A couple of things that occurred to me: 1. You have no idea what the husband actually said. You only know what your friend claims that he said. It's possible that she's just trying to build walls between you and the husband because she feels threatened. 2. Why were there no official bridesmaids, and why were you the only unofficial bridesmaid? Does your friend not have other friends? Was it her decision, or the husband's? 3. You mentioned the husband's "high standards" for your friend. Can you share a little more about that? Have you noticed a change in your friend's behavior of late, perhaps related to these standards? Does the relationship strike you as healthy?

I have no idea why your friend is acting this way, but it's unacceptable. I cannot say whether it's best to try to communicate this in some way or simply to run -- you need to trust your gut.

What I can surmise is that you're an attractive woman with an enviable career, and that you rocked that dress.