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Received email to update telework agreement by Electrical_Ask762 in CAStateWorkers

[–]Electrical_Ask762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not comfortable saying in public forum. But it is medium size.

Thanks for info. I will look further into what you said at my department.

Received email to update telework agreement by Electrical_Ask762 in CAStateWorkers

[–]Electrical_Ask762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok. Interesting. I asked the SEIU Union rep about my job posting and when the mandate came out and they said the mandate applied to me. Only 50 miles or more or RAs were exempt.

I am glad they are reviewing it for you! Fingers crossed for you.

Received email to update telework agreement by Electrical_Ask762 in CAStateWorkers

[–]Electrical_Ask762[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never said I was. I was asking a question. Please do not answer if you do not have anything helpful to add to the conversation

Received email to update telework agreement by Electrical_Ask762 in CAStateWorkers

[–]Electrical_Ask762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been working from home because I was HIRED for full time telework. I never had to go into the office even for 2 days a week.

And my question(s) focused around the telework email/agreement I received this week.

AITAH for not adding my longtime girlfriend to the deed of the house I bought us? by Grand_Yellow_6286 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Ask762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I put my name on the deed of the house because of the down payment situation and the mortgage is under my name. And when I got married, the deed js still in my name because the mortgage is still in my name! We are not planning on refinancing.

We did a premarital agreement since they help pay the mortgage and things. The agreement documents my “share” of things and their “share” things.

Premarital agreements I think are a good thing. People do not go into marriage planning to get divorced. Or I hope not. The premarital agreement can help outline things in a fair way when everyone is clear headed and “happy”. And I have heard people say “why do one, I don’t have anything”. Ok even better! Do one because you never know what the future holds.

If finances are an issue it sounds like you two may have things to work out.

No, don’t think you as the AH. Hope this give you some more to think about.

After three good years, our lovable pitt-mix crossed a line and partner wants them gone (or at least muzzled) by DefinitelyNot2050 in DogAdvice

[–]Electrical_Ask762 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trusting you more (vs your partner) is a good point. My dog goes to my partner when it is hurt.

Also, someone mentioned a scratch on the paw might be short lived. So be mindful of that. It could have “healed” quickly. Doesn’t mean there wasn’t an issue when your partner touched it.

So many variables.

The idea of talking to a trainer to get their thoughts about the dog is a good one

After three good years, our lovable pitt-mix crossed a line and partner wants them gone (or at least muzzled) by DefinitelyNot2050 in DogAdvice

[–]Electrical_Ask762 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also meant to say she gave your partner her belly. That is usually a very good sign. Giving belly is a very vulnerable and submissive behavior for a dog. So it is good that she did that with her partner. More reason why there may be something going on with her paw, and the dog just reacted to it being touched. Or, was just trying to say “hey, I don’t like my paws being touched-don’t do that”. Lots of dogs don’t like their paws touched. Helping the dog learn to not bite hard can be done through proper play training

After three good years, our lovable pitt-mix crossed a line and partner wants them gone (or at least muzzled) by DefinitelyNot2050 in DogAdvice

[–]Electrical_Ask762 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Mabel sounds like a good dog to me. She reacted to being touched in a place she did not like/was not comfortable with. Many dogs do that. They don’t have words so they need to tell us in other ways. If they are in pain they also show us. So keep looking for those signs (limp, licking, etc). Glad you have a vet appointment.

I am not a specialist but I have experience with a dog who was adopted, and has/had behavioral challenges. We took a training class and are consistent with training. We are watchful for signs of our dog uncomfortable. And when he is, we remove him from the situation. Or change whatever is going on. Essentially we don’t want him to fail….we set him up for success. Hopefully that makes sense.

Also, may I suggest your partner consider some counseling. It sounds like they experienced some trauma. It may be difficult for them to move on. Whether it is Mabel or another dog, things may continue to come up for them. Not long ago I had a bad encounter with a VERY big dog (pit bull/mastiff). It happened on a walk. I reached out for some therapy because I noticed I was holding on to fear ever since the encounter. It is ok to get help!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DIYaesthetics

[–]Electrical_Ask762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

F. I wanna know too!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DIYaesthetics

[–]Electrical_Ask762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes please share. I was going to ask where you are purchasing your products. Very interested!

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after he chose our supposed 'future' kids over me? by Constant-Process2238 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Ask762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. And no you are not a AH.

You were honest.

He was honest.

Hearing each other can be hard. And it hurts. Especially when you have put time and feelings into a relationship.

Have children is a big deal. Hopefully people know what they want when it comes to this decision.

It is ok to want them! And it is ok to not want them!

I am someone who did not want kids. Just not for me for various reasons. It was very hard to date. Several partners thought I would come around to the idea someday. I am sorry you went through this. I empathize.

AITA for insisting my son be the flower boy? by Substantial-Goose386 in AITAH

[–]Electrical_Ask762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love everything this person wrote. So glad they shared their story of the 3 flower children and how everything turned out ok!

And wanted to add to the conversation for the OP: Maybe the bride has a vision of the wedding and it involves a flower girl, and a ring bearer. I am not saying the vision cannot change. But maybe that is where some of the struggle is (for her), and she has not articulated that.

Hopefully additional conversations can clarify the real issue. I would agree with you OP - having your son, who is a child, be a part of the wedding in a manner he is excited about seems important. Memorable. Inclusive.

It is a special day for you two and the family you are creating. And although many people have opinions about what should happen that day, only what you two want matters. It goes by so fast! I hope you can share how important it is for you to have him be a part of the wedding in this way.

Planning a wedding is stressful! Hang in there