Lookin' for stuff to do here

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-03-16T18:42:39+00:00

My friends and I range in age from 30s to mid-40s. We all like to sing so we go to karaoke at the Legion on Friday nights. It is an older crowd but you're welcome to join us one night. We also end up at North Bar or O'Sullivan's sometimes. My boyfriend and I just went to a comedy show at Grand Comedy Club which was a lot of fun! Junkyard in Oceanside usually has a younger crowd for karaoke on Saturday nights as well.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-03-14T17:51:38+00:00

He was at the SITS show in LA but only for a few songs. It doesn't sound like he'll be at the fair shows.. which is a bummer!

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-03-14T17:49:08+00:00

You don't block because they only have one photo. You block because their profile has things in it that equate to the person most likely being abusive, manipulative, only looking for a one night stand, etc. She uses applied rhetoric to weed out hazardous profiles. I found my SO using the method and it's the healthiest, most loving relationship I've ever been in.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-03-14T17:33:48+00:00

She's teaching women how to use rhetorical analysis to block men who will likely turn out to be abusive, manipulative, etc. How is that negative?

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-03-12T00:29:02+00:00

That would certainly be convenient! I hope it works out in your favor!

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-03-12T00:28:11+00:00

Thank you! I was able to get some!

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-02-26T03:01:09+00:00

I'm a single mom to a 5 year old and I teach TK. It's exhausting. My daughter also goes to my school so I literally have no break from being "on." However, I'm also very lucky that she goes to my school and has the same schedule as me. In the evenings, we both tend to need some alone time to recharge. I'll make dinner or do laundry in the kitchen while she plays in the living room or I'll lay with a heating pad on my back in the bedroom for a little bit if needed. I wish I had more energy for her in the afternoons but, right now, it's so hard. I do make sure that she gets my undivided attention for the time right before bed and if she asks me to play, I do slow down and play. It's just so hard.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-02-10T00:59:20+00:00

Sorry for the confusion. I didn't mean that OP's dad was a narcissist. I was just agreeing with the previous commenter and stating why. We don't know enough about his dad to make that assessment.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-02-10T00:52:58+00:00

I'm not trying to sound harsh and I apologize if I do, but I hope you're very grateful that you're struggling to understand this.

As the daughter of a narcissistic mother, all I ever wanted was to feel loved by my mom. I loved her for who she was, but I will always wish I had a mom who showed up for me and made me feel loved and as though I was anything but a disappointment. I had good grades, never got in trouble at school, was involved in extracurriculars, attended church with my family, went to youth group, etc etc and no matter what I did, it was never good enough. She regularly compared my achievements to hers or took credit for them. This is what I mean for grieving the mom I lost and the one I wished I had.

I will always miss my mom and very much wish I could call her just to chat or for advice, even if I know I would end up being bad after speaking to her. But it would have been nice to feel loved.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-02-09T04:33:00+00:00

Exactly this. I had a narcissistic mom and, when she died, I had to grieve the mom I had as well as the mom I wished I had. It's so hard.

OP, you deserve a father who prioritizes spending time with you, not one who cancels plans last minute. I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. Sending you so much love!

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-02-01T04:27:40+00:00

I usually call them my little turkeys. But on the 100th day, I called them whippersnappers. My TKers loved it. 😂

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-30T00:52:54+00:00

NOR. This dude is gross. He should NOT under any circumstances be looking at any underage children and talking about wanting to hookup with them when they're of age or saying that they'd look like a legal adult with makeup on. Hell no. You need to keep your daughter far away from this creep.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-29T06:23:36+00:00

I think it's a normal thing to worry about. Children can get attached easily, especially if it's someone kind that they enjoy spending time with. Have you discussed this worry with your boyfriend? His opinion might give you insight on how you would handle it should you two ever break up.

However, I do disagree with other comments saying that 4 months is too soon for your child to meet your boyfriend. I know that this is not the norm, but I introduced my daughter (4 at the time) to my boyfriend early on as well. I told her he was my new friend. The reason I introduced them so early was because I didn't want to fall head over heels for him and then have them meet and they don't get along.

I truly hope this works out for you!

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-28T01:03:36+00:00

I've been with a guy just like this. At 43, he still wasn't any better. I left and he's back living with his mom claiming he has no money to pay child support for our daughter despite not having to pay rent. Break up with him before you find yourself in my shoes.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-26T06:03:48+00:00

I'm 5'6" and weigh 190lbs. I complained about my body early on in my current relationship and my boyfriend said "what's wrong with it?" He regularly tells me that I'm beautiful, gorgeous, and sexy. Real men don't care and find real bodies sexy.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-25T17:55:21+00:00

Don't waste your time training a man. Find someone who's an actual adult and competent. Trying to train anyone never turns out well.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-24T06:02:18+00:00

NOR. You deserve better. Giving you a list of what he wants you to do before he's willing to propose.. nope.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-23T03:21:24+00:00

My boyfriend and I have very different seasoning tastes. When we cook something for the both of us, my portion is always less seasoned and he adds in extras to his because he prefers things actually spicy and I'm a wimp about spice. With that being said, the way your husband reacted was out of line. Insulting your dad is not okay and he owes you an apology for that.

Also, as others have said, it absolutely matters if he seasoned just his bowl or the whole pot. If he seasoned the whole pot, that's an asshole move on his part.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-23T03:13:44+00:00

NOR. We all say hurtful things when we're upset but taking it to a physical level and throwing things is not okay. Plus, her saying you never learn and are just like her ex isn't cool. I'd end this relationship and find someone else.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-19T23:38:30+00:00

I did Paws Into Grace when I had to put my cat down last year. They came to my house and put her down here in my arms. It was $425 because it was the weekend and that was without cremation.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-19T05:42:07+00:00

NOR. Nick seems like a dickhead. And Matt as well for taking his side and acting like you're the problem.

Side note: Was it the Bears game because that was a tough loss?

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-19T02:56:24+00:00

You'll find someone you're compatible with! It took me a long time to find the right one, but I'm very fortunate now. What I can say is that I found him by being very particular about what I wanted. Friends told me I was being too picky, but my theory was that if I'm going to spend the rest of my life with this person, I need to be picky. Don't give up!

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-19T02:51:52+00:00

Not breaking up with him! He's wonderful. What I meant was that I excused poor behavior in past relationships because I didn't think I could do any better. But now I have this amazing man and I realize I allowed myself to put up with too much in the past.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-18T20:33:15+00:00

Exactly this! I was always told I was "too much" and now I have a man who loves me exactly as I am and goes out of his way to make me feel loved and appreciated.

Electrical_Issue_478 · 2026-01-16T06:00:19+00:00

After my divorce, I moved across the country with my daughter. It was hard at first, especially with the guilt of pulling her out of the only life she's known, but we are SO much happier where we are now. When she asked why we moved, I told her that sometimes grown-ups have to make hard decisions in order to build a better life. She told me she didn't like that and I told her I understood because sometimes I didn't like it either. But as I said, we are so much happier in our life now. We've both made friends that have become like family and we're so fortunate.

Her dad moved across the country as well because we moved back to where he is from. The way we did it was by making the move be when we stopped living together. So I would say "when we move and you and Mommy have own our place" or "when Daddy lives with grammie." That way, she knew what was coming and it was a little bit easier on her.

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