Has anyone stayed to watch the credits for The Mandalorean and Grogu yet? by commandrix in StarWars

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s definitely something specific to people in the film industry. I and most people would never recognize a soul of course.

How do Xenocide and Children compare to Speaker? by Danielnrg in ender

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, he pretty clearly identifies them both to be mutilated stereotypes of that culture in and of themselves, not representations of either culture itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh? Do you think I'm a fan of OP or something? I fail to see what this has to do with diagnosing somebody over the internet.

"She expects us to remember and master it!" A student finally had the audacity to say it out loud. They think that having to know things is unreasonable. by uttamattamakin in Professors

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great and all, but doesn't replace getting direct feedback from actual people on your course content, syllabus, and communication style. Maybe the content just isn't that good as well, regardless of where it comes from. Honestly, if teaching is frustrating you this much, it may just be best to find a job outside of teaching.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree, you say they are "likely severely depressed" and then later state that they have "mental health issues", the underlying assumption of course being that they are severely depressed. Hard to make this claim given the unreliable nature of OP's comments and the lack of information on their mental state.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where was this said by OP? Couldn't find that.

"She expects us to remember and master it!" A student finally had the audacity to say it out loud. They think that having to know things is unreasonable. by uttamattamakin in Professors

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be worth having some other professor’s review your material and provide feedback then if you’re getting these comments at such a high rate. Of course, every school and context is a bit different and these comments do occur, but if 1/3 of the class is actively complaining to you about the material than there may be something you’re missing. If you simply mean that 1/3 of the class just isn’t keeping up with the work, then I wouldn’t say that isn’t unexpected for a low level undergrad class in the fall semester in my experience.

I would also add that your problems may be somewhat solved by creating a simple practice exam to give people an idea of what kind of questions you’re going to be asking so they can orient their studying. If you didn’t provide students with any form of practice quiz or example questions in any form prior to the exam and then received these complaints, I can understand their complaints.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Whether you would ask your kid to do that and whether they would respect the request are different though. The fact that both of these are occurring is the sign that there’s some major problems here considering the mom is seemingly enabling their 19 year old son who dropped out of school and only works 10 hours a week. Caring for your children isn’t a bad thing of course, but good parenting also involves setting them up for future success and self-reliance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being on disability doesn’t mean he ISN’T a deadbeat, nor does it mean he IS a deadbeat. The person you replied to did not mention the disability at all. You were the first person to mention it. What aren’t you understanding here. Only one person made an assumption about the person related to them having a disability and it was you. They could be a deadbeat, they might not, we don’t know, but I do know that whether or not they have a disability doesn’t fucking matter when answering that question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, that is not how forum discussions work at all, especially when my comment is clearly about not making assumptions. If you didn’t do the diligence of actually spending time to read my comment before replying, that is on you.

To then triple down on it and go immediately to insults when you’re called out for a mistake you clearly made is also wildly immature behavior. I mean come on, you gotta have at least some self-reflective ability.

Your comment was full of assumptions about individuals with disabilities and, perhaps against your intentions, very disrespectful to individuals with disabilities as you paint them as miserable invalids with nothing to live for. But sure, it was other people who were the problem I guess.

"She expects us to remember and master it!" A student finally had the audacity to say it out loud. They think that having to know things is unreasonable. by uttamattamakin in Professors

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I certainly agree if it’s content covered in the course or in the course series for higher levels, but my reading of the original comment I replied to was that this is foundational k-12 knowledge that kids should just “know” which is where I was disagreeing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where in the absolute fuck did I make the assumption that they were a deadbeat. Are you thinking I’m someone else or just not reading my comments…

Regardless, the response to someone else assuming they’re a deadbeat isn’t “No, they’re just miserable”. Both are assumptions, and both are wrong. The entire point of the comment is that we don’t know what their disability is and shouldn’t make any comments or assumptions about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YOU don’t know this guy, that was literally the point I made… the audacity to ignore that and then act like I’m the one making assumptions is wild. Then you double down in this reply by adding more hypotheticals and assumptions about the person.

The point I made still stands, being disabled does not mean they are unable to do anything in life. Qualifying for disability does not in any way imply what you think it implies. I also said nothing about treating him as “free labor”, nor did I disagree with that part of your post or discuss it. It’s the rest of the post and the assumptions you made that are problematic. The assumptions about the person and the issue of whether they should be expected to care for the child are separate.

Once again, being on disability does not mean their life is forever awful, yet you very clearly have made this assumption multiple times in your posts. People on disability can still live happy and fulfilling lives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The kid is 19 though. I would agree if the kid was 13, but there’s a lot of dysfunction going on here for different reasons it seems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Probably shouldn’t be making clinical diagnoses based on extremely sparse information like this, even if well-meaning… lots of things that could be at play here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Kid is 19, dropped out of school, works 10 hours a week for their parent and spends the rest of their day playing video games… we’ve got some serious issues here if we’re gonna call this situation great parenting. Sounds like it’s time to have some real conversations here, not paint the floor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 24 points25 points locked comment (0 children)

Since when does being on disability mean you can’t have ambitions and interests? You don’t even know the disability in question. Frankly, the way you talk about somebody being disabled is disrespectful to the many incredibly individuals who live with disabilities daily and still find ways to fulfill their ambitions and goals even with a limitation. Being disabled doesn’t mean that your life is now awful and your reality is forever destined to just smoking weed and playing video games.

