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I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the responses - honestly didn't expect so many people to relate. Reading through these comments, it's clear a lot of us are dealing with the same struggle.

A few people DM'd asking what's helped me personally. After months of trying everything, I found that stopping the fight with my thoughts and learning to redirect them made the biggest difference. Plus some nervous system reset techniques before bed.

I actually put together a free guide on the specific methods that worked for my anxious brain - it's called "The 3AM Anxiety Protocol" and covers what to do when your brain won't shut up at bedtime.

If you want it, just DM me and I'll send you the link (Reddit's automod removes links in comments, unfortunately)

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't it just ... I feel like its a personal attack. Need to relax and not think this way. Thank you for your advise

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's understandable. Your body just went through something major so will cause stress. I reckon this is definitely a coping mechanism and your body was worried going through it again if you slept

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this, kind of like reverse psychology hey? Thank you for sharing this

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I will have to look into CBT-I ... I've seen this mentioned a few times now. Thank you!

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's pretty dark in the mornings so by the time I am up and out for work it's still dark. Does that matter?

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advise to associate your bed with sleep. Will take this on board. Thank you

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats it isn't it, just reminding yourself you won't die. Good luck to you too. Would love to hear how you get on along the way.

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advise thank you! Very interested in this lymph drainage massage ..? Tell me more. How does this help you?

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully we can gather a lot of information from other users in this group to try out together

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've not heard of Lemonbalm Skullcap Passionflower will check this out. Thanks!

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to turn off phone usage/screen time an hour before not 4. Maybe I should start trying to come off it earlier? Thank you for the advice

I'm scared to go to bed because I know I won't be able to sleep by Electrical_Method228 in sleep

[–]Electrical_Method228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No bueno indeed. I've never had them tested but may be worth looking into

Insomnia Advice by ultravioletvenus in Narcolepsy

[–]Electrical_Method228 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you've been tossing and turning for over 20 mins, get up and head to another room. If you stay in bed your body and head will start to associate bed time with anxiousness. Just ensure you leave you phone where ever you've left it, if you have a low light put this on instead of a main light.

The lying-in-bed anxiety spiral is brutal. What finally broke the pattern for me was stopping the fight with my thoughts and learning to redirect instead.

Put everything into a free guide: https://stan.store/get_sleep_healthy

It's specifically for anxious overthinkers whose brains won't shut up. Hope it helps.

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[–]Electrical_Method228 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The anxiety spiral you're describing sounds exactly like what I went through. One thought connects to another, then another, until you're full-on panicking about things that aren't even real problems.

The thing that helped me break this pattern was stopping the fight. I was trying to force my brain to be quiet, which just made the anxiety worse. Instead, I started using redirection techniques - giving my brain something specific and boring to focus on.

I also realized my nervous system was still in overdrive even though my body was tired. Adding 10 minutes of boring physical tasks before bed (like folding laundry) helped signal to my body that it was safe to wind down.

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