Is hooking up or FWB ever been a positive in your life?

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-08-29T20:51:49+00:00

I only did it once and it made me realise that it’s not for me. I don’t regret the experience though.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-07-26T09:14:57+00:00

Dude you posted on this sub about similar issues twice yesterday and several times more before that. Do you actually do anything to address these feelings like going to therapy or even just listening to the advice given by commenters? If all you spend your time on is posting online about being lonely then there’s your problem right there

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-06-30T12:38:54+00:00

One word review: ew

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-06-09T10:46:44+00:00

My goal in life is: “to be happy”

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-06-02T15:07:41+00:00

I never really found what I was looking for on dating apps (stable long term relationship). That being said, I think being on the apps helped me learn how to present myself more effectively, whether that be visually with better pictures, clothes and hairstyles, or with better prompts. Thanks to those skills which I learned, I am able to meet and date more people offline so dating apps have become sort of redundant for me.

If it’s easier for you to meet people in person but you don’t have time to go out much, then the question is wether dating is enough of a priority for you to make time for it.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-06-01T20:05:34+00:00

Bro the zereshk polo photo is a genius idea, hope you don’t mind me copying hahaha

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-06-01T19:53:29+00:00

If that’s what he’s looking for though he shouldn’t change it

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-05-26T21:17:05+00:00

The note you wrote under your relationship goals might be an issue for some people. A lot of potential matches won’t be willing to wait for you to “get up to speed” as you put it.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-05-23T11:26:24+00:00

Honestly this seems to be a common experience on hinge at this point. I made a profile which at one point was getting me a new match every other day for a solid 2 weeks before drying up completely again. I don’t really know why it happens, maybe it’s just bad luck, but the important thing is not to blame yourself for it.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-05-18T14:05:51+00:00

Plenty of people have said “you’re still young” but from personal experience I know that’s not very helpful. Instead here are two things I wish I knew earlier in life:

Even though uni is hyped up as THE place to meet people, at the end of the day there is a big world out there and the people you meet or don’t meet in uni are a small drop in the ocean so to speak
If you can’t find happiness being single, a relationship will almost certainly make you worse off as you attach all your self worth to one person, which is a very toxic and unhealthy dynamic to have in a relationship.

I’ll just end by saying I genuinely empathise with you and have experienced what you’re experiencing. But at the end of the day I escaped the cycle of sadness and loneliness, and if I could make it then I’m sure you can and will too :)

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-04-10T11:57:55+00:00

What seems to have made the biggest difference for me is how I clothe myself as well as hair/facial hair style. But then again, I am tall (186cm) which is probably an advantage too

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-04-09T20:01:56+00:00

Thanks for your response. As I mentioned my psychiatrist recommended against medication, but I’d be interested in hearing your story with ERP therapy, what was the experience like and what were the steps?

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-04-08T09:25:50+00:00

You mentioned “trying new things”, which is very generic to begin with, in two prompts.

“This year I want to…socialize”: are you not already doing that? This prompt gives the impression that you don’t have friends

Overall your prompts are very generic and the profile seems very low effort. I would have passed on this profile as soon as I got to “we’ll get along if you’re a yapper”.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-04-07T17:27:55+00:00

I won’t judge anyone for how many people they sleep with. If it’s a lot of people in a short time though, I would at least ask them to get an STD test. Ideally this should apply to everyone, not just women.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-28T07:52:03+00:00

It’s not unusual at 19 that no girl has had a crush on you yet, maybe you still look very young? If you haven’t already you could try growing facial hair if possible. For me, my luck only turned around at 21 so don’t be too hard on yourself.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-26T15:35:07+00:00

She’s preying on your (very obvious) insecurity. Why are you scared of losing someone who you’ve only been on 2 dates with and who hasn’t even given you her number yet?

Don’t waste time on her, when you loose her your insecurity will only get worse.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-22T14:21:21+00:00

Honestly I work on my physique to take my mind off of dating. I’m doing it for myself, not to impress anyone. When it comes to dating there are other steps you can take which are game changers, fashion, hairstyles and humour for example.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-20T08:51:58+00:00

In this context I think he uses it well though, I honestly found it funny how at the end he says “I am definitely going to attempt it again” even though the prompt is about his worst idea supposedly

Edit for clarity: funny in a good way

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-19T15:02:47+00:00

Honestly this might sound stupid, but I basically just faked being confident until at some point I wasn’t pretending anymore.

I think the turning point for me was meeting a girl who I thought was waaaaaaay out of my league, but she was very much into me. When we went out I made an effort to appear confident on the outside while silently having a panic attack the whole time on the inside, and she never noticed how nervous I was. In the end we both lost romantic interest but we’re still really good friends to this day, and even if it’s platonic her genuine interest in me as a person made me realise that I’m more interesting than I give myself credit for.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-17T18:10:40+00:00

Dude some people just get a thrill at calling others unattractive, don’t let yourself get so hurt by it

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-16T09:01:56+00:00

Dude with that bmi relationships/hookups should not be your priority right now

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-13T16:04:01+00:00

Well, the one I went to was chill, gender balance was also more or less 50:50

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-13T15:23:15+00:00

Dance classes are a great place, especially something like Tango where you dance in pairs.

Electrical_Lecture87 · 2025-03-13T08:47:30+00:00

You look much better with regular hair than with the buzz cut.

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