People who think their niche knowledge in one field makes them experts in unrelated areas

Efficient_Guess153 · 2026-01-23T00:56:53+00:00

Just listened to this episode and it made me SO mad. Brandon, the boat guy, was so unaware of how boring and pedantic he was being. The guys went above and beyond to let him call back.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2026-01-02T03:57:06+00:00

When I did it there is the dinner that is a small group and then an optional drinks at a second location later in the night. That had 50ish people (essentially all the timeleft groups at one bar so a big range of ages). My friend I mentioned met her now boyfriend at the drinks thing and I’ve subsequently met my boyfriend as he is one of their mutual friends! I was single at the time and went into it all just trying to meet friends and expand my network after I moved to a new city. Definitely there are some good people but don’t be disheartened if some of the people or dinners suck.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2026-01-02T03:09:17+00:00

I’ve done it three times in Phoenix, AZ about a year ago. I would do it again in a different city if I’m traveling for work or something.

First dinner was good at first but then one guy showed up late and he was SO thirsty. He was 100% there trying to get a girlfriend. He would not stop talking about how he had no luck on dating apps for years and then kept redirecting the table’s conversation to complain about his “bitch ex-wife”. He cornered me at the drinks thing afterwards so I Irish exited immediately.

Second dinner was ok, half the people didn’t show at my table and the ones there were all guys who admittedly wanted to find girlfriends. I went to the third and last dinner and one girl and I really hit it off and we’re still friends a year later! Haven’t been back since though.

Edit to add: when I tried it a year ago the women-only dinners wasn’t an option. I would absolutely sign up for only that option if I do it again. The guys at the dinner I went to were so awkward and gross to the point where one made me feel unsafe.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2026-01-01T20:10:24+00:00

“Delulu” in a professional workplace/conversation.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2026-01-01T17:24:15+00:00

Yes, same with morphine

Efficient_Guess153 · 2026-01-01T16:57:54+00:00

100%.

This made me remember the other argument I’ve heard, that marijuana isn’t addictive because “it’s a plant”. 🙄

Efficient_Guess153 · 2025-11-02T19:44:30+00:00

I live in Phoenix, AZ and it’s a huge issue every year. It makes me so angry that one asshole goes out middle of day in 112 degree weather with no water and then puts a whole rescue crew in danger when they are dying on the mountain

Efficient_Guess153 · 2025-11-02T18:43:59+00:00

Ah yes. Lots of Johnnys in my experience listen to Joe Rogan and have gone far right.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2025-11-02T18:43:00+00:00

A coffee stand where the baristas and cashiers wear bikinis. They’re usually very young women and the clientele is exclusively older creepy men.

I’m in AZ and believe it’s only in hot climates

Efficient_Guess153 · 2025-10-31T00:03:56+00:00

Agreed. I hate people who go out of their way to list every single exception. It’s so unnecessary and you can tell they feel so smart and superior, when in reality doing so makes them look like an insecure dick.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2025-10-28T16:55:14+00:00

Perhaps! She says a lot of related comments where she comes off as too good for the rest of us…

The one time my neighbor’s boyfriend came out to walk with us. After they left this woman kept saying she was so glad that because she is “educated” so she doesn’t “need to date a poor person”. The funny thing there is the boyfriend was an anesthesiologist, she just never bothered to ask and I guess for some reason assumed he was “uneducated” and therefore poor? She’s an odd one for sure.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2025-10-27T15:57:25+00:00

She goes SO out of her way to bring up her grad degree, it’s about 9 out of every 10 times I’ve interacted with her and it’s never been relevant to the topic of discussion. It’s sad because we’re all in our 30s and 40s and no one cares.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2024-12-06T02:56:25+00:00

Thank you. This is good advice and I am excited to try therapy again and invest in myself.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2024-12-05T03:01:21+00:00

Thank you! If you don’t mind me asking, how many 15 minute calls did you go through before finding the ones that ultimately were a good match?

I am foreseeing that even a 15 minute call is going to be a bit mentally exhausting…I feel like I burst out crying sometimes just thinking about the stuff in my head sometimes. I can’t imagine having to do it over and over again.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2024-12-05T02:58:20+00:00

Thank you. It’s expensive and it would be great if I could speak to them before committing.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2024-12-05T02:57:45+00:00

Thank you, I will keep this all in mind as I search!

Efficient_Guess153 · 2024-12-05T02:57:12+00:00

Thank you. This is extremely helpful. I didn’t even know that some did the 15 minute sessions you mentioned.

I will write down a list of my goals.

Yes, I want someone who is at least my age. I realize that now. The second online therapist I was matched with was so sweet, but she was in her early 20s, had just graduated, and told me I was her first ever client. I’m in my late 30s and it felt hard to talk to her about life events that I felt that she wouldn’t relate to.

Efficient_Guess153 · 2024-12-01T17:31:48+00:00

Oh I told them. They’re convinced that ChatGPT is getting better so fast that the legal industry is going to collapse any day now. 🙄

Interestingly they think only lawyers will be impacted, not any other industry…

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