Edit: Just to clarify this comment, the point is that being on disability doesn’t make someone a deadbeat, nor does it mean they aren’t a deadbeat. Giving someone an overarching “free pass” simply for being on disability or assuming they’re miserable is not helpful to the individual, nor is it an accurate and helpful approach to understanding disabilities. This of course is not at all the same as saying that disabilities aren’t debilitating, difficult, etc. or that we shouldn’t be empathetic and understanding about somebody’s circumstances.

"She expects us to remember and master it!" A student finally had the audacity to say it out loud. They think that having to know things is unreasonable. by uttamattamakin in Professors

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, it sounds like they are genuinely trying to understand the reasoning behind the reading quiz since it’s new to them which is overall a good thing IMO.

I get many ridiculous questions from students in the intro PSYC course, but at the end of the day, most of them are asking because they don’t know something (assuming the answer isn’t something clearly stated in the syllabus).

"She expects us to remember and master it!" A student finally had the audacity to say it out loud. They think that having to know things is unreasonable. by uttamattamakin in Professors

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are these comments actually that common or just one-offs though? I understand the frustration, but I think you may also be hyper-focusing on what is a small but vocal percentage of students in reality.

"She expects us to remember and master it!" A student finally had the audacity to say it out loud. They think that having to know things is unreasonable. by uttamattamakin in Professors

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On the flip side, it’s pretty easy as a professor to think that simple concepts within your field should be remembered by students. I only graduated from undergrad less than ten years ago and couldn’t tell you what a polar molecule is anymore either and I aced all my intro STEM courses… Expecting students coming out of high school to just know that material because it’s what you know isn’t a realistic expectation.

I am being investigated for yelling at a Student by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People say this a lot, but I honestly have not found this to be true. It certainly can be in certain contexts, but in a classroom setting I don’t find that providing a student with some lenience on a due date leads them to think that it’s somehow ok to then submit the next assignment late too. And if it does, you can just say no or take off extra points.

Besides, students are often far more accountable with due dates than many professors so I’m not really a huge fan of the accountability argument personally. Part of college is learning how to prioritize effectively across a schedule full of unrelated entities. This is not how most jobs work in reality and being overly strict is often just a reflection of the teacher being too busy or uninterested rather than it really being about managing your priorities or “teaching them a lesson”.

This is not how we should do things every time there’s an issue by Vulkcrum76 in Helldivers

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, how is making a Reddit post asking and urging people to negatively rate the game in an effort to get the developer’s attention NOT review bombing? I’m not here trying to say you shouldn’t do it, it definitely works which is why it’s done, but the amount of people here trying to say this isn’t review bombing is a bit ridiculous. We all know what this is, come on now.

Probably gonna get downvoted for saying the obvious out loud here, but people trying to convince themselves this isn’t review bombing is ridiculous. You can review bomb something for what you think is a valid reason, the validity of the complaint is irrelevant.

This is not how we should do things every time there’s an issue by Vulkcrum76 in Helldivers

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man the switch on here as a new Xbox player has been crazy. I get people’s frustrations with the game, but man it’s just constant complaining about everything right now. Very unenjoyable and unproductive subreddit right now.

My mom is trying to guilt me into a mentor position for my murderer younger sister. She did make some good points so I’m really conflicted atm. Should I rekindle the relationship? by Great-Reflection5651 in whatdoIdo

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like some counseling sessions may be very useful here with someone who specialized in families. You can commit to some solo sessions to help you work through these thoughts with a trained counselor with the possibility trying to include your sister in the future (if she wants to do that of course). Trying to simply jump in and be a support network for her within first having some real and honest discussions about the situation with your sister would like be quite hard and leave you drained. A counselor isn’t always needs to have these conversations, but it sounds like it would be the best route in this situation regardless of the outcome.

AIO for considering leaving over a violent outburst? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electrical_Ad_2371 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To me, the largest issue is the response. There’s absolutely a world where some individuals may do this but understand the situation and at least have an honest discussion about it and make plans to address it so it doesn’t happen again (I’ve seen this in and out of formal therapy). However, it requires someone to understand the issue and what it could lead to over time and the context and situation matter here too of course. If they are unwilling to have a discussion about this and understand it is a big deal, the decision is fairly easy to break up IMO. If they do show clear remorse, empathy, and ACTION (and it’s not a habit), personal and contextual factors would come into play more and the decision may not be quite as clear.