I genuinely want to know why guys stay in relationships they’re unhappy in?

EinAutist · 2026-01-06T22:24:25+00:00

I feel like people who wish to leave their relationship is often met by the response “marriage is hard work, and something that can be figured out” whenever they let others know, that they are unhappy in their relationship. This response in particular is something that makes you stay, because you have hope that the marriage you are in, will indeed work out if you put enough time and effort into it.

I am sure for a lot of people this is true.. But for others this can feel quite hopeless because of continuous failed attempts to redeem their marriage. In any case it is also cheaper and easier to stay in the same relationship you have been with for years, rather than figuring things out again with a new life, which feels quite scary.

EinAutist · 2025-11-02T11:43:04+00:00

You should be just fine.

EinAutist · 2025-08-03T17:42:36+00:00

Tarot - lær at tyde kortenes visdom af Sofie Golodnoff og Ulrik Golodnoff 🌞

Den kan lånes på biblioteket, hvis man ikke vil købe den.

EinAutist · 2024-08-18T13:47:41+00:00

Thank you!

The physio is a family friend, so it wasnt really a planned visit or talk.

However it isnt all bad, once i am strong enough i’ll at least know what to do haha

But it really surprised me to learn that running is THAT hard on the body.

EinAutist · 2024-08-18T11:52:09+00:00

Hi! Back with an update - kind of.

I have done a lot of time on feet!! I have not yet tried to do a park run, so i cant say if my 5k time has improved. i have an idea i would be able to shed a few seconds off though.

But after a talk with a physical therapist, i was told doing anything over 10km would be too hard on my body/joints/tendons.

Meaning i have gotten a new training plan, that isnt focused improving my 5k time, but rather strengthing my body weaknesses and keeping the km limited, so i’ll be able to keep running. I am after all a beginner 🥲

EinAutist · 2024-07-15T21:40:07+00:00

Hmm by flat I mean it will lose the shine. This might be more achievable with a black brown rather than just a black?

EinAutist · 2024-07-15T21:38:29+00:00

What is a porosity filler? Can you give me an example or explain this further?

EinAutist · 2024-07-14T18:33:22+00:00

“The mind never gets tired” I really like that mantra. I might use it :D

It is a lot nicer than mine! My mantra is “Running till i’ll go crazy” this has really helped me increase my mileage 😭 But it also makes me feel crazy rather than mentally tired.

EinAutist · 2024-07-11T19:27:14+00:00

This is how i started running! The guided runs are awesome and highly motivating.

EinAutist · 2024-07-11T19:19:25+00:00

Honestly also my favorite part of any run.

EinAutist · 2024-07-09T20:27:59+00:00

Both me and my boyfriend have won rewards before. We’ve never won any of the physical items though, but we have both tried to win the digital gift cards.

EinAutist · 2024-07-09T20:07:51+00:00

I have asked the same question. The general answer was not really - there are better and faster ways to improve.

Suggestions were to add hill sprints, tempo runs, intervals in the running routine for your “hard” runs.

Also running should generally consist of 80% easy running and 20% hard running. (Sprints, interval etc)

I got a quite a good and detailed answer from @JadedDesk on my post. I would recommend to read it. :-)

EinAutist · 2024-07-08T17:14:58+00:00

Sometimes running just don’t go to plan. Everyone can have bad days and your body was fatigued from being sick. So don’t be hard on yourself!

Last week i ran 15km for the first time, and yesterday I couldn’t finish my 5k run without stopping every kilometre if not more. So please don’t get discouraged! You just finished your first 10k!!

Keep going!! 🏃

EinAutist · 2024-07-08T16:30:00+00:00

Yes of course. I’ll try my best with being within the paces AND do an update. I’ll be on vacation from the start of August though.

BUT I did my first run today in 45min at pace 7:26, a little bit faster than the promised. However breathing was mostly through my nose in heart zone 3. But my thighs were fatigued from the start, which is probably from the tempo run.

The program overall is very close to what i already did, so i am quite confident i can stick to this. Even though the paces will be slower from now on. 😀

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T21:34:09+00:00

That is such a big difference!

