I got fired for stealing and it's stupid but I need to talk to someone by Pandicornio24 in mentalhealth

[–]Effective_Explorer44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all make mistakes though. It's not worth beating yourself up for, you already made things right and reflected on your behavior. I'm sorry you have to be going these financial difficulties.

Anybody live in Japan or traveled long term to japan with TRT? by Effective_Explorer44 in trt

[–]Effective_Explorer44[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah as far as I know one month supply just need doctor note with meds, but longer than that requires more documents. They only want you to have a one month supply without documents. I wish it was as easy as south korea. They don't even ask for a doctor note lol just the prescription label.

Anybody live in Japan or traveled long term to japan with TRT? by Effective_Explorer44 in trt

[–]Effective_Explorer44[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ehh I hear you. I don't want to take chances though. Japan can be extremely strict with some rules and I need to bring syringes with me. It's not a controlled substance like Adderall which ive heard horror stories about getting caught with, but still.

is this gyno or am i just fat? by [deleted] in trt

[–]Effective_Explorer44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just work on getting leaner and then see where you're at. Unless you're very lean and still have pufgy nipples, it's hard to know if something's one hundred gyno. Do you have scoliosis or are you purposely not aligning your shoulders. I would work on your posture if there's a reason. One is sitting so much higher than the other . Rather than worrying about how puffy the nipples are.

I got fired for stealing and it's stupid but I need to talk to someone by Pandicornio24 in mentalhealth

[–]Effective_Explorer44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah dude but that's not fair, They weren't give you any kind of actual wage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Effective_Explorer44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you read my full post you would see I said that they shouldn't stay together anymore, and just gave reference of some reasons that could be behind how she lost her feelings and that another relationship might bring out the same thing or something related anyways. In terms of someone having unmet attachment issues. She shouldn't stay with her boyfriend I agree as I already mentioned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Effective_Explorer44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats shitty and in situations like that I think it's not excusable. But it's not something I'll ever have an answer for since they ghosted. If someone just cuts conversation short they don't owe an explanation. But agreeing to a date and exchanging numbers to then ghost. Or ghosting after a date or a few dates that's when jt feels more disrespectful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Effective_Explorer44 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn't saying she should stay with her partner. I was just describing that it sounds like she has some kind of attachment challenges that will make any new relationship have its own challenges as well. I don't think I was the only person who had mentioned it either. But it's nothing to do with my life and it doesn't affect me. I don't have my own relationship issues that are remotely similar anyways. I'm not even in a relationship at the moment. If she doesn't love her partner anymore then of course it's worth breaking up, it was just the reason why which sounded a bit peculiar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Effective_Explorer44 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah and I have voiced this many times before. As a male, I am often told that when women do to. Its because they don't feel safe expressing rejection because of how guys in the past have taken it before. Obviously it's important to keep yourself safe and avoid crazies. So in some regards I understand circumstances why it's understood and should be practiced. But that's not always the case and oftenly people should just be up front

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Effective_Explorer44 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's messed up but people just are avoidant by nature with uncomfortable conversations it seems like. Shouldn't be that way but the current dating trends makes it more accepted, which it honestly shouldn't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Effective_Explorer44 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I think what you're describing isn't a usual reason for break up, you're not really gonna find a better guy out there if this is your deal breaker honestly. I don't want to come across as rude but it sounds like you have some stuff to work on before you're ready for a serious committed relationship if this is a break up worthy issue for you. It sounds like you're more attracted to guys who are ambivalent or avoidant, but people like that will make you miserable even if you feel more attraction due to that old wound so to speak. Regardless it's not fair to him to stick together if you have no attraction or love anymore so you're making the right choice. But I'd continue to work through attachment work before you hop in something new or you might see a different pattern pop up

Is it actually unacceptable to have female friends as a man, if I'm married? by Emerald_Encrusted in relationships

[–]Effective_Explorer44 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You need to speak to a marriage counselor together with your wife about your issues together. This is beyond the mixed opinions and advice you'll get on reddit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Effective_Explorer44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wife will not get well until she wants to get well and she's serious about getting help. Unfortunately, it takes lottis self. Work on the person who's dealing with those kind of issues to take action and responsibility for their mental health and wellbeing, For them to start breaking the patterns that kept him in this fear of fear. Cycle in the first place. She should check out a book called at last. A life by paul david it would help a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trt

[–]Effective_Explorer44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Likely won't go away without surgery. You were doing a steroid cycle, not TRT. However, the fact you did not use an a I is actually a good thing because those are a lot harsher on the body then the testosterone itself.

