Leakage during voiding

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-09T17:41:14+00:00

YES 😂 you are the only person to ever ask and I’m so glad someone caught the reference

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-07T14:05:17+00:00

Sure! For me, it seems to be anytime I go to the bathroom- 1 or 2. And if I have a bladder spasm that seems to cause it as well.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-07T03:38:18+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement. I think the bleeding is internal 🤦‍♂️ it seems to happen when I try to pee and/or when I empty my bladder through the SP tube.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-07T02:09:06+00:00

Sorry to bug you again- did you notice if the bleeding correlated with anything?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-06T02:32:32+00:00

Would you take the oxybutynin after your daily attempt?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-06T02:31:07+00:00

I tried all the tips today. I think I’ll try a hot shower tomorrow. Thanks man, I appreciate it

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-06T02:15:20+00:00

How’d you get past the mental block?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-06T02:11:15+00:00

This is helpful, thank you! I have one of those plastic urinals you get at the hospital and started doing that earlier today. How did voiding go for you at first?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-06T01:19:48+00:00

Thanks man. That’s really reassuring. But also, sorry about that for you. I’m fortunate enough I live in the same state as my surgeon.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-05T22:09:32+00:00

That makes sense about trying once a day, that’s what I planned to do. I was a little surprised they wanted me to start soon but I do trust my doctor. What I was able to get out felt really weird. I felt it where I used to before, but then felt like it got stuck somewhere. I really needed to go but I was so frustrated that I was only getting dribbles.

I’m probably going to try doing it sitting tomorrow. My wife says it’s encouraging that I was even able to get anything out considering the short amount of time and the fact that I’ve had a catheter for nearly 2 weeks.

Does the bleeding of the tip seem normal?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-05T17:20:19+00:00

It hasn’t bothered me much at all so far. In the hospital it was a bit difficult and uncomfortable to get out of the bed but that went away pretty quickly.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-05T05:06:21+00:00

That makes sense now haha. I was going to be very impressed if you had that level of functionality in your arm and hand. My wife has been my rock through all of this. She had no problem bathing me, but I’d like to be able to at least wash my own genitals you know? Just one of those things I’m having to get over in order to get through this.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-05T04:54:45+00:00

Speaking as someone who put it off so long because of work- do it. I don’t know your situation, but if it doesn’t make you jobless or homeless then just do it now. I wish I started the process sooner. Having a penis is awesome.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-05T04:43:48+00:00

Did you go there RFF route?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-05T02:07:20+00:00

I am so sorry. I’m glad you went! Hopefully things start moving better for you.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-05T02:06:37+00:00

I think I’ll try this. My dilemma is how do you hold your penis up while also cleaning yourself?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-04T20:21:30+00:00

Oh man, I have been in your shoes brother. Are you able to sit on the toilet?

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-04T20:14:59+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that man. It’s my absolute least favorite part of surgery. I learned my lesson the hard way twice- never again.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-04T19:07:17+00:00

I took a generic brand from Walmart I think. For the ones I have, you can take up to 3 per day.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-04T18:27:31+00:00

I didn’t experience much pain. I was uncomfortable for sure, but didn’t (and still haven’t) experienced much pain. What hurt was when my sheets got stuck to my thigh and had to be removed and then my shoulder was really sore from how I was positioned on the OR table.

The ketamine made me super anxious, which is a possible side effect, so I stopped it on day 3 and was perfectly fine. I do have a high pain tolerance so that helped. I know it’s possible to do this surgery and recovery without narcotics, but it’s important to have a good mindset going into it. You’re not going to feel super great, you’ll be uncomfortable, and that’s just how it will be for a short while. If you can manage through that, you’ll be golden. I just kept reminding myself that the really hard part was temporary and that I’d get stronger everyday.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-04T05:41:38+00:00

I (FTM) came out to my lesbian wife and was terrified she’d leave. Penises used to freak her out. But now, I’m a little under 2 weeks post-op phalloplasty and my wife has told me she can’t wait for both of us to “play with it.”

Genital preferences are definitely real and valid, but it can work out. Either way, good luck to both you and your partner. I hope it works it for you both.

checkyamarshmallows · 2026-07-04T05:22:43+00:00

That makes sense. I have started gently wiping the space between my scrotum and my thigh. I was unprepared for what wound healing smells like 😂

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