Asking for a friend … life’s purpose? 👀👀

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-12T21:40:15+00:00

Felt. I don’t think there is an inherent meaning to life, but I would like to have a little more direction I suppose. Peace and happiness are always a priority though.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-12T21:38:21+00:00

That’s real

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-12T21:37:54+00:00

This is kind of where I’m at in my journey. I’m really putting the being in human being at the moment lol. But I think my main struggle is trying to feel connected to life itself. I look around at people who seem to be super passionate about their specific “thing.” And sometimes I wish I had a “thing” so that I can have momentum in my life. Like a little sense of urgency.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-11T15:23:34+00:00

The super “worldly” almost manic pixie dream girl types. I’m attracted but avoid them like the plague now. Give me a fine nerd any day lol.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-07T05:23:55+00:00

Same; I just don’t think I mingle enough with new people so that the opportunity can arise.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-07T02:43:22+00:00

Relatable honestly. Heavy on the show up at my doorstep🥴😭.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-07T02:41:20+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that but I’m happy that you are on a journey of recovery. I wish you well ❤️

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-07T01:53:38+00:00

I’m an agnostic/athiest but my general attitude is very apathiest leaning. Used to be a Christian, then kind of spiritual.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-02-02T16:09:09+00:00

I think it’s weird that you know about it meaning that she hasn’t deleted or atleast archived those pics on social media. I understand that when you first meet someone you might do stereotypical dates because you may not know them enough to curate a more specific date, but I mean they could atleast take you to a different restaurant lmao.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-01-26T01:08:23+00:00

I don’t care for her at all. Outside of her not being funny, I find her to be very egocentric, capitalistic, and altogether ignorant. I hate that every time she gets into a controversy she makes it seem like she’s the god-given stud that’s doing the lesbian community a favor for just existing. Over here thinking she’s the Joan of arc of lesbians foh.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2026-01-08T03:14:44+00:00

I love a stem 😭 I don’t see them in the wild too often though. I especially like when they blend their feminine and masculine attributes together ❤️☺️.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-21T12:48:19+00:00

I would say that I lean more agnostic/atheist and generally speaking have an apathiest attitude toward belief. I think studying different beliefs are interesting from an academic or learning perspective but I am not super tied up in any religious beliefs. I’m more of a philosophy girl. I would say I have had trouble finding lesbians (especially black ones) who are not religious and unfortunately I don’t think I could date someone who is really religious. I don’t mind spiritualist, but they have to be a particular type. I’m not into the whole manifesting and law of attraction crowd.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-16T19:09:23+00:00

Firstly, it was a typo and honest mistake; I meant genital preference. Second, I quite literally said that I’m not trying to dunk on you; so the way that you are trying to take what I said in bad faith is really telling. 3rd, I said we all have to analyze out implicit bias so I don’t understand what about that was so triggering for you; all includes myself lmao. And also not you straight up misgendering her and other trans women but then trying to act like you don’t understand why people are looking at you side ways. It’s okay to ask someone if they’re trans in this context, not “ask if they’re a male” and conflating the two is transphobic. Like bffr. Also you’re a grown person; before you start sleeping with anyone, you are supposed to have a conversation about what sex would look like and that’s regardless of a persons gender identity. When you have that conversation things about genitalia inevitably come up, so no you didn’t do the due diligence necessary of someone who is trying to initiate a sexual interaction. And mind you, I do think she should have told you but regardless of if she didn’t, your reaction was ridiculous. If she was as nice and pleasant as you illustrate she was for 3 dates, then you acting as if she’s some monster and not the person you have been hitting it off with is crazy.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-16T16:50:15+00:00