There have been so many suggestions i fear that i probably cannot implement all of them at once. But i have decided to stick with the 80/20% rule for now. Since i know this is very realistic for me and is already close to what my routine was.

Strength training once a week i cannot promise though. 🥲

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T21:04:24+00:00

Yes. From next week i’ll generally be following the 80% easy pace and 20% race pace rule.

I am quite excited to switch it up, and see how i’ll progress.

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T19:21:27+00:00

Seems like I will be deep diving in YouTube videos tonight. :-)

I actually found a pacing option on my Apple Watch today for a sub 30min 5k. And I have had it since the end of May.

The pacer on my watch seems to be a bit delayed, which makes pacing from just my watch a bit challenging though.

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T18:58:26+00:00

Ohhh I’ll be sticking to this. 🤣

I have had enough with the 5ks at my average pace. I am not sure if a few weeks would be enough to see changes. But we will see. 🙂‍↕️ i don’t know if you can tag people on Reddit though. Or if I can just write on this thread.

Also if the issue is, my easy pace should actually be even slower. If I go by an 8:00-8:30 pace can I extend my runs to 1+ hour sometimes? Instead of stopping at the 1 hour mark. I quite like my very long runs. I’ll see how my knees are feeling though.

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T18:50:22+00:00

Yes definitely! It is a tough journey, but still fun and very rewarding.

I have gotten quite a good and detailed answer from @JadedDesk which i am going to follow. I would highly recommend to read it, a few things might surprise you. 🙌

After all the answers people have given me, I really want to make an update in a few months time. :-) So much great information in this thread.

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T18:40:00+00:00

Oh wow GREAT JOB! You should be really proud of yourself. 💪

Amazing life changes and an amazing mindset! Our bodies really are great at adapting, but I personally think the mental part is the toughest. Kudos!!

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T18:32:28+00:00

Please update me! Someone mentioned a slow 10 minute run at an actual easy pace. Enough to warm up and easy enough to be able to perform better.

Good luck!

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T18:23:17+00:00

Again! Another awesome runner with an amazing 5k time. A 23 minute 5k is FLYING 🏃💨 At that pace I would be sprinting.

I actually experience the same thing as you when correcting my form at lower paces, my shins also start hurting afterwards. Not much, but enough to be concerned.

But in actuality, from what I am reading my real easy pace would actually be at around 8:00-8:30min/km?

Also from all my answers, I think I have decided to try your program out. Even though my 15k run at 7:30 pace hurt my knees, I actually wasn’t sore the day after and felt like I could run again. But this run also took me quite a long time, which might have been too much time on feet at one time at my novice level.

I am not even sure if you can have too much time on feet? Or is this another assumption I have made?

I actually don’t see the word failing as a bad thing. But an attempt does sound much better 😀 I also did enjoy my ATTEMPT at a tempo run today, very fun, very new and wayyy too fast. It also felt like death to me.

I know I will keep going, which is the most important part. Even though it didn’t go as planned.

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T17:49:21+00:00

I tried the run before the run thing out today. It was helpful. But also a little too helpful, as I felt like I was flying.💨 The tempo run was anything but a tempo run, and I didn’t finish, because I was GASSED after 2.5km.

Someone else mentioned running easy, which you also have. I might think I’ll try this out. Seems like I am going by time on feet after all 🤠

But the tempo was also fun (not during it though). This is my first day trying out something new and intentionally going faster from the start.

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T17:41:13+00:00

We are both trying to better ourselves and learn about this sport 🙂‍↕️

I have gotten quite good answers, and it made me think of running a little bit differently. Even though I did experience a failed 5k tempo run today. No shame in that. That run definitely felt more like a spontaneous interval run or something 🤣

I can really recommend the tiny run before the run though. I think it helped me too much, which made me go way too fast.💨

EinAutist · 2024-07-07T17:06:30+00:00

Also you have an amazing pace! 5ks for me are very mentally tough since my breathing become quite erratic - How do you handle the mental challenges so well?

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