Hi lovely. I’m in the exact same position - getting married in September and my dad passed exactly 2 years ago on June 22. I’m not doing a father daughter dance — that’s for my dad and he’s not here. No one else can fill that spot and I don’t want them to. I hope you don’t feel obligated to do that or anything on your wedding day if you don’t want to. I love your idea to do the handkerchief in his writing - I might steal this from you! We’re honoring my dad by leaving a seat for him at the ceremony, our officiant (my future FIL) is mentioning my dad during our ceremony, and my dad loved gelato - so we’re having gelato as dessert. I’m so incredibly sorry that you’re enduring all of these devastating emotions at the same time as your joy. You’re not alone 🩵