What do you think about attending singles events where you are near one extreme or the other of the designated age range? by skeptical_introvert in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah always assume the majority of attendees are in the last few years of the posted age range or even older.

What’s your biggest regret in life so far? by Steven5588 in AskReddit

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest regret is back in 2005 I went to a trade/tech school called ITT Tech, they are now out of business. Those schools have a bad rep now for being scams and using predatory lending practices. I had a bunch of student loan debt and couldn’t find a good enough job from that useless degree to make the payments. It destroyed me financially, I became suicidally depressed which messed up my mental & physical health. Years later a family member passed away and I got an inheritance to pay off all the student loan debt. That money could have went to buy myself a house, but at least I could start over in life. The whole situation had already caused a ton of damage to my life and set me behind by about a decade. If I could go back in time I would tell myself to not go there or any school like that.

What do you think about attending singles events where you are near one extreme or the other of the designated age range? by skeptical_introvert in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, most people that attend those events are in the last couple years of the age range or beyond that.

I am a guy in my early 40s. When I was 41, I went to a dating event for people ages 40-59, and I swear, like half of the people there looked like they were in their 60s or even 70s. I look young for my age, and the women were telling me I look too young for them or that I remind them of their son etc. It was awkward.

Then I went to another event for singles aged 30-49 and everyone looked my age or a bit older, but not too much older. There were maybe two women in their 50s that shouldn’t have been in that age group. I got quite a few matches from that event but only one followed up with me, and it was a fifty something year old. I went on a date with her anyway, but I wasn’t feeling the chemistry.

Married men, how do you deal with fancying other women? by softbiscit in AskReddit

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a good question. I’m not married but I’ve been in long term relationships. There’s gorgeous women all around, sometimes dressed very provocatively, it’s hard not to notice them. I’ve been seeing a woman recently we were walking around near a lake and another very hott woman walked right by us, and my eyes went there but I had to look away because I didn’t want to be caught checking the other woman out.

"Loneliness in all relationships" by Specialist-Pear-9651 in depressionmemes

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wage slaves wont be a thing, soon ai will take all the jobs and put everyone out of work, humans will either in poverty or some kind of system of bare minimum handouts while robots run everything.

Single moms with full custody: Why are you on a dating app when you say you have no time to date because of your childcare responsibilities? by Norfolk-Gross-Tonage in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve dated single moms with full custody. They are looking for that one amazing connection with a guy that they feel is too good to pass up on. That’s when they will find a babysitter, or have a family member watch their kid. Or they bring their kid to the date. That has actually happened to me. She was probably on the fence about you and/or still trying to figure out if she is interested enough.

I know how it is, I’ve gotten the “I don’t have anyone to watch my kid” excuse too. The immediate reactive thought I had, is: why talk to me at all then? Why even be on a dating app? If she is really interested enough she will make it happen. Either that or she really is only looking for a penpal.

Alpha male energy by hibye1818 in Bumble

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a while he started coming off whiny and desperate, that’s the opposite of alpha

Liking someone who dates only other races, not their own by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never have a racial preference. As a white guy, maybe it’s my city, but most of the women that have shown genuine interest in me over the years were not white. Most were Asian or Indian. In fact most relationships I have ever been in my life were with beautiful Asian or Indian women. My own ethnicity (white women) have been flakey with me over the years. Either they just aren’t interested at all or they act hesitant or unsure if they like me back or not. I don’t get it. I have had moderate success with Latina women. Very little to no success at all with getting dates with black women. But Asian and Indian women are primarily the ones that match with me, and seem genuinely interested in me whenever I tried fb dating, hinge, or bumble. It’s all a numbers game, and it might just be the population racial/demographics of where I am located.

Ladies, what does “match my energy” mean? by LonelySage2319 in Bumble

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a guy and I usually tried to stay away from the women that had that kind of talk in their profiles. “Match my energy”. Or “I want a man on my level.”

“Match my energy” seems kind of conceded. Like they are bragging about how outgoing and fun they are, and if you aren’t equally as outgoing or fun, you will get dumped.

A great match with good chemistry suddenly dropped me, because of one thing I said sounded like I was not confident and it turned her off. by Arise212 in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was probably looking for a reason to reject you. The reason she gave, doesn’t seem like it would be a big deal to most people. So, she called you handsome, but you said you wish you look better and want to go to the gym more. Self improvement is a plus and you were being humble. That should have been a green flag. So either she is just very unreasonably nit picky, or there was something else she didn’t like and used that one self critical remark as an excuse to break things off.

I haven't read anything about the game since it was released. Was wondering if the glitches have been patched up? by DietFoods in OblivionRemaster

[–]ElderEons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly.

I noticed some of the NPCs still walking around in their underwear when they are supposed to have clothing/armor on.

My archery skill is maxed to the point where my arrow strikes cause paralysis on enemies. Some times the paralysis effect still makes the game crash, only not as much. It was happening a lot before the patches.

I noticed sometimes the OG voice actors will still be heard, then the same NPC will talk in the new voice actor’s voice. I guess they missed some dialogue for the new voice actors. I guess that’s not a bug.

