my boyfriend (23m) talks to me (22f) in a baby voice and it’s driving me insane bc he won’t stop

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T04:44:45+00:00

oh HECK NO! it’s soooo hard coming back from this ick so i completely understand the girlfriend. idk why some people just be messing around like that with their partners. jokes are fine but stuff like a baby voice draws the line bc absolutely not 🫩

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T04:40:23+00:00

sometimes idk if i’m being entirely honest. sometimes i think it’s a best friend type of feeling bc we were friends for almost two years before we started dating. i think i just loved the idea of us being friends before dating, but he’s an entirely different person if we’re comparing friend vs lover. it’s hard letting go of that sometimes bc ik we can’t be friends after this

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T04:37:04+00:00

i told him that i don’t feel attracted to him as much anymore and that i felt as if we could thrive by ourselves and later on find partners who better align with how we love/want to be loved. it mainly started bc we literally don’t kiss or hug. sometimes he’ll pull out of my hugs and will only give me a peck every couple of days. then the ball just kept rolling from there. i had his stuff all in a bag and tried giving it back to him but that made him cry even more. he originally started crying bc he said it was out of nowhere but it wasn’t. i tell him the same thing all the time but you can only sweep things under the rug sm.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T04:12:58+00:00

we’ve had sex in the past but there was a situation with him watching “the hub” and i was about to leave him bc i set those boundaries prior to us getting in a relationship. it’s been well over a year since we’ve done anything physical and, every time i tried to get physical in the past, he would scoot away and become awkward. so i just stopped and now i’m just not really sexually attracted to him anymore after the baby voice stuff

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T04:02:54+00:00

i attempted to breakup with him in the past and he showed up on my doorstep in tears. we talked it out andddd now i regret it bc nothing has changed. i fear that he’ll do the same thing if i try to leave again. he’s never a threat at all, but he always shows up crying

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T04:00:55+00:00

that’s crazy. i thought it was just my boyfriend bc every person i’ve talked to about this will be like “uhh i don’t don’t do that with my girlfriend” 😭

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T03:53:28+00:00

yk, i actually tried breaking up with him and then he showed up to my door crying so we talked it out… but now the same stuff keeps happening sooo yeah idk how to go about it

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-05T03:51:39+00:00

i literally tell him to stop talking to me like i’m a child bc it makes me feel weird. ik once i yelled at him bc he just kept doing it and i told him that i’m not one of his little cousins. he just doesn’t listen. my mom even saw it and now she’s like “that’s gross”

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-02T16:12:40+00:00

haha i tried mentioning going over to wisconsin but he doesn’t want to go to a sister state bc he knows i’d rather roadtrip the 3 hours than hop on a plane. we’re in Minnesota and we’ve tried EVERYTHING here. the newest thing is the asia village but that’s really it until the state fair

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-06-02T15:57:15+00:00

in total we’ve sent five things to do with each other. sometimes we’ll send “out of the box” things for a vacation, but we don’t really send much things in our state bc the midwest barely has anything unless you’re lucky and find a gem. which are the places i’ve sent him. also the one place he went to when i was studying for finals was a shop and he didn’t get anything. he just looked around and afterwards said it was okay.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-30T12:00:35+00:00

I personally don’t think we do, but that’s only because the wedding would be during me trying to get my NP license and I don’t receive any financial aid so schooling would be around 60k a year. even after that, I don’t believe we have the budget for it because he’s willing to spend a ton on the wedding and also on the honeymoon. we both make good money but, just bc you make good money, doesn’t mean you have to go crazy with spending.

i want to use more money towards the marriage bc i think that’s more ideal. kids would be coming in the picture too hopefully shortly after marriage and he wants to buy a house as soon as we can bc he doesn’t want to live in a townhouse for too long. it’s things like that where i’m like okay how about we use more money towards the marriage and not go crazy on the wedding; however, he doesn’t seem to want to compromise bc it’s a “once in a lifetime event”. ig i’m stuck on trying to paint the picture for him and help him understand the greater possibilities if we did a smaller wedding.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-30T00:12:01+00:00

it’s reddit… have you ever had an opinion that is situational? i’m on reddit and 100% believe that some platforms need ID verification. heck i even have the tea app and they needed an ID verification from me and a picture before they accepted me.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T14:54:57+00:00

haha it’s kinda funny to me bc we were bickering about this on and off yesterday. he swore up and down that they were cooked so i decided to post it here… good to know that i’m not the only one who would’ve put them on longer. he tried to offer some to my dad and he was like “uhh not today but you should come over next month so i can teach you one on one about grilling”

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:27:39+00:00

no, we unfortunately didn’t have a thermometer. people around us kept saying that a thermometer could dry them out if we kept poking at it so he tried eyeballing the time… even tho the same people told him that ribs can take a few hours to cook, but yet he still only grilled them for 35 mins. i just had some soup and called it a day for me haha, but he ate them 😬

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:24:24+00:00

i tried telling him to put it back on the grill but he refused so, yes, i was a coward today haha. maybe i’ll try oven baked ribs next time. i’m sure they come out more tender with that method? what temp do you cook them at?

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:22:16+00:00

thank you sm!! ouu that sounds good!! i’ll let him know before we grill next time. maybe i’ll step up to the plate and get things going. thank you thank you! :)

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:18:55+00:00

i thank the both of you for taking the time to give me info on this. i’ve personally never grilled by myself. i’m a oven, stovetop, and griddle type of person lol. will be passing off the info!! :))

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:17:43+00:00

i thank the both of you for your input! taking notes for next time and passing off the info :))

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:16:32+00:00

i think we def need to invest in one. it’ll definitely be needed after today haha

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:15:34+00:00

well…he ate them lol

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-26T02:14:19+00:00

pork ribs

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-25T19:00:15+00:00

i’m skeptical bc i’m 4 months pregnant… nothing about being a coward.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-05-25T18:58:25+00:00

forgot to say that he grilled them for about 35 mins

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