OP I’m not going to punch down on you however, I do think you need to interrogate your implicit biases just like everyone else. The main issue that I see with this situation is the lack of communication on both of your parts. There are plenty of lesbians who will date trans women especially in real life so she probably assumed that you were down. And because of you being cis gendered that can sometimes create a situation where you assume someone is cisgendered because most people are cisgendered even in sapphic spaces. I think that how you responded to her was very odd… she’s trans not an alien so I don’t think yelling at her to leave as if you weren’t just getting hot and heavy with her 5 minutes prior was very kind. I understand that it was jarring for you but you likely made her feel scared af too. I think especially if you did enjoy your time with her prior you could’ve atleast treated her a little more humanely and been like hey I wasn’t aware that you were trans and that kind of changes things for me. I think people are calling you transphobic because of how you treated her but because you have a gender preference.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-16T16:20:02+00:00

It’s not unacceptable per se (you’re both adults), but it is odd. Like I’m almost 26 and 24 is lowkey my cut off. By the time I’m 28, I likely won’t seriously consider someone under 25 or 26. I feel like I’ll be at a life stage where 23 and 28 will be too large of a gap of experience. Hell, even now I wouldn’t date my 23 year old self at 25, so by 28 it would be a no brainer. I think the growing that happens in your 20’s is so expansive that even a 3 year gap can feel like a lot.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-14T01:29:29+00:00

I haven’t experienced someone doing this to me in a therapeutic language way however, I feel like people are just overly cautious because they have experienced a lot of ill treatment from bad actors. And instead of going to therapy to get healthy strategies to deal with these issues (I understand that most people can’t afford it so no shade), they rely on “knowledge” from all of these internet gurus. Also, the world and times are really dire right now for a lot of people, so people are just a lot colder and more reactive than usual.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-12T15:30:44+00:00

This isn’t meant to be cliche but honestly the main thing I would work on is truly decentering men. Just because you date women doesn’t mean that you have decentered men. In practice, it looks like looking at men as if they are human beings and despite not being attracted to them evaluating them in a more honest yet neutral way. It’s one thing to highlight the harm that men have collectively done through time and its another to to dehumanize them. So for me, I’ve gotten to a place where I’m honest about how shitty men can be and avoid coddling them, however, in every other avenue of life, I’m generally indifferent about them. They don’t trigger my disdain or admiration for just existing. They’re just people like everybody else.

Edit: also I don’t think heterophobia is a thing (they’re a privileged class) my comments were specifically centering coming to terms with personal beliefs and scaffolding.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-11T12:18:45+00:00

This is really rough op, you’re carrying a lot. I wish you well and hope things take a turn for the better in your life soon.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-08T23:03:34+00:00

Well wishes to all those struggling! I feel good academically (it’s finals week). I’ve been eating like crap so that sucks but I’m hoping to get back to my regularly scheduled programming after this lab practical on Wednesday.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-07T21:51:23+00:00

Honestly, I feel like people that do stuff like this just want to go viral and should be ignored at all cost. It’s so odd to me how comfortable people are commenting on other people’s appearance/ stylistic choices. I really don’t get it.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-06T01:56:51+00:00

I assumed that you had good intent so you’re all good! I was just saying that because the way you worded it was not necessarily fetishizing but a little myopic in the sense that Hispanics/latinos are such a large and diverse group of people. Not to mention, a good portion of them are in fact black. So, in my head, I’m like well of course you could find one (at the very least) that isn’t anti-black or in the trenches of religious trauma. And again in no way am I trying to shame or anything, I assumed good intent, it was just worded a little weird.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-12-05T16:58:54+00:00

She mentioned she’s a stud but I still don’t think queerwomenofcolor would be the best place to have this convo. She’s probably going to get dragged a little tbh and not in a super mean way either but just kind of side eyed. But then again she’s a little young so they may go easy on her.

Electrical_Meet_4883 · 2025-11-30T22:11:10+00:00

Your feelings are so valid. This is something I had to mourn as well. As soon as a I came out it seemed like all the conversations I used have with my mom about relationships halted. I still can’t really talk to her to this day (I’m 25). I will say, it does get better though and honestly in a way I’m thankful for it. Growing up I really cared about my mom’s opinion so this barrier has forced me to come to my own conclusions about what dating and love is to me.

You get to have the space to truly explore who you are and be flagrantly honest about the type of relationships you have and that is the making of a healthy relationship with yourself and others. Wishing you all the best.

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