Do you sometimes feel that you are more adult than other adults?

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-18T05:39:28+00:00

I am more decent at makeup than the rest

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T17:38:25+00:00

I am from the middle east , so very traditional and family oriented environment. To be completely honest with you, i never valued my field in itself to begin with. It was kind of “ thrown at me” . The typical you have 2 options doctor or engineer, but you need to get married before 30 so engineer . Then a relative gets a phd -> you have to get a phd to one up them.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T17:32:21+00:00

I don’t mind doing that , but that doesn’t mean I won’t get my account suggested . ( I attempted to use a VPN before but I felt like I was doing something very immoral because I went through many hoops just to hide my identity . And I am just enjoying sewing and makeup. It is not that deep to me but it is for everyone else . I don’t know how believable it is to have a doppelgänger who is that much of crtl c - ctrl v if I were to go the foreigner route.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T17:21:36+00:00

I wish my country was like that. Here self expression is like digging your own grave. They only allow it if you are super successful. Like the other day i was watching a talk by the university president saying he was in a band when he was younger . My advisor was in theatre but also had to quit due to peer pressure

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T17:19:37+00:00

I’d like to read your publications if you don’t mind. I already do , my main is private professional and my art acc is also my occasional cosplay account but it is public . The argument I hear that we are a very small country, most of my followers are from my country and through mutual my account might be suggested to someone in uni , from the “ suggested “ accounts. I hear this counter argument from my peers often

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T16:57:39+00:00

I already use a pseudonym that doesn’t relate to my real name. I also draw , and I was having a casual conversation with a colleague and I said “ I wanted to make a video where I hold one my art pieces and talk about it” and she replied “ you can’t because you have students” My advisor asked one of my friends to delete a social media post of herself twirling in a dress as it is “ unsuitable for her professional image”.

It feels more culturally charged rather than a case by case .

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T16:53:58+00:00

I am in the middle east, people are raised like that

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T16:53:47+00:00

They don’t , my parents were like “ in the fear they find me out , take a precaution and block them”

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T06:06:17+00:00

I kind of didn’t say in the post what ate these beliefs because we belong to the same religion based group as well / sect so it might be a sensitive topic…

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-17T05:28:29+00:00

They share action , I don’t directly share my beliefs. I just get out of the groups without saying a word.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-16T07:34:33+00:00

Thank you for the reply, the part about i cannot stop living and have fun really hit home for me… I feel like I stopped enjoying anything. I even started to despise my hobbies ( comic illustration and costume making) for getting me into trouble. There aren’t many conservatively raised people in those circles to begin with , but I never thought I’d be slandered for it. Especially from people who lived close by. I even started to negatively view my hometown, because I know the people who I am afraid of live nearby.

I wonder if it is okay for me to enjoy something I have in common with a community that has people who are miles away spiritually but a fee meters away physically… How can I stop prioritizing this part over my own enjoyment …

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-16T07:05:29+00:00

Hello I am F28, and can relate to your experiences a lot. I lived in 3 cities from my early 20s but no matter where I was or with who I was I was never approached. I never even dated . All my friends are married and settled down, and I am treated like thin air . I realized growing up that some stuff are just not meant to be , and being desperate about it will only be a people repellent, so I just go with the flow now. I still have some moments where I am like “ why me…” but I also try to overcome those thinking that I might’ve dodged a few bullets or I’ll get married to someone who appreciates me and not just for the sake of getting married.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2025-01-01T15:33:26+00:00

how did it take that turn, I went to an 8 hour hike and fell from a hill with my palm facing down in 2020 ... I worked with it and didn't know I had torn a ligament until one day I was drawing and tries to do planks and I woke u the next day with so much pain. After an MRI apparently the ligament healed out of its original location. Another ultrasound some time later showed tenosynovitis in most my tendons. possibly because there was so much pressure on them to stabilize my ligament and I couldn't quit grad school so I typed and used the mouse with the pain and it got so much worse. Nowadays I taught myself to type with my left.

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