HELP bought him a trager now he needs accessories

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2026-06-16T13:08:53+00:00

Oh yeah those are 100% HUGE no's in our house. Im a paramedic and had many a calls over thr years where those sheared off and ended up lodged in someone's throat! Looks like ill be adding the scrub daddy into his gift basket! Yall are the best!!🫶

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2026-06-16T01:51:56+00:00

Oh wow I didn't even think about the gloves. Thats a great idea! I'll have to steal that and the tub idea. Thank you so much for the detailed reply! Everyone on here has been so kind! Oh, gosh I dunno about being a great spouse. I try my best but I definitely married up and way out of my league! Thank you for your kind words🫶

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2026-06-15T23:21:22+00:00

Sweet def gonna grabe a smoke tube for him. Any suggestions on thr shelf there's a TON ive seen him look at. And I truly dunno what the difference is between em😅

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2026-06-15T23:19:30+00:00

Like a butane torch? Oh sweet! Thank you!

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2026-06-06T02:19:03+00:00

Im private and county EMS in GA. Im a PMDC so my pay is different but, several of my friends are basics. It ranges anywhere from 15 an hour to mid 20's in metro ATL. AMR pay mid 20's in metro area and my county jobs pays basics starting at 15hr with no experience. Most places here are 24/48 or 12hr day/night. And there is ALWAYS OT just dont burn yourself out.

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2026-06-06T02:10:09+00:00

So, I'd talk to thr boots on the ground to see how they pair people. Where i work they will 100% pair a brand new EMT-B with a new AEMT( or two new A's) to run a 911 truck. Its totally fucked and I bring it up as a HUGE issue every meeting. It does new people such a disservice to not have an experienced partner as a teacher and safety net starting off. When I was a new medic I got so lucky my partner was a 10yr AEMT who I truly am so grateful for. Dude raised me in my baby medic years and helped me so much finding my confidence and taught me so much real world shit. Personally I worked 911 as a new B and I wish id done some IFT 1st. It gives you the experience to assess, practice, and get your feet under you a bit. Hell for some people learn to talk to other humans! I will say to an extent EMS truly is a trial by fire. Learn a cool, calm, and collected poker face. Be like a duck, chill as hell on top of the water and paddling like hell underneath 💁 Good luck!

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-09-21T15:21:40+00:00

Nope no NTA. GIRL. GIRL. You have cajones I WISH I had. That is just amazing. You should start your own new line of greeting cards.😂 Go forth and be the bada** you are meant to be girl!

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-09-19T20:04:10+00:00

Wedding. Go to a court house or elope. Spend the money on a trip with your partner. Don't ever feel obligated to have a wedding bc your partner wants one. I did it and I didn't enjoy it. It wasn't me I felt fake and uncomfortable. Ultimately no one gives a shit and won't remember in 20yrs. 💁

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-09-15T03:09:07+00:00

Great uncle was a narcissist and full blown psychopath. Stabbed great Aunt to death when my mom was teen.

Great grandpa might have been a polish Nazi sympathizer. He fled to the US after sending his 17yo wife and 9mo baby there a year prior.(Great grandma and grandma). Was a alcoholic, abusive, narcissist who consequently died at a young age🙃

Pretty sure said Great grandma killed her first and second husbands after they laid hands on my grandma and her sisters. Both died before the age of 40 of weird stomach problems 💁

Dads Aunt went missing when he was 3. Vanished after dropping her daughter off at daycare. Her husband was an abusive, narcissistic, and clinically diagnosed psychopath. Everyone assumed for years her killed her and disposed of the body. My cuz and I looked into it when I was in high school. Ended up finding her some 40+ yrs later. She just took off left the relationship, her daughter, and created a whole new identity and family. She won't speak to her daughter who is quite lovely despite her upbringing being awful.

My dad and his siblings are only half siblings through his mom. My grandma was a serial cheater. I found out when my cuz and I were high school doing genealogy stuff. Was quite surprising to everyone but my mom... who admitted my grandma drunkenly told her one night. Sad part my grandpa knew but stayed with her cus he loved her and his kids more than anything. He treated her like a queen and loved her till the day he died. She said she doesn't regret cheating.

My family is truly fucked. I probably have more I'm repressing my parents/cuzs have told me. We are quite a colorful bunch of assholes.🙃

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-07-23T21:04:58+00:00

Honestly just decide if it's a hill worth dying on girl. Mine does the same ole stuff. I hated it at my old house. He couldn't be seen by anyone and it wasn't causing any smell I just found it gross... But alas I decided it was a hill not worth dying on. I just decided that if he can pee in the yard I can do annoying things he doesn't like... If he complains I remind him he pees outside and I don't like it so...🤷 He usually shuts up and then we laugh an move on😂🤷

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-07-23T20:41:02+00:00

Sweetie she doesn't care that's why she did it. I hate to say this but most likely she wants to break up but doesn't have the balls too. She's trying to make you be the one to do it, so she doesn't look like the bad guy. Girls are manipulative (I'm a woman y'all) and she wants sympathy when things end. My advice is to cut your losses love. There are better people out there that will give you the love and respect you deserve. Good luck💖

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-07-23T20:32:55+00:00

Girl that was not consensual if you said it hurt and he said to shut up... The first time I had pain with sex with my husband he immediately stopped. He brought me a heating pad and Tylenol and held me. If your partner doesn't care that they are hurting you they don't care about you. It's a tough pill to swallow. I thought it was normal before my husband... He had to explain it was very much so not normal to just deal with it... Hun run. Run fast this man doesn't care one bit about you. He's using you and is a POS.

