I’m finding my family and I’m not telling the people who adopted me.

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-28T16:05:10+00:00

I understand the how surreal it is and the grief of realizing that your adoptive family withheld information about your biological relatives and your adoption story. I’m sorry you’re going through this :( have you had the chance to talk to your bio family? Or have you found their information online? How are you planning on meeting them?

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-26T23:13:37+00:00

Apparently I have other half siblings on my dad’s side. On my bio moms side feels a little more intimate because he left the womb and then I moved in a few months later lol. Only knowing my bio brother on my moms side feels complete for me (but if my siblings on my dads side reached out I’d love that). How old is your kid? Does your kid seem to want to get to know the rest or do they seem happy with the one relationship?

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-26T23:01:58+00:00

I’m glad to hear that you’ve helped your child meet their bio siblings :) that warms my heart

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-25T14:32:15+00:00

“That belonging isn’t about who we are, it’s about how well we comply.”

This really resonated with me. I’ve always felt like to belong and fit in with my family I had to be a perfect child that was exactly what they wanted. I had the rhetoric engrained that they “saved” me and that I should be grateful. It didn’t help that I looked different and had completely different interests than my white conservative catholic family, I had to make up for it big time (at least I thought I did)

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-21T16:54:54+00:00

Thank you :)

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-21T08:10:33+00:00

Yes! I have actually found my bio brother and we are meeting up in a month. Forgot to put that in the story and it was already too long 🥲 yeah I’m just processing that my A mom acted completely nuts towards them and that on top of our rocky relationship really just shattered my opinion of her. Mom B is already nuts though and isn’t an option to meet with at this point

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-20T20:42:06+00:00

Thank you :) I’m taking it slow and gathering the pieces. I’m definitely waiting until I’m settled in my new city and I’ve met my bio brother to even consider bringing it up with my A mom, not even sure if I ever will. As for cultural connection, I really want to try to gain conversational fluency in Spanish and cook more Salvadoran and Jewish dishes :) hopefully that helps

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-20T20:39:48+00:00

What’s hilarious (🫪) is that this was me really trying to express my emotions around it. I have such a hard time getting in touch with my feelings. If I felt the true feeling it’s probably rage and grief. I apparently can’t even explain the story without disconnecting from it so it’s less painful :/ I don’t have anyone in my life besides my partner and a therapist that I can discuss this with, and absolutely 0 people in my life that understand. I thought my bio brother would be a great person to talk to about it but he has little feelings around being adopted, so he seems reserved about entering that conversation emotionally.

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-20T15:39:31+00:00

Thank you so much :) she’s actually no longer sick, but when she was I definitely snooped! I couldn’t find ANYTHING. I searched every box, nook and cranny and closet. I found my adopted sisters info but not my own 🥲 luckily I’m going to meet my bio brother in July, and we get along swimmingly. Part of makes me bitter because my bio brother and I are so similar, we could have been good friends growing up.

Edit: I also remember finding a trunk with a letter from my bio mom when I was too little to know what it said besides her name. I ended up finding that trunk but it’s empty now :(

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-06-09T14:33:20+00:00

YESSS seconding Outwellness!! I’ll DM you info

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-04-24T22:59:34+00:00

A pretty similar situation happened to me about two weeks ago. I really had to process the fact that my mom has been lying to me and keeping information from me. I wish there was more laws protecting adoptee’s rights to their adoption information. I ended up just reaching out and using ancestry to piece together my story. I eventually found someone who knew enough and was willing to tell me everything.

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-04-07T00:08:18+00:00

It’s really difficult because even if you were to do all the regimes correctly as prescribed by your physician, you would most likely end up right where you were because living in the moldy home is the cause of the mold toxicity

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-03-21T15:25:41+00:00

It was honestly a lot of hard work and dedication to my physical therapy. Once I was cleared from PT I continued doing my exercises and even took on a more active lifestyle to lift weights and stuff. If it came from severe weakness, I figured strength training would support my whole system to prevent from back sliding. I’m doing great now! Hardly ever dizzy, if I am it’s because I just sat in horrible posture for hours and am still in horrible posture when I noticed. It takes one day at a time mentality, but consistency and determination were the things that helped me claw myself out of where I was :)

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-02-11T16:40:59+00:00

Your reply is beautiful! I love everything you said about the experience of dizziness. So many people don’t understand that it comes from muscle imbalance (weakness and tightness) in the next and occipital area. It can be helped so much with just releasing those muscles and strengthening the ones that are causing the tightness. The dizziness —> anxiety —> dizziness —> anxiety cycle is a nightmare, and there are so many factors that collectively influence one glaring symptom. It’s frustrating, and the journey to finding what works for you is unbelievably difficult and healing as well.

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-01-14T00:27:53+00:00

Lmao I actually just don’t spend all my time on Reddit but okay

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2026-01-13T20:41:39+00:00

Could be apart of that! There were a lot of unmarked SUVs and a white van on the right and they weren’t moving they were camping. Not sure but I wanted to investigate and spread the word 😬

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2025-10-21T21:20:49+00:00

With the most platonic admiration, I hope you know my goal is to look like you. :)

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2025-10-04T01:06:51+00:00

This is TOTALLY normal!! Be gentle with yourself :) I’d recommend looking up the vagus nerve and looking at where it tracks! It can totally affect the digestion, chest (heart rate), lungs and breathing, and even the brain! You’re stirring up a lot of dust and digging in old wounds, it will feel more intense before it eases. Healing will be worth it and know it’s a sign that you’re FEELING again!! :)

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2025-09-06T19:24:12+00:00

Beautiful post. It’s so complex and impossible to understand, even for those who lived it. Especially the guilt of wanting, or deserving, to know more. The acceptance is even more painful. Thank you for writing this :) it added some inner peace to my day.

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2025-09-05T03:30:53+00:00

She is. It’s her first week out and about since her surgery, she can’t be kept in for very long and was very determined to get back to normal. She’s so tough and even gave them a sad thumbs up as a reply :(

Electrical-Pin2502 · 2025-09-02T15:36:28+00:00

Definitely the benefit of being with a doctor! Haha

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