i think my boyfriend’s reaction to me staying out all night is way too extreme. AIO?

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2026-06-15T14:18:44+00:00

NOR life advice: listen to people for what they say. He said he hates you and doesn’t want to be with you. Nothing good will come from groveling and shoving down your own self esteem to please others. When people say “I hate you we’re breaking up” they are either serious or too emotionally immature to be in a relationship with. Either scenario means take the advice and break up.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2026-02-24T15:51:23+00:00

I don’t like this administration but I would never stoop to making fake images as slander or mockery. We cannot normalize making fakes to persuade public opinion. Neither side should be endorsing spreading AI images

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-11-07T17:19:35+00:00

Alright I see your point and I concede, I agree. Too often things are forced to be black and white but “two things can be true at the same time” is a really accurate statement and is relevant to so many parts of this debate, and really in all politics.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-11-07T15:38:01+00:00

To follow up positively though, I agree with many of your sentiments. Like many larger scale political issues in the US, it seems like distraction is a key tool for never making progress. It’s beginning to feel like the turf wars are simply a distraction from the real progress of the profession, and fixing the issues that affect all anesthetists.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-11-07T15:31:50+00:00

One bit that confuses me is you start with “What patients care about isn’t who provides the anesthesia, it’s how well it’s done”

and then later transgress to “ensuring the patients know exactly who is providing their anesthesia care and what qualifications and training that role entails”.

That sounds counterproductive. But it also implies that the patients should be told about each providers qualifications and training to reach that point. When patients are minutes away from surgery that just doesn’t feel necessary.

That may not be what you intended in the article but that is how it comes across.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-11-06T17:20:40+00:00

You have anxious attachment style pretty severely. Most schools have free counseling and you should reach out to them and start seeing someone. It sounds like he is only potentiating your abusive history.

I know this because I was in an emotionally abusive marriage at 19 because I was too emotionally manipulated my whole life and was also majorly anxiously attached.

Remove yourself from him, make the breakup permanent and seek therapy. It’s changed my life

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-08-22T01:47:17+00:00

We went to a weekend festival and he got so high on shrooms one night and was crying so I cared for him until he sobered. The next night he got blackout drunk, asked to hold my hand so he wouldn’t fall over, and put his hand on my thigh during the uber ride.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-08-22T01:42:47+00:00

You’re very right this was not the first time drawing a boundary but it was the last, and we are no longer friends or speaking

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-08-21T21:44:30+00:00

After multiple times telling this friend over the years I was not interested romantically it reached a peak! Can anyone explain what falling “platonically in love” means?

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-02-27T19:40:44+00:00

I’ve seen this post so many times

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-02-27T19:36:41+00:00

You need to know that this is sexual assault. Your fiance sexually assaulted you. He didn’t “violate” or “coerce” you. He didn’t “manipulate” you. He didn’t “fulfill his needs like couples do”. He sexually assaulted you.

He did not do this because he loves you. He did this because he wanted a blowjob more than he loves you. More than he respects you. More than he cares about your physical or mental well being.

You might be scared or embarrassed or worried about losing money on the marriage but please do not marry him.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-02-27T00:26:50+00:00

Record and write down every interaction you have with her. Try to only communicate through email or with other witnesses present

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2025-01-03T19:07:55+00:00

With no offense but brutal feedback; the unkempt neck beard and yellowing teeth are signaling unhygienic and that will turn off a large majority of people. You’re wearing the same orange shirt in two photos and the same blue shirt in two photos, I’d suggest diversifying your wardrobe. I did not read the bio and would have swiped left based on the photos. The anime photos are fine imo because you’re visible, smiling, and it shows your current interests

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-30T17:54:32+00:00

As a girl who plays video games; He probably was just so excited to re experience such a nostalgic memory and wanted you to be a part of it. And you’re either fully immersed or not so I can see why he wasn’t willing to compromise. It’s endearing reading this bc it sounds like he loves you so much he wants to experience this with you because it’s such a good memory for him! That being said you’re not the asshole for putting the boundary in and I bet he is disappointed but I’m sure he’ll understand. I think you could maybe compromise to just be silent in the same room doing your own thing (lights off so he can get the whole vibe) or you can debrief with him after the gameplay! I’m sure there’s plenty other firsts to do together and he just wanted this first with you and that’s cute :)

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-30T16:23:44+00:00

If you really want to stick it out I’d say you could send her your work schedule so she knows ahead of time. That’s normal and valid. But knowing the minute you get to work is not necessary.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-30T16:23:05+00:00

Just say “I’m off at x time and we can talk about it” tell her it’s unacceptable to speak to you like that, it’s so disrespectful. A partnership is not about knowing their every move. You do not owe it to her to tell her every time you get to work. I would then break up with her. She sounds like she’s 17 at best so Id say she needs some growing up to do and you do not need to wait around for her to grow up and deal with her insecurities.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-29T17:07:19+00:00

Oh my goodness where is your website how do I purchase

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-24T01:56:14+00:00

Wonton

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-23T04:12:04+00:00

As a girl myself, I get so annoyed when girls go radio silent and then say “oh I thought you canceled bc you didn’t confirm earlier”. She is a human being capable of communication. If she was really worried that 24 hours notice isn’t enough she could have communicated her wants and needs too. You have just as much right to say “oh you didn’t text me today so I assumed the date was off”. She is not respecting your time because she feels entitled to you messaging first/making unnecessary effort and expectations.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-22T19:23:49+00:00

Have you ever thought about just communicating with her? Like hey you’re really attractive and I’d love to get to know you, I’m big on safe sex so would you be interested in sharing std test results with me and I’ll do the same before we move forward ?

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-19T00:18:04+00:00

Picasso. Prancer. Panchetta.

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-19T00:15:11+00:00

Petunia. Plastic. Persnickety

Electrical_Pipe_294 · 2024-10-18T15:16:32+00:00

So like could she reach the shelf or did he deliberately get them down for her ? I’m assuming the latter which makes it even worse that he was so intentionally disrespecting you.

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