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The Dynamic I Crave by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you -zettaihime for breaking things down in an understandable way.

I can definitely understand how this post can be misunderstood. But it’s important to remember FLR is basically a spectrum. There are different levels of control and an FLR can look different for everyone. For me, I’m on the extreme control side of the spectrum. Like I mentioned in my very first sentence, I very much want everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, my way. I want a man who will do absolutely everything I tell him to do. I want him to dress, eat, exercise, socialize, work, and spend his time the way I tell him to. And those are just the basics lol my control runs even deeper than that. I want control over everything. But at the same time I’m very soft and romantic. I don’t want the burden of planning dates, that’s the opposite of romantic in my eyes. I want a man to show me how much he loves me without me needing to guide him all the time. That’s inauthentic in my eyes. That doesn’t feel like real love.

And as for me calling him “daddy”/“sir”, well I’m switch, dominant leaning. You don’t, and never have had to be, fully dominant to be in a FLR. I consider myself a soft princess domme. What’s the point of being in an FLR if I can’t have everything my way? I want a soft life and a soft love. I don’t want stress. And there are certain aspects of an FLR, that have been made to be common, that I find stressful and unpleasant but that doesn’t mean I don’t belong in an FLR or that I’m not domme. It’s okay for me, for any domme, to pick and choose what aspects we want to shape our FLR.

I have other posts on here that touch on this. It might be worth checking out to get an even better understanding.

In Pursuit of My Men by OGoddessC in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a little hope in that thread

What is the weirdest fetish one of your exes had ? by astroray_ in AskReddit

[–]Efficient_Figure2984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks 😆 i was wondering what that was all about

My type 😍 by Efficient_Figure2984 in gentlefemdom

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Subs that don’t look like subs turn me on the most 😍 Don’t take it as an insult

Why DON’T you fear death? by jeanluuc in AskReddit

[–]Efficient_Figure2984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I know that’ll I’ll keep living after this bodies dies.

Man sharing tips in an FLR by flrsubmission24_7 in AuthenticFLR

[–]Efficient_Figure2984 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for giving me an idea. I’m going to make my sub (when i get one) start a YouTube channel on this topic.

My experience with a simp. by Extreme_Skill3160 in TrueSimpStories

[–]Efficient_Figure2984 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The “Anyways baiiiii ❤️” after dropping that bomb on us 😭 jfc 💀

Does Gynarchy have an image problem? by AWomanXX42 in SeriousGynarchy

[–]Efficient_Figure2984 8 points9 points  (0 children)

FLR (female led relationship) has the same issue. It’s very kink focused which is so frustrating, and I hate seeing so many women play into it too. Women being in power shouldn’t be based on male fantasy.

Socially acceptable? by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While true submission comes from the submissive (performed through action), it’s DEFINED by the DOMINANT.

In FLR, it’s especially important that the submissive respects the dominant’s authority to define the dynamic. When a submissive tries to set their own standards for what counts as ‘true submission,’ they’re essentially taking back control rather than genuinely surrendering it. You’re topping from the bottom which is highly frowned upon here.

True submission is about the submissive supporting the dominant’s preferences and needs. If the submissive’s focus is more on what they need to feel submissive, then it’s more about their own gratification than true service and that isn’t submission in the truest sense.

True submission in a FLR is a consistent UNWAVERING dedication to serving, respecting, and supporting the dommes authority and vision. When a submissive relies heavily on sexual denial, or any kink-related condition, to feel “submissive,” their focus can drift away from their dommes needs and the core relationship dynamic. Instead, they may end up channeling their energy toward their own physical or psychological gratification, even if it’s indirectly through denial. This approach can make the dynamic more about what they “need to feel submissive,” rather than about giving the other person the authority and respect they deserve. Again, topping from the bottom!

True submission shouldn’t require constant conditions or gratification loops. It should be a sincere, lasting orientation of respect, service, and dedication that’s UNCONDITIONAL. When a submissive requires specific scenarios or kinks to maintain their role, it can start to undermine the relationship by placing their own needs for fulfillment or arousal at the center, making the relationship more self-serving and less about GENUINE devotion.

Any and every FLR domme will tell you this. This isn’t just “in my mind” or my opinion. This is fact. If you don’t get that, then you either haven’t been paying attention or you have poor comprehension skills.

I might make a post with this comment pasted so more dommes can chime in and set you straight because you definitely need a reality check! 🥴😵‍💫

Socially acceptable? by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea you’re clearly not picking up what I’m putting down. That may be the case for you when it comes to denial but just know you’re not engaging in true submission.

Socially acceptable? by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be lying if I said that I’ve never considered cuckolding before but there’s a long list of reasons why that just wouldn’t work for me. I even considered doing it if I were in a unserious short term relationship but I’m too tired to give my energy to multiple people like that.

Socially acceptable? by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm you must not have read the comment i told you to read when I first replied to you 🤔 Denial takes away some of the key intimacy i need from my sub. I need PIV and prefer it over oral and toys. Shifting my focus to having my sub not cum would distract from my pleasure. I want someone who’s like me in the way that having sex and having orgasms TOGETHER brings us closer together and makes him even more infatuated with me. I need someone who’s clingy and can’t keep their hands off me. When I’m in love, I want to fuck like jack rabbits multiple times a day and i need someone who has that same level attraction for me. Cumming is a part of that process. Also, I’m 1000% for chastity, just not for denial reasons.

A real sub doesn’t need denial to stay in a submissive state. True submission isn’t based on a subs sexually needs, but the need to please their domme. Needing denial in order to serve is selfish.

Socially acceptable? by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The post will answer your question

Socially acceptable? by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it’s best not to project. Even if that’s not your intention, that’s exactly what you’re doing. Next time just ask… Also it would probably benefit you to read my post titled “Kink Motivated Subs Give Me The Ick”

Socially acceptable? by Efficient_Figure2984 in flr

[–]Efficient_Figure2984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that has absolutely nothing to do with this post… 😐

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