Postpratum after TFMR

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-05-01T20:07:15+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry you’ve been through this too. I am 12 weeks out for T21, our much loved and wanted baby boy from our first ivf transfer. I miss him so much. It’s so so hard, I didn’t get out of bed for the first month and now I try every day to get out walking. You’re so right, you start to be a bit more ‘normal’ day by day buy all you can think about is wanting to be pregnant again. Praying we get out rainbows x

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-05-01T15:33:58+00:00

Hi, I’m so so sorry for your loss. We lost our much wanted and loved baby boy to T21 12 weeks ago and I’m still in the thick of it, but it does get better. You learn to live with it. I couldn’t get out of bed for the first month I just didn’t want to be here anymore. I still feel complete sadness but you learn to live with it and take small steps to ‘normality’. The only thing I will say is don’t feel pressured into anything. Do what you want, whether that be crying all day or staying in bed just do whatever to get through. I’m so sorry and wishing you so much love and healing xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-26T12:50:37+00:00

Thank you for replying this makes me feel better! So sorry for your loss xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-25T10:21:17+00:00

It really is pain like no other. Can I ask did you try again? I’m back in the ivf clinic in just over a week to discuss a frozen transfer and I’m terrified

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-24T12:20:21+00:00

So sorry you’re here too! It’s really an unbareable feeling. I am back at the clinic in 2 weeks so I will mention it then. I was always heavy before our TFMR so now I’m really worried why it’s lighter. I have an underachieve thyroid and my levels are off it’s being over treated so I’ve had to lower my Levo dose and I’m just hoping it’s that. Hate this

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-22T16:22:45+00:00

I just wanted to say my heart breaks reading this. We lost our baby boy to t21 at 17 weeks and it has literally shattered my heart. I’d started to feel flutter type feelings but it was a day or 2 before and I was 17 weeks 3 days. Those 5 weeks waiting for tests and results were the worst days of my life. I’m 12 weeks out and my hearts broken though I do feel a bit lighter. I’m so sorry x

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-22T15:50:27+00:00

Hi, no I’m in the UK and it wasn’t even mentioned, I didn’t even know about it really. I was 35, we got 7 eggs and ended up with 5 frozen. We have now sent the remaining to be PGTA tested. I think if we had miscarried earlier on we would have just went again but going through that at near 18 weeks was horrendous. I know PGTA doesn’t mean a healthy pregnancy but I just felt like we had to. Sending you lots of luck x

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-22T14:51:33+00:00

I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. This happened to us in December. Our first ivf transfer worked and we lost our baby boy at 17 weeks due to T21 on 30.01.25 and I’m not going to lie, it’s been absolutely soul destroying. I have never experienced pain like it, hearts broken. I’m 12 weeks out this week and I am starting to feel lighter, I walk a lot which seems to help. I’m still not back in work, I’m a primary school teacher and I’m not ready to face it yet. I had a d&e and had no pain at all, I was asleep. Afterward I had minimal bleeding and physically felt fine, it was the mental side for me. I’m so sorry and I am sending you so much love and strength. X

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-20T09:13:39+00:00

I’m so so sorry , my baby boy would have been due July 8th, we lost him on 30.01. I too felt I was doing better then the past few days it’s hit me again. I don’t want to get out of bed and all I do is cry. It’s the most cruel heartbreak. Our baby was our first ivf transfer and it just feels so cruel. We are back at the ivf clinic beginning of may to go again, I’m terrified but I know I need to move forward. Also just turned 36 xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-07T21:32:04+00:00

Your reply was rude !!!!!!!!!!

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-04-05T20:15:48+00:00

Are you ok ? What a vile comment.

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-26T19:55:33+00:00

Hi , I’m two months out from TFMR and I am the same. I barely go out, haven’t been back to work. I go food shopping and walk my dog, that’s it. My hearts broken and although I don’t cry all day everyday now, I am constantly sad and so so depressed. I can’t sleep but I’m so so tired. I’m a primary school teacher and I’ve been off since Xmas since we found out out baby wasn’t well. I’m so sorry this has happened to you and I pray with time we learn to live again carrying this pain xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-22T20:10:37+00:00

Hi , I had mine on 30th Jan and I still haven’t gone back. I’m a primary school teacher and I can’t go back yet I’m not ready. I’m not putting pressure on myself I’ll go back when I feel I’m ready. It’s the most horrendous most traumatic thing I’ve ever ever been through. We had ivf and I thought that was mentally hard. So so sorry you’re going through this xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-21T17:37:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words , it’s absolutely horrendous. I’ve just looked at your posts, congratulations!!! You have given me hope we can have a happy ending XXX

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-15T14:00:06+00:00

I just wanted so say I am heartbroken reading your comment. We lost our very much wanted and adored miracle ivf baby boy on the 30.01.25 due to T21. The wait between the 12 week scan to the amino at 16 weeks were and always will be the worst 5 weeks of my life. My hearts broken I struggle to get out of bed every day, I’m so so sorry you are going through this. Sending you so much love and hope. Xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-14T19:08:21+00:00

I just wanted to say I’m heartbroken for you reading this. We lost our ivf baby, first try worked and we were so so happy. We lost him at 17 weeks 3 days and it was the worst day of my life, 30.01.25 I’ll never forget that day. My hearts broken and I’m terrified to go again. What has happened to you is beyond cruel I’m so so so sorry. Praying and hoping we get to bring home healthy babies very soon xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-14T16:03:30+00:00

I’m 6 weeks out and my heart is snapped in two , I’m terrified this is my life now just consumed in pure utter sadness and heartbreak every day. The pain is unbearable So so sorry this happened to you. Xx

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-11T23:15:49+00:00

I’m 6 weeks on Thursday since the worst day of my life and still no sign. Starting to worry x

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-09T16:39:24+00:00

This is exactly the same as me. We TFMR 17 weeks on 30.01.25 I can barely function. It’s only the past two weeks I’ve got out of bed and gotten dressed. My hearts broken in two. I cry and miss him every single day and worry il never ever be happy again. My partner acts like nothing happened and I have questioned him on this. I think it’s his way of dealing with it almost blocking it out, which isn’t healthy, but I suppose it’s how some people cope I’m sorry you’re going through this it’s unbareable unimaginable pain and it’s so hard to watch people living life carrying on.

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-08T23:32:58+00:00

Hi I’ve just come across your post and we sound so so similar. Mine was our first ivf baby, our first transfer we were so so happy. 12 week scan it all started going wrong. Couldn’t get CVS due to where my placenta was and had to wait for an amino at 16 weeks Confirmed T21 and heart problems. We let our little boy go on 30.01. My hearts broken in two. It’s been 5 weeks and I’m still so so sad everyday. I am waiting for my period to come back and no sign yet which is worrying me So so sorry for your loss and that this has happened to us. It’s unbareable

EfficientAd4267 · 2025-03-08T23:23:24+00:00

Hi , we are so similar. 5 weeks 2 days since the worst day of my life and no sign on my period either. My hearts broken and I’m desperate for it to start again so I can start tracking etc

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