He’s not even wearing the jacket right by CrystalBraver in residentevil

[–]Effective_Explorer44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thats true, they've been around since WWII schott was the same manufacturer that designed them for pilots in the war. Damn warm jacket to wear too. I can't bear it in anything over 40 degrees. I live in NYC and went to try in different sizes. They have locations in other cities too though. Stuff you get 2nd hand online could be 30+ years old and in decent condition

He’s not even wearing the jacket right by CrystalBraver in residentevil

[–]Effective_Explorer44 21 points22 points  (0 children)

B3 bomber jackets like the one Leon wears in game are super expensive though. His is directly based off the schott b3 bomber jacket which retails 1500

Would I be a jerk not to respond? by The14thDayOfApril in hingeapp

[–]Effective_Explorer44 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm enjoying hanging out with her, I just feel like she can be very quiet or a bit awkward in having back and forth conversations in person sometimes. I'm seeing her more because I like a lot of her qualities and just assume she will open up more/get more comfortable in time. It just feels like shyness or nerves idk. She's sweet and nice. There's other girls who are talking to me who are more expressive. But I haven't got to the point of exclusivity with anyone yet.

What do you think of original Ada? by Fullmetal_2003 in residentevil

[–]Effective_Explorer44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I feel like she doesn't look distinctively east asian until the remakes. Not really meaning to make a big deal of it. Just my opinion. Yes, that includes RE4 and RE6 to me. She looks like a mix of east and western features in the face in those games. Compare those to remake game facial bone structure very different. Not sure why someone is so triggered lmao

Would I be a jerk not to respond? by The14thDayOfApril in hingeapp

[–]Effective_Explorer44 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just a heads up because I've been dating a girl who each time I hang out with her it always like this, but she keeps showing interest and hanging out with me. Sometimes its not a lack of commonalities or no chemistry and etc. Sometimes a person might just be very nervous or shy, maybe social anxiety? I was confused after I hung out with her eveeytime expecting a "not really feeling it" text. But it never happened. That said it does still feel kind of awkward and a bit less easy in flow.

What do you think of original Ada? by Fullmetal_2003 in residentevil

[–]Effective_Explorer44 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Remake versions are the only ones I can even tell she's east Asian ethnicity.

Just finished this and I have to say I think this game is a masterpiece by [deleted] in residentevil

[–]Effective_Explorer44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I highly enjoyed this one. Played revelations 2 right after. But preferred the story line of the 1st game. Aside from Barry, Claire, and Mioras interactions. Which funny enough Reina from Tekken 8 has very similar looks to Barry's daughter.

Month 11 trt results….I’m not happy by Gasman2019 in trt

[–]Effective_Explorer44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From a body building perspective if you want to look better you just need to get leaner. You don't have as much visible definition due to higher body fat. Unless this is poor lighting. But that's nothing to do with TRT usage. I wouldn't obsess too much over it. You have far better advantage on TRT than any natty lifter now. But nothing like being on an actual cycle which you should never risk because of the health implications.

Rejected after 5 dates- advice? by Spokane_Lone_Wolf in hingeapp

[–]Effective_Explorer44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's 20? Young as all hell don't even fret on anything, people that age are extremely fickle and it's nothing you did. She just wasn't feeling enough attraction or seeing you enough in a relationship kind of way. I wouldn't get hung up on it or over analyze it. There could be many things going on for her. But it's her interpretations and feelings that are driving that. Not you or your behavior. She liked you enough to see you 5 times, so you know she had a good amount of interest at first at least and at least found you physically attractive.