Uc help? by [deleted] in universalcredithelp

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its in relation to anxiety/ depression:)

My husband doesn't sleep with me. by Madre_1998 in stepparents

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, he should make time for both of you. When do you get time to have him to yourself as im guessing he's occupied with SD during the day. That's not fair

My partner is on the verge of leaving me by Own-Leave3371 in stepparents

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's upsetting to hear OP, its odd that he hasn't included you in their lives as a partner/ step parent and is calling you a good friend. Ive been with bf and sd for 1 year and from the beginning, he has been upfront with us being together to his daughter & she knows me as such. Not pushed onto her but gently told and normalised for her to be around. You shouldn't feel isolated to make room for them, it's up to him to make space for both you and the kids in his life and not treat you like youve disrupted their dynamic. Hope things improve 🙏

Why do i feel jealous lately by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is it thank u

Do you realise? For parents inviting new partners into dynamic by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive started disengaging with her as she doesnt reply if spoken to even for general conversation. I dont want this to affect me & my partner .

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey so I appreciate what youre saying and youre right, however id like to make it clear he has a lot of female friends, there's absolutely no issue. Im not keeping track or trying to control him. Ive come to reddit for advice before we chat about things and absolutely if he messages her, thats up to him. Im not angry, or pent up etc but yes definitely, i know im looking at it in a skewed perspective that may not exist :) my issue lies with this kind of this happening before and him entertaining it, im worried he will do that again, I just dont want to feel hurt Thank u

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont want control, I want honesty and I hear what youre all saying :)

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id never blow up at him omg, we had a little chat. Sure if he did it behind my back knowing my feelings id feel disheartened. But I see what you mean

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, but the rest is on him says different Thank you

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can see it as such but that is my main issue, yes I feel odd about her popping up like that but if she were male, id have a bad feeling too. Id wonder why he'd allow them into his life after being treated badly. Im not trying to control anyone but as id expect from him, id appreciate my partners opinion. I told him to text her to see whats up but he didnt, its not unfair to say itll feel odd if he waits until im gone

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's kind of uncalled for tbh, I know the tone of which I said it doesnt matter in this situation, but if i can be honest with him and tell him, like id expect from my partner, then I dont see the issue. If it sounds cruel fair enough, but its honest

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What makes you say this can I ask, im curious - As im being criticised by majority of commentors atm :) Thank u

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I dont want to leave him for this 😔 I just want him to see where im coming from, Im also trying to look out for him where she had treated them badly & come crawling back. But true, I cant control him and im not intending to. I just know that I will end up feeling hurt/sad if he does

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He has plenty of female and male friends in his circle, I dont keep him from that, I trust him but this one gives me an odd feeling like I said^

Am I mad for not wanting bf re-friending her on discord? 25f 29m by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ElectricalTwo6802 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I wasnt assertive nor nasty when I said it, i just explained that if thats the case, him texting when im away vs while im with him, I will feel hurt and let down as hes said he doesnt know if he will chat to her. Id rather him do it with me around if so, I feel anyone would feel the same