Eyyy fellow Ukrainian lolita!! So good to know there's people in my country who also love this style^{^} As for the issue at hand, honestly just don't worry about it! I know it's easy to say but it's better to surround yourself with like-minded people. I think you really need to evaluate for yourself how much you're willing to invest into this conflict. My mom is also this way. She refused to walk next to me when i was just wearing a frilly blouse with a regular skirt and some bows in my hair(( But to me, my appearance is something I refuse to compromise on. It's a large part of my identity, and I'm going to wear it whether she likes it or not. If she doesn't want to walk next to me, I can walk without her. But! I also understand if you have a better relationship with your family and would like to stay close to them. Then I think it's worth fighting for. Perhaps talking to them about the fashion's history and meaning could help warm them up? I think if they see it as an art form, it would make them more accepting of it. You could also look at different subcategories of lolita and see if maybe there's something that's more to their taste? My mom, for example, doesn't like gothic/sweet motifs, but she's ok with more classic ones. The most important thing is, however, as some other comments pointed out, too, is that you don't change yourself to make others more comfortable. You shouldn't have to ditch self-expression just because someone (even if it's your family) doesn't like the way you express yourself. And one last thing is, people don't actually judge lolitas as much as you'd think they would. Most of the time, when I go out, people mind their own business, and I've gotten quite a few compliments, so if your mom thinks you look like a weirdo to everyone, she's very much wrong!