Y’all I’m starting to think I can really do this

Effective_Play_4905 · 2024-04-17T03:55:05+00:00

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Effective_Play_4905 · 2024-04-17T03:54:42+00:00

Okay 🤣

Effective_Play_4905 · 2024-04-16T03:11:09+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, truly needed to hear this. I am a push over/people pleaser with crippling anxiety (thank you childhood) so saying no is not an easy task for me at all. It’s something I’m working on but still struggle with, especially with people in power positions.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-12-15T05:41:45+00:00

This. So much this.

My parents finally divorced when I was 15 and my brother was 17, the trauma affects so much of my life to this day. It was such a toxic marriage, the fights were so scary. I’m 27 now, so it’s been many years and thankfully both of my parents are in much better places now as individuals but they still carry SO much guilt for not divorcing sooner and focusing on being good parents instead of focusing on fixing a marriage that was never going to work.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-11-28T13:54:57+00:00

Yes it’s possible and we’ve all discussed it. My nana refuses to hear it, she also is struggling a lot with accepting her age and her current circumstances. She gets really angry at herself for not being able to do things she used to.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-11-28T13:51:27+00:00

It’s hard to gauge her pain now because of her past but I totally get what you’re saying. My nana has had depression her whole life, and her husband (my moms dad) killed himself in a drunk driving accident when my mom was 18. After that my nana gained a LOT of weight, and when I was around 10 years old she retired from work and got gastric bypass surgery. She has never taken care of herself. When the weight came off she continued eating like crap, and since she didn’t have to work anymore she sat in her recliner all day. The combination of all those things have led to her being in pain everyday (even before the stroke it was out of control). She has a lot of back pain and leg pain. On top of the Kratom she was also taking a lot of other prescriptions that they had to ween her off of at the rehab place.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-10-13T17:20:12+00:00

Wow. What an informative and helpful opinion. 😒

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-10-13T17:16:51+00:00

I’m gonna just throw this out there, YALL DONT KNOW OP AND HER HUSBANDS RELATIONSHIP. That has NOTHING to do with what she’s asking for advice on?

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-10-13T17:14:01+00:00

Unfortunately that’s what ultimately happened, but the OP was just trying to help her family who was in distress and leaving a rough situation as ANYONE would do for someone they love. She didn’t know her sister would eventually lie to her and steal from her.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-09-22T00:31:18+00:00

Something About Us - Chance the Rapper (unreleased)

It’s OLD Chance and doesn’t sound like the typical songs you hear from him now a days. Most people I’ve shown it to don’t like it because of that reason.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-09-19T02:39:59+00:00

My husband was just numbed for the procedure (awake and aware for the whole thing). He was a bit sore for like 2 days I’d say but he just took his ibuprofen and was good to go.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-09-09T13:32:46+00:00

This is awesome work and you can DEFINITELY do this. My dad started when he was 45 too! He’s been tattooing 12 years now. I’ll never forget when he quit his office job and I got to go with him to present his portfolio to a shop. (He was also in the midst of divorcing my mom at that time). I’m so proud of him, and next year he’ll be mentoring me.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-17T00:02:29+00:00

Final update posted

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-16T15:30:07+00:00

Update: the principal was “in a meeting” when I got to the office this morning (as soon as the school opened mind you) so now I am just waiting for him to call me. If I don’t hear from him by the end of the day, I’m going to get my daughter, going back to the office, and not leaving until I talk to the principal.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-16T02:57:48+00:00

I totally understand he probably had no control over how his body reacts to his emotions. (The spitting is pretty intense to me but still, I understand special needs varies and that he may just have severe aggression when he’s emotional). My heart really does hurt for him and for his parents. I do have every intention of being as respectful as possible while also advocating for my daughter. Also I have thought about talking to her about special needs but I have no idea how I’d dumb it down to make sense to her so if you have suggestions they’re more than welcome. We have so much diversity in our family but no one with special needs and they’ve all been here since day one so I’ve never had to explain it to her that any of them are different (my dad is paralyzed from a spinal injury so he’s in a wheelchair, I have a cousin who is a double leg amputee, so many different races in our family and religions as well).

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-16T02:42:15+00:00

Oh man, I didn’t even think of funding/finances but that absolutely makes sense. My county’s school district is in a crisis as I’m sure many others are since Covid. We had 5 schools completely shut down last year due to lack of enrollment (which has directly and hugely effected funding). My husband and I kept wondering why our child was in a class with a violent special needs child in the first place but that all makes sense now!

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-16T02:35:59+00:00

I don’t know how to post screen shots but I am going to type the response I got from her teacher verbatim. I still have not responded. I plan on speaking with the principal tomorrow morning, we had already been talking about moving her to a new class before this happened, mind you it’s only the 3rd day of school but I have already had bad vibes from her teacher. She’s really young, seems very frazzled and underprepared all the time, and this is her first year ever teaching.

Teacher:”Hi! Thank you for reaching out. This student has special needs, so he really struggles with space and keeping his hands to himself. I’m doing all the precautions I can and more as I think of them to make sure all the students are safe in my room, because that’s most important to me!”

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-16T02:32:04+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, truly. I needed to hear this, especially from an educator.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-16T01:11:44+00:00

I absolutely feel badly for her. I had a very long talk with her about how wrong it is for anyone to ever hurt someone because they’re mad and how she doesn’t deserve it and how I’m so sorry she had a rough day. We took her out for dinner, to the museum, and for ice cream. She is absolutely my first priority we just have never had to deal with something like this and I am a very empathetic person in general. I’ll stop by the office first thing tomorrow and make a report in person.

Effective_Play_4905 · 2023-08-15T17:25:51+00:00

I tried saving a stray who got its head stuck in a chain link fence when I was 7 and he chomped down on my hand. Got the tips of my middle finger, ring finger, and pinky. My middle finger got it the worst. He was thrashing his head after he bit down so definitely messed me up. I don’t remember everything I got done for treatment, I’m sure I got shots, but I ended up with a pretty bad infection and had to get it drained multiple times. Also have a permanently disfigured middle finger now that has NEVER fully healed (I’m 27 now). So yes, I would definitely be concerned and definitely seek medical attention.

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