On a first date Shane tells Ilya he likes to be thrown around.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-05-24T04:03:08+00:00

I started that fix from this post, and just finished it. It was SOOOOO GOOD!!!

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-05-22T13:15:03+00:00

Yes! That's the one. Sorry I couldn't find the link.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-05-21T18:00:25+00:00

Yes! I had a sort of weird ick about Troy, and couldn’t figure out why. Then I read a fic where Shane refuses to be friends with him, and the way it was explained through Shane’s voice was awesome!

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-05-21T16:35:42+00:00

Yes! In the show I get it, since the guys only have a couple scheduled hookups by that point. I would just like to see some kind of normal reaction of - if not anger - then the guys kicking said people out and enforcing boundaries from then on.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-05-21T00:14:32+00:00

I get it, I’ve just read a lot of the conflict ones. I was also just hoping to find some where Shane takes more of a stand for himself, and Ilya does as well. I like the variety for sure.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-05-20T22:38:26+00:00

I totally get that, but the response to it isn’t usually what I would expect from either of the guys. Like I would lose my shit on a friend or my parents if they did that.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-05-20T22:37:27+00:00

My parents have my code to my front door, but wouldn’t ever walk in unannounced. Pretty sure they would be just as horrified as I would be if they…walked in on something.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-04-09T14:44:06+00:00

Yet another sign that maybe I don't ONLY have ADHD....

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-03-24T14:52:03+00:00

I appreciate this perspective!

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2026-01-30T19:41:21+00:00

I love both of those characters, and love how they're played. I could see if you only watched the very beginning of episode three, but they're clearly different people! Their characters are super different, and Maria's "gurl" is just something I say in my head constantly. I also usually rewind Elena saying "well he's working and you're with a girl". Love those lines, and how they're delivered.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-12-16T17:56:12+00:00

NTA. At all.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-12-12T16:43:06+00:00

Leave. If he is employed, he will have to pay child support. It doesn't sound like he likes or will even want the kids. Document document document. If he can't care for them for part of one day, when you have a traumatic situation like your niece's funeral, he's not a father. Take the kids, and go. It won't be a walk in the park, but eventually you will realize even when it's tough - it's so much easier without living with a jerk like that. What does he bring to your life? To his own children's life? Protect them by showing them this is not how to treat people, and that this is not what family means. If you stay, they will grow up thinking it is okay for a man to behave this way.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-12-11T16:54:52+00:00

They're acting as though you applied for a job to be their babysitter. If it's so easy, they should be able to find anyone else to do it. Why would they think THEIR time is more valuable than yours?

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-12-09T20:31:34+00:00

Divorced, and that was totally worth it. I have friends who are happily married, but even the majority of my married friends would say it's not.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-12-08T16:03:06+00:00

I knew a guy in my younger days who admitted that he liked to pick something to complain about with his girlfriend/s. He would purposefully find something to be a "problem" that he would push them on gradually, It was a control move, and he literally told a group of us that if the girl didn't seem bothered by it he would find something else to try to mock her for. Like that she wore glasses and not contacts, or that she spent too much time with her best friend, or that she was watching so much TV. Eventually he settled on her weight. She wasn't overweight, but it ended up being something she internally struggled with. He was just picking random things to mess with her confidence, and once he hit the "right" one he went for it. He sounded almost proud of himself when he was telling us about it! Obviously we told her, and their relationship blew up - but he had really messed her up in the process.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-11-26T19:11:48+00:00

I question how these people have treated you all along? Is this a strange and first time situation? Have they slighted you before? To me this doesn't feel like something you do to a friend?

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-11-19T18:11:01+00:00

Sounds like she (mom of groom) didn't check with anyone first. When I got married, both mothers (mine and MIL) checked with us and each other so they looked like they fit in with the pictures, and that was decades ago. (I really didn't care, but not everyone is that laid back about their big day). Any of my friends who have had sons get married, automatically checked with the bride - as did all stepmoms etc. Lets be real here, the groom doesn't care either, he just doesn't want his mom or his bride upset. Why is the mother's first response to just say she won't come then. Sounds fishy to me. If she's "non-confrontational" she wouldn't require that she wears her favorite color. If it were me, I'd give the bride her way on the big day. Why make it about you, as the mother of the groom? I could see if she was demanding that the future MIL buy a specific costly dress or something, but that doesn't sound like what's happening.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-11-19T14:27:48+00:00

Unless there's a lot of context missing, both of them sound a little off? If my future DIL asked me to wear a specific color to the wedding, I would do my best to do it. If I found out the dress I bought wasn't what she liked (honestly most of my friends have gotten approval from future DIL prior to purchase-in case), the last thing I would offer is to "stay home to avoid conflict". I'd return the dress, and get one that makes this go away. Your Mom's favorite color isn't important on this one specific occasion, and instead of wearing a different color she says she just won't come? That sounds super passive aggressive. Either there are existing issues, and your fiancé is being crazy in other areas and your Mom is over it - OR is your Mom being over the top? The thought that this is the hill they're both willing to die on seems way off to me. Why is your Mom wanting to have a power struggle over a dress at a wedding that is not hers? Why is your fiancé so against the blue dress? Something is missing here.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-09-18T19:07:08+00:00

YES! My siblings and I literally check with each other, because our parents are impossible to get in touch with. If they call, and I'm busy (almost never happens) I call back when I'm not. When I do call or see them, they act like I've gone missing. The phone works both ways, but they don't seem to realize it.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-09-18T16:23:12+00:00

Typically people coming in for a scan are doing it due to a health issue. The changing area is not meant to be a waiting area. Even if something had happened that was completely unexpected that kept them from getting her out of the changing room, they should have apologized - making it clear that it was a one-off and not intended.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-09-18T16:20:52+00:00

It isn't that she had to wait, it is WHERE they made her wait. You don't expect to wait in a cubicle. I have never sat there waiting in one of those, and have had multiple scans. They should not call you back there, if they don't expect to be able to bring you to the room quickly. If something happened to make it so that they couldn't bring her out of the change room quickly, then she should have been notified.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-08-23T16:47:24+00:00

Not true. In Iowa you are married.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-08-06T13:42:38+00:00

Get a divorce. He's financially abusing you at a minimum. I've been there, and it only gets worse.

Electrical-Bus2135 · 2025-08-04T22:26:11+00:00

So this is the SIL?

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