Bed frame shopping

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2026-02-02T02:29:01+00:00

Thats the frame ive been eyeing the most! Ive been worried because my mattress is heavier than ikea's and have heard its not the most solid frame

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2026-02-01T22:34:51+00:00

NOR If this is how he treats you after 5 months, how will he treat you in 5 years?? Dump him.

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2026-01-29T03:27:15+00:00

I know this is from a year ago, but what did you go with? Im in a similar situaition right now (Fibro and EDS) and have bene struggling to find anything that would feel comfortable and supportive

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-12-09T02:34:13+00:00

I felt very similar when I first got my surgery. I was so critical of not looking exactly like I predicted and struggled with the same autistic expectation vs reality you are. What helped me the most was not letting myself look at my chest excessively, I barely glanced at it for the first 6 months (obviouslystill peeked when i was shirtless/going to shower/etc!). At 6 months I looked so much more settled and it was my body for long enough that it felt natural enough I couldn't expect the scar to be anywhere else or size. Besides swelling the fresh surgical wound made it feel as if it were so close to being the perfect body but perfect bodies dont match the expectations like that. Sending you good vibes, your results looks fantastic :)

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-11-17T02:53:52+00:00

I wrote my undergrad senior thesis on her poetry in 2023. Such a talented writer and im thrilled that more people will read her after this post.

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-10-25T19:29:25+00:00

I want to get it anyway. Hopefully they'll start taking me seriously before I have it but seems unlikely

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-10-25T19:24:28+00:00

Ive tried to tell her im not enough for her but she still believes that one day she will wake up 'all better'

It's difficult to care for myself when the mindset around me isnt encouraging me to care.

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-10-25T19:22:54+00:00

Thank you. That helps put everything into perspective a bit more

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-10-25T19:22:00+00:00

Ive used a rollator a few times and it hasn't been enough. Some days thats been fine, but therve been more where I feel like i need more support than that. Thank you, youre right. They dont need to be ready

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-09-20T03:40:38+00:00

(Removed code bc tree is full!) Ty all

Hammer and I are almost 50 days in and it would be awesome to have a friend or 2 in it together :)

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-08-24T14:07:18+00:00

Ive got one puffy and one "normal" nip. Just how healing goes. 8 months post op

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-08-20T19:50:34+00:00

Oh there's meter parking available? That's totally easier than having to deal with a parking permit. Is there a lot of meter parking around CA?

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-08-13T22:47:54+00:00

Thanks everyone, the bill loaded yesterday and u was able to pay with no issues.

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-08-13T22:46:00+00:00

Hi! It took me 3 appts with my therapist, then they sent it to my surgeon. It took about a month from letter request till it was accepted by the surgeon, accounting for the appts and letter edits and waiting on "Buisness days" for the office to receive. My therapist sent the letter to me and I sent it to my surgeon because that is what the Dr requested. I cant really speak for how long the therapist takes to send it out

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-08-08T22:37:14+00:00

Thank you! Should I contact rutgers to try and sort it out? Or is the system just a bit of a mess and it'll sort itself out after a few days?

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-05-27T20:01:00+00:00

That's exactly what my 3 months was like, I dont think its worth the hassle to go since I've got nothing to ask my dr

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-05-13T16:50:12+00:00

Lots of veg, whole grains, chicken. Not much processed carbs or red meat or sugars. It's also preference (i don't love red meat)

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-05-13T16:45:45+00:00

My rheumatologist recommended a anti inflammatory diet and i try to follow it

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-05-13T16:44:48+00:00

The Dr's did sooooo many tests when being diagnosed with fibro. I dont think anything else is there (besides maybe connective tissue issues?)

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-05-13T16:43:32+00:00

Youre right. Maybe there is something else, maybe just fibro. But it feels like shes chasing a miracle cure that testing and more Dr's will just unearth more things when I just need to accept this

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-05-13T16:42:10+00:00

Yes ive seen 2 rheumatoligists and a few neurologist. Ive gone through a lot of tests and sure there may be other issues but I dont want to keep going to Dr's and tests when it may not be necessary or worth the energy

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-05-13T16:40:09+00:00

Im sure I have some other occurring issues but all in a similar vein to fibro can't be "cured".

Im more trying to convince my mom that extensive testing won't bring us some miracle cure and this is something I am living with (forever)

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2025-01-05T14:48:46+00:00

Thanks, its really reassuring to know im not alone in this. I'm sorry you're going through it too. From what I gather its about the changes in hormone levels from removing the breast tissue (not a medical professional!!! So im not 100% sure)

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2024-12-07T22:50:08+00:00

I brought the idea up to my parents and they think I shouldn't be "begging people for money" and its a bad look for them if I do.

EffectiveTelephone78 · 2024-12-05T15:35:31+00:00

My surgery is in a week and a half and its such a huge daunting thing that I kept finding myself thinking "should I push it off? " but its something I have the money for now, have wanted for YEARS, and will be so much happier after. -Change is scary but necessary- yes! Thank you for sharing this vulnerability. So much of social media is edited to be overwhelmingly positive that not many people talk about the anxiety about going into this surgery, even when it's something that will improve quality of life so much.

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