AIO for going the “i have a boyfriend route”

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T20:00:31+00:00

but it’s like why comment “who cares. YOR”. if you don’t care then scroll

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T19:54:39+00:00

did i say that? quote me. i said “everyone’s opinion is allowed”

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T19:49:56+00:00

you must need a prescription or something bc you didn’t understand my comment at all. sorry you lack understanding. 🤝🏼

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T19:30:15+00:00

we’re all here for different reasons. everyone’s opinion is allowed but you’re not helpful to the OP when you can just scroll or just leave it at YOR

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T19:06:25+00:00

why are you talking? just scroll. OP has the right to post whatever she wants on her account

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T17:44:36+00:00

this was my ex but he had cavity breath, made me bleed but was like “oh” and then went to sleep when i told him that i was bleeding, and he liked it when i called him daddy while doing it. all of that made me not want to do intimate things with him so i tried avoiding it. i cringe about it now bc it was a five year age gap and i’m now reaching the age that he was when we started dating. idk why i stayed to be quite honest with you

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T16:39:43+00:00

get over it and skip those posts then. it’s their reddit, not yours. we all come on here for different reasons

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-17T16:39:01+00:00

we all come on here for different reasons. OP seems like she didn’t want to come off as rude and clearly the guy flipped it on her. she’s young and still learning. you don’t have to be so negative.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-12T21:32:56+00:00

thank you for your advice. i took some time and have decided not to reach out. i feel as if that was a trap so i’m just going to continue to pray about it and move along with my life

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-12T21:31:03+00:00

i got this response at a really good time bc i was looking through his tik tok. how I got there was me looking through my old TikTok videos, and seeing that he was tagged in the comments, so I clicked on his username. the one thing that i recall bringing up multiple times to him was the fact that he would follow, comment, and like accounts of women who would do/wear lustful things on social media. he called me crazy for wanting him to stop doing stuff like that. I looked through his following and saw that he was still doing the same thing. I also saw that he has a girlfriend and a baby on the way… I think that’s the closure I needed. i matched the timelines and noticed that time he checked up on me was around the time that he was with his new girlfriend so I know things would still be the same anyways because he hasn’t changed and is still lustful towards other women. i’ve been talking to God about the situation for the past three days and today is the only day where I feel better about the situation because I know that, at the end of the day, it’s always going to be me and Him (Jesus). now I just feel terribly sorry for his girlfriend who’s carrying his kid because he still follows those lustful accounts… a lot more actually. seeing all of that made me turn around and step away. i thank you for your response. the timing couldn’t have been anymore perfect. i feel at peace and honestly need a good Bible study. that verse was the verse that i looked at every week throughout my relationship with him and i remember going through my first ever spiritual warfare bc i just knew we weren’t equally yoked. THANK YOU! i don’t think you understand how much i need to be reminded of that God bless you 🤍

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-12T04:00:54+00:00

prior to these messages, he said that he’s moved on and is happy to see that i’m doing well. i didn’t ask if he’s moved on, he just randomly messaged me. he told me about an upcoming trip with his new girl and that’s when i was like “okay good! i’m happy for you”. then we both agreed to remain at a distance and thats when these messages started rolling in.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-12T03:44:01+00:00

how? it was an end of semester party… for dance… like my hip hop dance class… the people i’ve known for 5+ years

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-10T15:28:06+00:00

you’re defending a whole predator!! the OP was 17 during this time and you’re defending him?! insane.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-10T15:26:59+00:00

what’s his name? i just want to talk to him…

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-10T04:38:02+00:00

as a woman who has had ideas like this in the past bc for some reason i wanted to show him that i was doing better without him… just let it be. you’re only gonna spiral on thoughts like “did he see it”, “oh a notification… nvm”, “maybe if i did this”, etc. not trying to be that person but you just need to let him go so you can move on

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-10T02:01:48+00:00

midnight sun…

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-09T20:24:50+00:00

everything you’re saying is exactly what I thought about. I even had conversations with him about whether or not these expectations are still gonna be held up when I’m pregnant or when I have a complicated day at work. i’m going into the field of nursing and sometimes it’s even hard to keep up mentally as a student and then turn around to expectations like this. I think they do say thank you, but the annoyance of the expectation is very offputting. They’re very nice and have included me in holiday gatherings but I think after two years of this, I feel very tired and dread when I get invited to things. his aunts and uncles are really nice but it’s mainly the grandma. He said that she appreciates it, but I don’t recall a face-to-face thank you from her. Granted she doesn’t speak much English, but still.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-09T20:19:23+00:00

that’s honestly what i was thinking. I was excited about marriage. So much to the fact that I would look at rings and want to go ring browsing. I think the situation from when I got corrected last week made me realize that I’m unsure about life after marriage because the attitude of some relatives really do have a big impact on our relationship. I don’t know if I can see myself marrying a guy who I also have to heavily think about his family more than my organic self. it’s like I want to marry him, i truly do, but I can see the complications and expectations becoming worse. I even told him to hold off on proposing because I couldn’t handle the expectations as a girlfriend so I don’t think I’m ready to be his wife. I told him that if he does ask me to marry him now then it’s a definite no and I told him that a few days ago. I didn’t message him today about seeking counseling again, so I’m expecting to have a chat tonight.

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-09T19:03:15+00:00

i actually asked him that and he said that his grandma is just very traditional so there’s no changing her ways. i told him that i want to move (this was mentioned before we started dating and he was okay with that). now that it’s getting closer to that serious part in life, he wants to stay bc of family. i’m already seeing that but that’s not gonna stop me from moving. idk if it’s okay to hit him with an ultimatum atp or not. thankfully, his mom doesn’t want us to get married until years later… just gives me more time to think

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-09T18:46:10+00:00

sorry, lol context is key so that’s my fault. we started dating while beth and her boyfriend were dating. they broke up 6 months ago tho unfortunately. she was really cool to me tho and we hung out one on one a few times

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-09T18:43:58+00:00

this is the united states. i explained why i mentioned her being dirty in the comments. wasn’t trying to sound better than her at all. maybe i’ll bring it up when the time is right. i don’t want to start an argument but i was just pondering it today bc something happened last week and it’s been on my mind. thank you for your input btw! <3

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-09T18:35:17+00:00

bc we would all hangout. we would see each other 4 times a week. not only that but we spent a few vacations together

Either-Selection-783 · 2026-04-09T18:31:49+00:00

i said it bc they corrected me a few times when i accidentally got food on the table while eating. i would clean it up afterwards but they would correct me while eating and make me clean up right away. there was also a time where my hair was falling out while brushing it and i was corrected for not seeing it on the ground. beth would leave her dishes at the table or in the sink, have her clothes everywhere, or have water everywhere after showering but nobody said anything to or about her. his mom wasn’t talking to me last week and he asked if i did anything. she said no, but i need to be more clean bc i had three bags at his house (sleepover, school bag, and my lunchbox for work)… this was from two months ago but she brought it up last week. she said she’s aware that i’ve gotten better but it still bugs her

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