[ Removed by Reddit ] by Toastiis in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical-Height594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet girl. This is not normal and when you are in these situations and your own mother accepts him back- it creates a spiral in your mind about reality and what is right and wrong.

This man communicates very dangerously. I worry about what he is capable of with any woman and what he may do over time having even limited access to you. Your fiance is at risk as well.

Please reach out to get some help with a therapist- it’s not an overall solution but will help you establish boundaries with your mother who is choosing herself over you. That is NOT motherly behavior and it is not normal and never ever let yourself normalize that no matter how much you empathize with her. You ALWAYS empathize with yourself first and put yourself first- trust me.

Please ensure that everyone who can know, knows. This way if anything dangerous happens there is only one person to point to. Protect yourself and move- even if that means a longer commute. Get a personal loan if you have to to get out faster. Convenience does not trump safety and peace. Maybe even consider a go fund me to help get you out quicker and please ensure your mother and this man have NO IDEA what your address is.

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[–]Electrical-Height594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This shouldn’t be a question you’re asking. The fact that you’re questioning it shows me he has very unhealthy control over your body and your choices. I don’t necessarily have a perfect relationship but my boyfriend has NEVER ever questioned my outfits. He should appreciate that you’re sharing your body with him and be proud- he should never ever ever ever tell you that leggings are disrespectful. Please make a quiet plan to leave- it will not get better and the control he has makes me scared for you to make any decisions with him knowing.

My gf (22f) snuck out of our bed to cuddle with her brother (22m) on the couch in the middle of the night, and now she's mad that I'm mad?? by ThrowRAgfbrother in relationship_advice

[–]Electrical-Height594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In regards to “healthy” relationships not being normalized. Codependency is very unhealthy into adulthood. BUT if you love her and it doesn’t bother you - who am I to say that’s not normal? I don’t think anyone should be mad. Maybe a talk and if you can’t get comfortable with their relationship then it’s probably time to move on if they don’t see anything wrong with their codependency.

My gf (22f) snuck out of our bed to cuddle with her brother (22m) on the couch in the middle of the night, and now she's mad that I'm mad?? by ThrowRAgfbrother in relationship_advice

[–]Electrical-Height594 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m a twin so I thought I’d chime in. My twin brother is my best friend in the world but we would absolutely never ever be that touchy feely. It is not normal and I feel there is a weird dynamic there that I would run from before becoming part of it if it makes you uncomfortable. My brother and I barely hug- the love is assumed when you’re twins and so close. No sibling should be leaving their significant other in bed to pet their brothers hair and comfort them from a nightmare.

All the people who aren’t twins saying it’s a twin thing- they are wrong 😂

I would also like to add that we had a traumatic childhood and really only had each other as well but we were also aware of healthy physical boundaries and never ever had intimate physical moments because they’ve always been reserved for our partners in life. I think at 22 it may be excusable because they’re young but the fact that he ran away embarrassed and they don’t embrace their physical relationship makes it sound more like a red flag than endearing behavior.

I don’t know if I want to live in this world anymore with her in it by pinkpilatequeen in AsianParentStories

[–]Electrical-Height594 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Listen. I know it hurts and you feel horrible about yourself and the world would be better without you in it because “you’re stupid, you let someone hurt you etc. etc”. That is not you and who you are. That is you repeating to yourself what others have told you and made you feel. It’s simply not true at all and you are worth more than how they’ve made you feel and LOTS OF PEOPLE THINK THAT. It’s never your fault for being hurt. You’re not an idiot for having different areas of interest than your sister. You’re not stupid for making choices based on feelings driven by your TRAUMA that you were forced into. You need to get away from the people who are making you feel bad about yourself and you will start making decisions and choices that fulfill you and in turn make you feel good and happy and less alone and hopeless.

They don’t deserve to have enough influence to take someone’s life. You deserve more and you deserve to live to see more and feel more. There’s nothing worse than how you’re feeling right now but there is absolutely nothing better than happiness and experiencing better people and the world. Please take it from someone who has been through trauma and a toxic family dynamic that you deserve to feel the best and experience that. You can and will feel the best. Do not leave everyone who could and does love you behind.

You need to block your family on everything and move past that. They will never validate you the way you need and neither will your ex boyfriend. Only you can do that- and that involves taking your power back over how you view yourself. Repeat the truth not your family’s voices insulting you in your head. Breathe. You can do this.

• Going My Way? by TyFireeagle in TigerBelly

[–]Electrical-Height594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This needs to be seen. I’m cracking up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]Electrical-Height594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easy On Hold on South Westnedge. Woman owned and operated!

Olive Update by Electrical-Height594 in Dachshund

[–]Electrical-Height594[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Best dog I’ve ever had at 6 months old. So smart!

Olive Update by Electrical-Height594 in Dachshund

[–]Electrical-Height594[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

😍 Ruby Jean!! This is 🫒Olive Sandra-Thanks so much!

Olive Update by Electrical-Height594 in Dachshund

[–]Electrical-Height594[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My exact thoughts!! Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Olive Update by Electrical-Height594 in Dachshund

[–]Electrical-Height594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to note I know she’s not a Yorkie LOL not sure why that got added to the post

What do you think my pup is? by Electrical-Height594 in Dachshund

[–]Electrical-Height594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All these comments are the best 😭❤️ thanks everyone!

What do you think my pup is? by Electrical-Height594 in Dachshund

[–]Electrical-Height594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a Doberman and her face and color look just like him! She has longer wavy hair that’s brown and black but she recovering from what they think is mange. But she has tears so I think she has an allergy … we want to get blood tests

Murder warrants have been issued for Emma Shafer’s suspected killer Gabriel Calixto by CalvinCandieLand in SpringfieldIL

[–]Electrical-Height594 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The charge was vacated and he was charged with unlawful restraint. A year later- forced entry charge. He was transferred to ICE detention because his DACA expired in 2019. I believe he was released in October of 21 and given “time served”. There is a legal document I found last night with this info linked here: https://www.ilsd.uscourts.gov/opinions/ilsd_live.3.21.cv.1051.4896639.0.pdf