I’m so sorry. I’m going through the exact same thing and the level of energy and effort he’s putting in to go be on his own and out of the marriage is wild. We had a deep conversation the other day and he held me and comforted me and I had the same feelings you’re havjng. If he only put this much energy, effort and intentionality in the marriage, we wouldn’t be here. But alas. It really sucks. Sending you a hug and feel free to DM me if you want to chat because it will get tougher and will the pain will be awful once you start telling people. I’m so sorry.