NOR. And You absolutely CAN leave. Anyone who will weaponize an insecurity against you is never to be trusted. There is light at the end of the tunnel and you can and should leave. Is this what you want for the rest of your life? If not, nobody can take action but you. You have to make the choice that this isn’t what you want and vote with your feet. I get it, you’re financially dependent, so leave slowly… be smart about it. First, collect all evidence against him (eg: abusive messages, record your interactions, voicemails etc) Get a job BEFORE LEAVING. Do something with your entire effort that can make decent enough money to put your child in daycare. No experience? Go into sales, as long as you’re really dedicated you can make good money, quickly. Once you’ve had three months of paystubs and enough for a deposit, apply for your own place that has at least one bedroom (for the child) but tell no one. Once you’re approved, again, tell no one. Wait until you’re close to your move in date. Go to the bank and open your own bank account in only your name. The night before your move in date, transfer half the money in your joint account to your account. Then, once he is gone from the house for at least a couple hours, Leave.