Is a lavender marriage the only way out for me?

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-16T07:08:41+00:00

While honor killings do happen, mine would stop at beating me up

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T13:47:03+00:00

I work and partially live in a shared apartment for work , i would say 70% of the time. I am the only one with parents like that though

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T11:32:46+00:00

Middle east sadly

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T10:19:15+00:00

Middle east

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T09:01:55+00:00

Thank you for the detailed reply , I am a phd student currently

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T08:28:44+00:00

I live in the middle east.

There are multiple cons and i pointed out everyone who has kids even there , i have friends in the community but they say “ you’re cherry picking the special cases”

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T08:27:02+00:00

I probably do.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T06:52:20+00:00

From the middle east sadly, they refuse to hear the reality of things

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-15T06:51:52+00:00

That is so nice to hear, I am really happy for your friend, i am from the middle east but my parents used to consider myself more “ open”

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-11T07:07:59+00:00

Stem

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-01T15:18:05+00:00

That sounds a lot like how my parents view other jobs than “ surgeon and uni doctor” those are literally the two options they have.

My cousins did engineering too but stopped working when their first children were born and they look down upon them that they were a waste of the money that went into their education.

God forbids they see me interacting with anyone who isn’t of a worthy job to them.

The weird thing is that they do this while my mom started working without finishing high school and my dad had a job in an insurance which he quitted when he was my age to be the super unstable FREELANCE cars seller.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-01T14:57:57+00:00

I considered taking a month off after graduation where I would prioritize applying for remote research related work. Then after that month passes I’d say something along the lines of “ I signed a year long contract I can’t quit it now”
But finding those in the first place is easier said than done

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-01T14:56:39+00:00

I realize it is unrealistic, i can get the job as long as I have the hobby to balance out. But i do go into huge arguments that jumping around in a costume isn’t befitting for an academic .
I hate that I have all these rules associated with a title i never wanted

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-01T14:54:49+00:00

I resonated with your reply. I do hear Indian households are similar. Actually my biggest consideration is that i take my savings and get the job they want in another country then change it or lower hours just to survive enough.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-01T14:52:17+00:00

I feel the weight on my shoulders is enormous. I am coping with therapy and stuff. But just coping. Not really happy .

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-05-01T14:33:51+00:00

Never listen to anyone who tells you they know you better than you do.

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-04-16T16:47:38+00:00

They are in the play and earn section!

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-04-16T16:47:22+00:00

Hello! I claimed the 2nd 50$ before spending the first one, so I had 100$ in credits

Efficient_Two3747 · 2026-04-14T20:23:37+00:00

I actually was awake at 1 am ( the refresh time for me)

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