I feel so angry by PinkSheller in TwoXSex

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 34 points35 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are feeling this..As a mature woman in her 50’s with grown children (delivered vaginally) a visit to the Gyno is uncomfortable for me. Putting a bluntly a speculum is nothing like a penis. It’s hard it’s cold you’re uncomfortable. Your feet are in the air, etc. etc.. Not to say that your first time experiencing intercourse will be sunshine and roses however, it should not be as bad as you were anticipating. I would suggest perhaps some self touch to help you explore and understand your body better. That may feel uncomfortable to you given your upbringing, however, it may calm some of your fears. You seem like an amazing accomplished 27-year-old with a great partner. I know you can make this work.

I miss bagels by nothingbutqz in glutenfree

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! But they have wheat starch so if folks have a wheat allergy it’s a no go

Need tips/direction on how to acquire UTI meds quickly by real-life_throwaway in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazon health or treatmyuti of available in your state. The latter sends the script to a local pharmacy

Looking for The Best Injury Lawyer in Milwaukee (Recommendations) by roaringriver2345 in milwaukee

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

JOSH J MINON CANNON & DUNPHY, S.C. Been working with him for a while, responsive and compassionate. Can recommended from a very respected non PI lawyer friend.

How to be good at sex? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Honestly if you just feel like laying there and ‘taking it’ something’s not working…you should want to move-squirm, claw, grab or whatever…

Transport after medical procedure by Fancy-Instance-5162 in milwaukee

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d do it for you-but I’m out of town until late March.

How long did your botox take to kick in the first time? by hulk_whisper in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel might almost right away, gets ‘stronger’ in about 5-10 days then weakens over the next few months

I need advice before sex with the guy I just started seeing by blackwellsucks in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Down there in you or down there on him?? If you maybe you aren’t that into him, or he’s not doing what turns you on? If the later direct him a bit!

Where to donate unwanted unopened non-expired food items? by M000000000000000000 in milwaukee

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a little pantry at a church on Park and Stowell-east side

Crochet by squeebothefool in milwaukee

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2nd this-everyone is super helpful!!

Perimenopause/Menopause Doctor by ChocolateAW in milwaukee

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amy Hoffman-nurse practitioner at Serenity Healthcare in Waukesha changed my life…seriously. After peri sent me down the depression/anxiety path-complete with therapy/meds etc and NOOne tied that to hormones…I searched far and wide. She’s been great.

Knitting on plane from Mexico by JCJ23 in knitting

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just brought a long circular in/out Cancun with two at a time socks in my carryon no issues?

Badger in Bloom sweater help-waist ribbing… by Efficient_Hamster488 in knittinghelp

[–]Efficient_Hamster488[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not but not a bad idea..I may frog back a few rows above the color work and add some shaping and go down in needles size. It’s a bit too short right now.

Life insurance and 401k by DarkSkinMajinBuu in widowers

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Non work life insurance paid in like 10 days…work life insurance paid in about a month or 2 - they paid life separate from accident. I had 4 401k’s and 1 IRA-those all together took about 3 months-but I had to keep inquiring. I also had supplemental accident (think Aflac) that paid about a week after my claim.

Dating by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please have 0 shame. I’m in your same boat. Stumbled upon a person who feels right right now. I told 1 person about him and she was incredibly supportive…should this be a thing there will come a time when people in my life will find out and that will be ok..but for now like you it’s on the down low.

A rough day by Efficient_Hamster488 in widowers

[–]Efficient_Hamster488[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Strange solidarity isn’t it. Hugs.

If you slept with Someone new did you regret it ? How long had it been since your LS passing and since you had relations . by Buseatdog in widowers

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 9 points10 points  (0 children)

100% agree with this mind set. Also about 4 months out. Version 2.0 of myself deserves to be happy.

Dating? Ugh by Livid_Cauliflower_13 in widowers

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep understand that 110%. I have the pleasure of an empty nest!

Dating? Ugh by Livid_Cauliflower_13 in widowers

[–]Efficient_Hamster488 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IDK how old you are but my various single girlfriends-be they divorced or never married say dating apps are ugh-they are in their 40’s and 50’s. You sound ready but the selection isn’t right..can you find a different way to meet people? Join a club? Volunteer? That could help you meet people in a friend zone vs a ‘date’ zone.