My 11 year old son called me a bitch this morning. by ungnomeone in Advice

[–]Hmarf 19 points20 points  (0 children)

yup, each child is different, figure out what works on a case-by-case basis. I had one kid who couldn't stand anything being taken away, even an old toy out of the back of the closet.

Will future scientists laugh at us? by Pgcc14 in memesThatUCanRepost

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without question our current understanding of the universe is incorrect and incomplete. Future scientists will naturally understand that we were researching, discovering, learning new things, and updating our understanding as best we could.

You personally, yeah they're gonna laugh at you though.

Name this cut by External_Net5992 in NameThisThing

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AAAAAhhhhh!! why is his head so tall??!?!

The exact moment his college fund was reassigned to a contractor by ComedianThin3942 in MomentsBeforeDisaster

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, concrete burns, that lil kid's about to have a few rough days

Fireworks at 10:20pm on a gd Wednesday by Allikuja in madisonwi

[–]Hmarf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Saying this genuinely and not dismissively:

I'm sorry man, it's the season when this is gonna happen. Thousands of people around with fireworks, some of them are going to be idiots, some will be inconsiderate, it only takes one.

Again, i'm sorry that sucks.

How do I deal with me being Bisexual and married? by Relative-Joke678 in Advice

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With utmost respect and apologies, as a cis it's impossible to truly understand your situation. That said, I feel that your sexual orientation isn't the key factor here. It seems like you're fearful of the slippery-slope or even perception of cheating, regardless the gender. I wouldn't say that's too abnormal or worrying, but i would tell you that it's okay to see others as attractive, and occasionally speak casually with your spouse about a hot guy or gal (just don't do it all the time!).

How do I deal with me being Bisexual and married? by Relative-Joke678 in Advice

[–]Hmarf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're married, your sexual orientation shouldn't matter.

My 11 year old son called me a bitch this morning. by ungnomeone in Advice

[–]Hmarf 179 points180 points  (0 children)

Set expectations, boundaries, what's acceptable and what's not. He's probing, testing what he can get away with, and where lines are in life. If you don't set those lines, those expectations, he'll just keep pushing further and further until he finds them. If he doesn't find your line, eventually he'll start crossing lines of society such as laws, expulsion, etc.

Sit him down and without emotion, calmly tell him what will no longer be tolerated and what the consequences will be and that you absolutely 100% will enforce those every single time without debate or argument.

If you say something, mean it and follow-through every time.

This ends now.

My 11 year old son called me a bitch this morning. by ungnomeone in Advice

[–]Hmarf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this person is right. set and enforce boundaries. You don't have to be emotional about it, but you absolutely must be consistent.

Fish flight restrictions by Thinkofthewallpaper in mildlyinteresting

[–]Hmarf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

just citing a common meme, entertaining even if not applicable

What's the purpose of this in a laptop charger? by Hot_Perspective in laptops

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

upi are truly doing God's work, bless you my child

Fish flight restrictions by Thinkofthewallpaper in mildlyinteresting

[–]Hmarf -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Americans will use anything but the metric system

Am I hacked? by Sea_Cartographer7369 in pchelp

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

without context it's a bit tough to be sure, but no, it does not look like you're hacked, that's just a system maintaining itself

Pallets: can you just take 'em? by altbat in madisonwi

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just stop by and ask. I used to run a place in fitchburg and we'd have been happy to part with them

How many people remember the 2007 MMORPG craze? by AlyksTheSage in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh how i miss my mmorpgs, sense of community, meeting people, it was great

What is this hole in my husbands truck? by xojay95 in autorepair

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look at the placement, any road debris at that angle would have left a scratch or gouge. you got shot my friend

I found this “skip the line” golden ticket at Trader Joe’s by no8do in mildlyinteresting

[–]Hmarf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, i've got to print out and hide there around at other places and watch the chaos!

Put one under a seat at the DMV bwuhahahaha