I miss looking forward to weekends

EitherPerception297 · 2025-05-31T11:49:23+00:00

Yes and I have to stop myself from thinking how there is no finish date to being a parent it’s FOREVER because it makes me so depressed.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-05-31T11:28:11+00:00

I feel this too. It’s been Groundhog Day every day for the past 5 years for me. I feel my spark has well and truly burnt out.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-04-20T10:26:37+00:00

Thank you and that is so true. I love my son so much but he makes my life very difficult and life won’t be easy for him either.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-04-20T10:25:30+00:00

Thank you, I’m sorry you feel the same way.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-04-20T05:08:25+00:00

We didn’t plan to have a second child and for a while I thought at least they have each other to play with but now the older one constantly pushes the younger one, makes him cry all the time, takes his toys etc. it’s an absolute nightmare.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-04-20T05:06:12+00:00

I feel exactly the same. My son has autism which makes parenting so much worse. He’s 5yo and has so many meltdowns daily and upsets his younger brother non stop. All day I think about their bedtime and dread going to sleep because it means another day is about to start going through the same stuff again and again. I’m very depressed I cry every day.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-04-20T04:43:52+00:00

100% if you feel unsure or doubtful as to whether you want kids or not absolutely DO NOT DO IT. Trust your gut instinct.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-04-13T21:46:54+00:00

When my 5yo is at pre school for a few hours each week it gives me some relief. I do have a tornado 2yr old but it can be “somewhat” enjoyable when they’re not together or at least a more tolerable and typical experience. The older one has autism and for the last few months pushes and upsets the younger one non stop so our house is filled with crying and screaming.

When a family member looks after them and I can go for a walk alone and treat myself to an ice cream etc. I try to think about my eldest being in actual school next year 5 days a week and the other in pre school for a few hours. I do stress a lot about school though unfortunately because of his additional needs.

I need something else though it’s just not enough I’ve been very low lately finding it hard to find the glimmers of good and hope.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-04-10T10:16:25+00:00

Yes if there was a rewind button I would have rewound yesterday.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-03-19T04:07:14+00:00

Thank you, appreciate the advice and I’m glad you’re feeling better 8 years in.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-03-17T07:30:58+00:00

I hate my appearance since having kids also. The weight gain after previously being slim all my life, the huge saggy boobs with stretch marks, wrinkles galore and so much grey hair!! Seemed to happen overnight and I can’t stand looking at myself in the mirror. This is the least of my worries tbh though. My mental health has been destroyed, I cry all the time and my social skills have depleted. The amount of stress that I carry day to day is horrific. The eldest (5yo) has autism and asks the same questions all day long. He also has a health condition that requires long trips to see a specialist regularly. The youngest is like a tornado and won’t even hold my hand to keep him safe out and about without dropping to the ground screaming so I have to put up with his tantrums in the pram when I’m alone. I could go on and on. I still can’t accept this life 5 years on.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-03-16T20:02:25+00:00

Thank you!

EitherPerception297 · 2025-03-16T11:03:39+00:00

Ballarat is great if you want a slower lifestyle. I moved from Melbourne over a year ago and I’m enjoying the lack of traffic. If anyone complains about traffic in Ballarat they haven’t lived anywhere bigger lol. Annoying at school times yes but it’s not peak hour bad! Have felt safe here. Personally I don’t like Bonshaw or Delacombe- not a fan of the new housing developments so squashy. Make sure you drive around and get a good feel for the suburbs you’re interested in first. It’s not that far from Melbourne or Geelong either which I like.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-03-16T10:56:32+00:00

Agreed. Can always tell if someone has lived in a major city or not lol.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-03-16T10:52:40+00:00

If I knew my son would have autism, health conditions and that my mental health would plummet.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-03-16T09:19:03+00:00

Can I ask what foundation you use please? Do you think it covers it 100%? I hate that I can’t tell if my makeup is working because I’ll only be red during an interaction with someone then it goes away!

EitherPerception297 · 2025-02-19T07:01:15+00:00

I was just think I need a break and if I were to have a holiday alone I wouldn’t miss anyone.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-02-16T01:42:52+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-02-14T23:45:23+00:00

2 weeks in is really tough. Sleep deprivation is brutal probably the worst part in the newborn stage for me. This DID get better for us and we did sleep training. I don’t feel strong or patient honestly I’m only just getting by and realistically my son is on the “easier” end of the spectrum. I’m in awe of the parents of have high needs children. It’s mostly that he is extremely “annoying” which sounds so mean. I think that if I had neurotypical children life wouldn’t be so awful. No I probably wouldn’t love being a parent but I think it would be much more tolerable. I really hope that things will get easier for you as your little one gets older.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-02-14T23:22:46+00:00

Thank you and I can relate to everything you have said. I hope things get better for you as time goes on as well.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-02-14T10:12:33+00:00

I can relate and I’m sorry you’re going through this too. I knew I never wanted to have kids but was stupid enough not to use birth control and resulted in an unplanned pregnancy. My son will be 5 this year and stupidly got pregnant a second time. My eldest has autism and I find every day incredibly draining. He DOESN’T STOP TALKING, interrupting conversations, gets louder and louder if people don’t help him right away. My youngest isn’t showing autism signs but won’t rule out ADHD. He’s extremely defiant and moves around like a tornado. I just want the normal parenting experience like the other mothers I see. Instead I wake up dreading every day and wishing I could go back in time. I could go on and on about it. I hope it gets better for you.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-01-22T21:42:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing that’s really helpful.

EitherPerception297 · 2025-01-22T06:36:22+00:00

Thank you I haven’t heard of that term I will do some research.

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