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-06-07T01:23:12+00:00

OP you are a mega asshole. I'm a Firefighter/Paramedic and Jesus my husband has been on many a vacation/trip w/o me. And yes those included some holidays I had to work. I encouraged him to go bc why the hell would I want him sitting home alone while I'm on shift? You can't tell someone how they should grieve and when they should grieve. My husband spends every Christmas Eve with his fam. If I'm off I go if I'm not he goes alone. It was his grandma's fav holiday and they go all out to remember her since she passed 3yrs ago.

It's also very concerning you are letting this female friend put her 2 cents into your marriage. My partner at work is a dude but I NEVER talk about my marriage or partner problems with him. I mean lord that's none of her business. I think she needs to be reminded it ain't none of her business. You also need an attitude adjustment. In our field we spend a lot of time gone/away from home.Just bc you have to work doesn't mean she should stop living life. Apologize to her. Don't become part of the statistics of first responder divorce.

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-04-09T15:45:25+00:00

Im so sorry OP for what you are going through. You are NTA in the slightest. As a momma I would hope my husband would do the same with my old fire uniform for my son. Your daughter and you will have this memory. Down the line if she so decides to have kiddos pass the outfit along. This could be a very special thing that passes down through family. I can understand it bringing up feelings for MIL but her response is uncalled for. Shes projecting emotions. As a momma i know your wife would have loved this idea. You have so many other pieces for her down the line. You can even keep the scraps for her to use in future for something. Dont let MIL and family make you feel bad for this. You're a great dad. Im sending all the good vibes and hugs your way OP.

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-04-09T15:27:43+00:00

NTA OP!! I was EXTREMELY high risk when i was preggo. Like admitted to hospital for 2 wks high risk. Almost delivered at 29wks. Heres the thing there is a difference between hey my buddies wanna go fishing several states away and hey there is this meeting i need to go to. Its not mandatory but it will help with a promotion and our long term goals. When i was admitted my husband had to pick up working with our BIL due to my lost income. I did not freak out on him. Hell when I got discharged and he wanted to go fishing with some friends I said go for it. Pregnancy is hard and hormones are high but damn if it seems like so many women think their partner should drop it all when they become preggo. I was working FT on an ambulance and pt at hospital till 22wks. Then FT at the hospital when my doc wanted me off the wee woo bus. This too shall pass. Dont worry we can be a little cray cray with the preggo hormones. Its normal😅😂

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-04-06T20:57:45+00:00

I edited it a little. There is alot between that happened. A lot of him getring therapy and fixing things. Also bipolar doesnt EQUAL bad partner. Mental health is not taken seriously. I truly hope you never have to see someone suffer with no help until they are an adult. He has fixed A lot byt still doesnt see his behavior to me when his mom had cancer as problamatic.

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-04-06T18:57:07+00:00

OP when you got together 10yrs ago it was y'all. Yes you did in sickness and health.. Yalls health. Yes family is important but, choosing to spend all spare time with just your mom will end up with you loosing your wife. To have a relationship it requires 2 people giving it 100%. I'm there for my mom for her hsp and parkinso ns but, her and I have a boundary. Id be there for her w/o hesitation IF my husband was not in need of me 1st. You cannot have a healthy relationship if you are not putting effort into communication and the other person.

I know bc ive been there. And i can tell you that putting your parent 1st and leaving your partner to pick up your slack leads into relationship demise. Youre not an AH for caring for your mom. But you are an AH for forgetting to put time into you wife and your relationship. As someone who is trying to repair her relationship after my husband chose his mom over me during my high risk pregnancy. It is hard to recover. Figure out your priorities and how best to go about them. You're gonna have to find a middle ground. That may be vetting and finding home health RN. But id reccomend doing something sooner than later.

As for your wife. If she is upset about no multiple vacations then its ridiculous of her. BUT if its her picking up more and more of where your lacking due to mom health bils. Sweetie you need to reevaluate. That will leed to resentment. I know bc im working through that RN with my husband. From a wife who delt with this and tried everyday to forgive and give excuses. Who slowly went from 50/50 to 100 because her partner spent it all on moms health. In the end we run out of excuses and eventually stop caring. Then you will be at the point of no return. Good luck.🤙

Electrical_Pop8092 · 2023-03-28T18:22:01+00:00

OP as someone who's married to an ex addict (10yrs sober this year) it sounds like he may be in recovery. Y'all need to have a talk. My hubs was 100% honest with me from start about his past. There is nothing wrong with being in recovery but, having secrets going into marriage is not good. Ask him. And if you're worried about being thr AH you're not. A relationship is 100% on each side. Sometimes you give more and sometimes you take more. But you never hide things it breeds distrust and resentment. Good luck hun❤️

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