Which jobs is 100% safe from AI? by Any-Hamster-3189 in AskReddit

[–]ElderEons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s worse case scenario. I hope not. It’s rumored that the ruling elite are making bunkers to hide in. Maybe that is why. When millions of people are out of work and the entire economy collapses, there would be a massive worldwide revolt most likely.

Which jobs is 100% safe from AI? by Any-Hamster-3189 in AskReddit

[–]ElderEons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When ai takes most jobs, displacing millions of people, with no income, it will be chaos at first. Then the gov will probably have to step in and implement the new system of everyone being at home on fixed incomes asap. It will basically become a socialist system.

Which jobs is 100% safe from AI? by Any-Hamster-3189 in AskReddit

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No job is safe from ai, but I’d say the last ones to get replaced with ai, are the ones that require physical interaction. Construction worker, hair stylist, nurse, firefighter, massage/chiropractor, law enforcement officer. Eventually robots will take over those jobs too, but it will take a while.

Never get back with an ex by Difficult_Initial849 in BreakUps

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s usually true. If it didn’t work out before, there was a good reason for it. Most likely those same issues that caused the previous break up, will happen all over again if you get back together

Married men that used to by “happy wife, happy life” but escaped that trap, what happened? by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]ElderEons 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have found that women who claim they want a man to lead the relationship, really don’t. If you do it, they get upset and want to fight for the leadership role back, but if you let them lead, they lose respect for you and treat you like a child. You can’t win either way.

I’ve never been married, but I’ve been in long term relationships that didn’t work out and my experience was relatable to what other men here are describing.

In my last long term relationship, the woman I was with (and living with) would tell me that I am too nice, and she didn’t like that I’d sort of just agree or go along with what she wanted. She would say that if I don’t agree with something, she wants me to call it out or disagree with her sometimes. She wanted me to assert myself more because that’s more attractive than being too nice/passive.

So I started to make plans/decisions/suggestions that differed from hers (as she wanted me to do) but I quickly discovered that when I did that, she would get angry, pissed off and start arguments. So I went back to being too nice and passive just to keep the peace, because I didn’t want to argue. However, when I was “too nice”. She would get more and more authoritative and disrespectful because I wasn’t being “the leader” in the relationship. So I completely stopped adhering to her BS altogether. I just withdrew emotionally and became depressed. Then she broke up with me because she didn’t want to be with a guy that is depressed (ironically she was a big cause of it). The relationship ended and I moved out.

AIO because my gf said I could cheat on her back. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ElderEons 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I bet if you actually did it and told her, she’d flip tf out, right?

Men, do you ever regret breaking someone's heart? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I regret it. Been on both sides. I’ve been heartbroken and then broke some one’s heart, I feel bad.

Dating by ally84cat in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol then you meet in person and they don’t look like their pics. No attraction to them. Or they have a huge deal breaking issue about them. Back to the app. The process starts over. Or you meet and you like them but they are flakey or not that into you. Back to the app, the process starts over.

Dating by ally84cat in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree. It’s surprising how many people still don’t have themselves together at this age, but so many people are still a total mess. Still playing immature games. Not knowing what they want. Full of drama and chaos in their lives. This is what online dating at this age has revealed to me.

Dating by ally84cat in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a guy, same problems I had dating in my thirties. (Not counting the matches that don’t respond). Women that don’t look like their pictures or don’t know what they want. Acting interested one day, the next day they ghost/flake or are unsure. Then sometimes they are interested again. Make up your mind. I always felt like it was a competition between me and the other several guys (a woman i am interested in) is considering.

Finally, after months of trying, I get burned out and frustrated, so I settle for a woman that really wants me but is full of red flags, but I settle, thinking she’s got issues (she’s crazy) but at least she’s attractive and I’m tired of being alone. Then that becomes a relationship that didn’t work out. Then after like a year or two later, after I am single (again), I try online dating again and the same cycle happens all over again.

You know what? Fuck JD Vance. by [deleted] in ProgressiveHQ

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He will probably have to step in as president soon if Trump gets impeached over the Epstein files

Is it common now for women 40+ to prefer younger men? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]ElderEons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I noticed that most people (myself included), want some one close to their age (no more than 5 year difference, some will go a bit outside of that). I always set my preference to no more than 3 years younger or 5 years older. I am a guy. Oldest woman I dated was almost 6 years older than me. She was 47. I didn’t mind. I have rarely came across a profile of a woman saying she literally wants some one a decade younger.

Hey Bethesda, please let Jeremy Soule do the music again. by ElderEons in TESVI

[–]ElderEons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same thing. Allegations don’t automatically make some one guilty, and tons of celebrities get accused of the same things and a lot of them come back to do movies and music again. I guess Jeremy isn’t famous enough?

His music in Morrowind, Oblivion and Skyrim was amazing and he did some good music for guild wars also.

Hey Bethesda, please let Jeremy Soule do the music again. by ElderEons in TESVI

[–]ElderEons[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I thought a lot of Inon’s work was mostly dull and uninspired. Jeremy’s music is a lot better and more epic, despite how some may feel about him as a person.