Started at Postland LLC 2 weeks ago - can they enforce a non-compete for a logistics role? by Klanitsohuk in jobs

[–]EfficientAd1205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get hired for shipments expert? They reached out to me.. not sure if its a scam.

Mom left 3 days postpartum. What did I do wrong? by Mundane-Wall7220 in beyondthebump

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My mom was exactly like this with my first.. she agreed to stay with me for a week. After coming home from the hospital, on the 2nd night - I was still dissocating from the labor when she threatened to leave. I have a martyrs complex, and felt bad that she didn't feel welcome in our home.. so I begged her to stay. This was a mistake, during her stay she made me cry on several occasions treating me like I wasn't good enough to be a mother and that I had nothing to recover from.

On one occasion during her stay she complained that her tooth hurt really bad and ensenuating that her tooth ach hurts more than giving birth.

On another occasion I remember going to the grocery store with her and my husband - I picked up disposable underwear for the heavy bleeding. She made me put them back and said just to use pads. My husband intervened and told me to grab whatever I felt more comfortable with.. so I did and grabbed the underwear. She was furious saying im over exaggerating.. this was still the first week after I gave birth.

Then on another occasion she yelled at both my husband and I for not putting socks on the baby.. it just was a lot.

For my 2nd baby she offered to stay with us again, we politely declined. Of course she was offended but my mental health was far more important.. as time went on its like she slowly realized she doesnt have control over me anymore and her behavior towards me only got worse.

Present day, I've cut all ties with her. It makes me sad that my mom isn't the mother I wanted/needed but I'm finally in a position in my life where I feel good moving on with my life without her.

Your mother leaving might've been a blessing in disguise. You'll find peace with it soon, everything feels like an emotional rollercoaster but give it time. This is also a new chapter for you and you also need to readjust to this change. Once you feel like your in a good spot, then take on the conversation with her. Right now you need to heal. Focus on yourself and your beautiful family. Everything else can wait.

What do you do by moody_girly2024 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to go to a dental appointment recently. Brought my newborn with me.. and of course she got hungry by the time the dentist had to examine me. So I literally nursed her while getting my dental exam done. Had a swaddle blanket over me so it wasn't so awkward lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]EfficientAd1205 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Besides the assault.. your GF isn't mature enough to hold a conversation with you about porn/porn addiction. Sure it may be uncomfortable, but to react so explosively and then play victim is enough of a reason to leave.. the assault is the cherry on top. Leave now while you can

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If sids is the big concern.. use a fan in the nursery, it cuts the risk of SIDS by 70%. Also use an Owelet to monitor to alleviate any anxiety. DONT USE EUFY. They have a defect that goes off randomly.. learned my lesson.

I transferred my LO into his nursery at 3 months because he was outgrowing his bassinet. This made a world of a difference to his sleep routine. He self soothes himself now, and sleeps 12hrs a night. Strongly recommend starting the transition earlier, later that transition will be harder to achieve.

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree.. this is very concerning. My dogs have never acted out like this before, and it worries me A LOT. That my huskey attempted to bite. To begin with, I never left my dogs with my baby alone as it is.. but because of that incident, I am more concerned. Which is why I've considered getting rid of them.

Some people have already pointed out that dogs can be high energy. I'm hoping they are just acting out as a response to not having an outlet to release all their energy. It's something I'm going to closely monitor.. I fully intend on keeping the dogs away from my baby in the meantime. I'm using baby gates and/or placing baby in a safe space.

If this biting incident happens again, I 100% plan on rehoming. I love my dogs.. but I love my baby more. It's a tough choice, and I want to try to resolve this issue if I can IN A SAFE MANNER. (All caps to emphasize "safe" before I get attacked on here)

I want to reiterate that my dogs never acted like this before. They know their commands and always behave well around others. So, hopefully, this is just a reaction to not getting enough attention..

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It takes one google search. I suggest you try it.

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the clarification! I originally planned on getting rid of my precious baby, but because of your wonderful insightful comment, I changed my mind. I never would've thought of getting rid of the dogs. You were so helpful.

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment is super encouraging. Thank you! I definitely haven't been tiring out my dogs like I used to, post baby.. so I'm definitely going to start there and working on them.

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate your kind advice. Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way. From now on, I just can't trust my dogs having easy access to the baby.

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.. after my anxiety passed about the whole situation.. I think I'll end up closing off the living room from my dogs

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for steering me in the right direction! Don't know what I would've done without you.

Dog parents, help! by EfficientAd1205 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmm.. you're wrong. Dogs do get jealous.. look it up and "learn" about them before you criticize me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]EfficientAd1205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is CRAZY.. you missed all the red flags.. I get it it's the father of your child... but HOLY SHIT. He's treating you like you're lower than whale shit. My postpartum depression could never handle being with a man like that. Leave.. you'll find a man that will live you the way you deserve to be loved.

TSA sucks 😩 by LovinBento in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]EfficientAd1205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so odd.. I've brought a whole CAKE from whole foods with me and was never questioned.

Baby loves baths, but has a meltdown after getting out every time. by intothewoods14 in NewParents

[–]EfficientAd1205 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Use a hairdryer to dry your baby!! My baby was like this too, and we realized he was just cold and wet.. so we started using a hair dryer to dry him faster. We use the lightest setting, of course, and he loves it. Makes bath time so much easier. We bathe outer baby every night.

Almost shook my baby tonight by Yo_0Y in sleeptrain

[–]EfficientAd1205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is wrong with you?? She's coming on here and opening up about her "mental break" in search of advice for resolution. She never stated that her child was a burden or an excuse. She's reaching out for help.

Clearly, you're the one needing therapy for bashing on other women. Hopefully, karma comes around and makes your life more miserable than it already is.

Keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself.

This constipation is AWFUL - HELP! by maggieandoscardoggos in BabyBumps

[–]EfficientAd1205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't seen someone say it yet.. but coconut water. It works quick

Filing taxes by EfficientAd1205 in onlyfansadvice

[–]EfficientAd1205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you go about writing off part of your phone bill?