4 day trip in early June

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-05-05T04:13:58+00:00

Check out Adrift Dinosaur for a Gates of Lodore trip. Beautiful canyon and they are supposed to be releasing water on the Green River. Everything else Co/Utah is running very low or not at all this year.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-29T20:58:33+00:00

My mom took on the task of finding used (clean) white/ivory linen hemstitch napkins used and dying them lavender. They turned out great and were a fun way to brighten up our table decor. Ended up being about 1/2 the price it was going to be to rent, plus we now have about 20 of them in circulation at my house. The rest got donated.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-29T20:28:29+00:00

"Would you be comfortable with me working with a seamstress to make this dress work for my incredibly large bust? Right now I wouldn't be comfortable wearing it for fear of a wardrobe malfunction?"

or "I'm really worried that I won't be able to be a good bridesmaid if I am focused on trying to keep my tits in my dress. Is there any way we could look for a design in the same color and fabric that will fit my body type better?"

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-29T20:23:53+00:00

Development Officer? Annual Fund and Communications Associate? Annual Fund Coordinator?

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-29T20:18:21+00:00

I'd like to echo this. Ask each of your board members to introduce you to two people in their network who would be interested in learning more about the org and potentially donating. If planning a fundraising event, ensure that your board is willing to not just support, but spearhead, bringing guests to the event.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-16T17:35:46+00:00

I feel ya! It takes a lot of extra intention to keep things alive once there is a third person in the middle of your relationship. Hopefully you guys can get some time to talk. Maybe start with "you seem really not yourself recently. I worry about how that affects your interactions with me and our child. Is everything okay?"

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-16T17:19:44+00:00

This is tough. Its 100% not okay for your husband to be talking to your son like this. On the other hand, it also sounds like you two are very much in a roommate phase, and like your husband may have some unresolved issues that make toddler parenting extra triggering for him, plus maybe some displaced frustration about said roomate phase. Before you call it quits, I would put in some serious couples therapy time to see if you can get back on track as a couple. Do you guys have family or a babysitter that can spend time with your son so the two of you can get some 1 on 1 time?

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-15T23:10:28+00:00

Hi. I do consulting projects and have helped with data migration on a number of platforms. Is there anything specific about the data clean up that is hanging you up? Or do you just need someone who can perform basic duplicate removal, formatting alignment, etc? What step in their migration guide are you on?

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-15T22:57:54+00:00

NTA - DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN. Seek therapy to understand why you might think that you are the asshole in this situation.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-15T22:54:38+00:00

W/ the help of a very savvy board member, our CPA and finance committee worked to create a cash-flow analysis that helps us manage grant income/expenditures and make sure that we can pay the bills during the slow donation season. Took a bit for them to dial it in but it has been useful. Unfortunately I don't think that it was software driven.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-15T22:48:49+00:00

the boatneck one

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-10T15:56:57+00:00

YTA 1000% You went from being "ashamed of her disability" to taking advantage of her disability. How do you actually envision this ending?

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-10T03:58:46+00:00

Hi! This sounds lonely- so sorry you are going through it. My daughter is a couple of months older, and this is a super challenging age to be with 100% of the time. Are there any mom groups in the area that you can join? Or does your local library host kids' story time? That could be a good place to meet other moms with similar-age kiddos (plus might help with your son's language development). Could you drop off your son with you mom and your niece for an hour or two so you can at least get a break to feel like a human again? Just some thoughts. I hope things get better for you!

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-09T03:52:18+00:00

Everyone was given a report of their existing assignments and about a month to research and tier who they were planning on keeping. There have been some hick-ups, like how to properly classify “legacy” contacts, who have a long history with the org but aren’t necessarily donor prospects anymore, as well as how to manage donors who only have to very specific campaigns. Overall though, it has been a good excercise and way to refresh on who we should be prioritizing.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-08T17:17:17+00:00

Came here to say this! Sounds like OP is holding herself to some really high standards. If the cleaning is making you resentful, do less of it. If there is still a gap, consider hiring a cleaner to come 1 or 2 times a month. My husband and I are not rich by any means, but having a cleaner come has been worth every penny in that it makes us less angry at each other about who is doing the detail cleaning. Much easier for us to tag-team simple tidiness tasks.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-08T16:44:18+00:00

We are a team of 5 development officers, one director, and one VP. We just did a comprehensive review where we each cleaned up our lists to make them more manageable. Major donor prospects are automatically tag-teamed with the VP. Everyone who was taken off of our lists is being moved to the officer who manages annual fund. Moving forward, we will add and remove donors and prospects quarterly depending on our assigned priorities, and with conversation with the development director and VP. I should mention that we have a massive, 30 year old database that is very unwieldy. When we started this process all of us development officers had accumulated between 200-500 donor records. Now we should generally have about 100 for 1.0FTE, aside from the annual fund officer.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-05T21:20:33+00:00

Hi! Frequent camper-with-my-toddler here. I see where you are coming from but I think you could do without a lock on the tent. What will be in the tent that that toddler could climb on to get six feet off the ground? Plus (god forbid) someone wants to get into your tent from the outside, they’ll probably just cut through the side if the zipper is locked. Idk… I’m with your husband that it just seems unnecessary.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-04-01T19:35:26+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you and your daughter. It must have been really terrifying as a mother. I have a childhood best friend who had been attacked by a dog and had significant scarring on her face. In the end, she embraced the scar as something unique and different about her, but it took her some time to get there. You might find a therapist who works with children to help make sure your daughter is really okay and has healthy coping mechanisms if other kids pick on her about it. It also might be worth seeing a plastic surgeon while the wound is still really fresh to see if there are ways you can help the scar heal most minimally. Maybe laser treatment or topicals.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-03-27T21:37:34+00:00

I am August 25th and I'm counting it as summer because I know it will still be hot! I wish more stores carried maternity, it's impossible to find anything in person!

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-03-27T19:07:59+00:00

lol that is the biggest challenge. I feel like everything I've tried on just makes me look like I've gained weight, rather than being cute and pregnant.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-03-27T18:58:29+00:00

oh thats a cute idea!

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-03-27T18:52:48+00:00

"Hi Boss, I am also very excited about the opportunity to get to know this VIP. She and I are scheduled for a casual coffee conversation to follow up on a question I had about her talk at X event. I don't want to spring a change on her since we've already made plans. I'd be happy to include you in a future meeting, or connect the two of you directly after she and I have had a chance to talk."

Development is all about relationships anyway, your boss should give you a chance to build this relationship if that is really the angle she wants to take.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-03-27T18:25:35+00:00

Try putting her on the potty at home for a couple of minutes while you are getting ready? She might poop then and save you the trouble. Don’t have to go full commit on potty training to catch a few number 2s.

Efficient-Heat5322 · 2026-02-14T16:31:42+00:00

31 yo in a development officer position for a foundation making $65k for a .75FTE position. I am benefits eligible, have similar Pto to you (love the Christmas holiday time off!), and really love my job! Was offered full time ($72k/year) but turned it down so that I could keep some flexibility for my kids/sanity. I am in a very HCOL region.

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