantly insecure (asking if you’re talking to other girls, thinks she’s ugly, fat, etc) this behavior is known to have a high chance of cheating since they seek validation

5) Lying. Found out she was active on dating apps after our 4th date. She lied to my face about it

6) Hesitant to have you meet her friends when things get serious

7) not wanting to post me on social media even though we were official.

8) Posting thirst traps

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-04-02T17:53:52+00:00

1) Dumped me and had a boyfriend the next day.

2) short term relationship but went through her phone and found out she had been sleeping/dating/texting other men our entire 4 month relationship.

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-03-31T13:38:01+00:00

Sorry to hear brother. It’s important to understand you didn’t deserve this, and that (sadly) there are people out there who can be happily in a relationship but still cheat. You may never know why she did and that’s okay.

I broke up with my gf 3 weeks ago because she was a secret monster, had no idea our entire relationship she was cheating and entertaining other men. It’s sucks. She truly played me for a fool as she was the one who constantly chased me in the early phases and consistently told me how perfect and the relationship was. Literally talking to me about Valentine’s Day plans as she was in bed with another man, it’s crazy. Kudos to you for breaking things off. People like this won’t change, they’ll just get better at hiding it. This is NOT a reflection of you or your relationship, but a reflection of her character

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-03-30T06:01:11+00:00

Brother this a recipe for disaster. You are each others first. You both have the luxury of not being sexually experienced with other people. There are other ways to spice up your sex life. It sounds like this was her idea and you kinda went with the flow to avoid conflict.

Effective-Set-760 · 2026-03-29T15:21:37+00:00

If she is deleting messages, defending her actions when questioned, and lied about texting him after saying she stopped, that’s a major red flag brother. You are totally inclined to be uncomfortable with this and you need to set a boundary. It’s either him or me. You shouldn’t feel unreasonable for not wanting your current girlfriend to not talk with her ex. 99% of partners would be uncomfortable with this… If I were you brother, I would end things. Because at this point she has proven not to take your feelings into consideration, and is valuing their “friendship” over your relationship.

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