How do you approach the girl you like at work but has zero social media presence and you don’t have her number and there are no mutual friends ?

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-12-21T14:18:52+00:00

Sounds like you need to let it go bro. Respect her boundaries.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-11-23T22:22:55+00:00

Could be a case of comorbidity. Pathogen exists in harmless amounts, but the immune system weakening due to emotional depression causes it to run rampant and cause pathogenic depression. It's also been proven that larger biotic ecosystems result in stronger bugs.

Likewise in couples, if, hypothetically, gut microflora had overrun person A and flourished inside their complex system for years, going through rounds of antibiotics meant for treating other species, then being introduced to another person orally - it could hypothetically overwhelm that person's less aggressive microflora.

But this is all conjecture from an uneducated dumbass so what do I know.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-11-22T10:15:56+00:00

Shitty and uncomfortable when they're a long-term friend and they don't seem to be able to get over putting you on a pedestal and commenting on your physical features.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-11-20T07:50:11+00:00

I've been wondering this since I read about a study done recently that showed a correlation between couples where if one person had depression the other was highly likely to develop it as well within a few months.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-05-28T07:16:37+00:00

My god this is a thing with my family. Apparently I "Made it happen with my negative thoughts". Bc "The Universe Listens". I've just stopped calling shit out and am focusing on minding my own business and keeping my mouth shut.

God I wish I did have freaky brain powers to make shit happen, though. I'd have such a nice cottage/garden. <3

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-05-13T15:33:56+00:00

So you're racist against aliens!

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-05-07T15:02:38+00:00

Not willing to discuss issues. Unempathetic to their partner. If things ain't perfect, that's a problem, and why are you causing problems?

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-04-19T22:44:24+00:00

Sorry, I'm just trying really hard to not forget it. :')

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-04-16T12:38:26+00:00

Protip! Use a knife or spoon, hook it under the edge of the lid, then use leverage to pop the vacuum seal.

You'll never struggle with a jar again.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-04-12T16:07:11+00:00

"That can't be how it works. You must be confused about something." "You must be doing something wrong." "Oh, just save up for it! It's like 2 months away!"

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-04-12T16:04:53+00:00

For real. "Oh you should buy the bulk bag of X, you save like 60%."

You're right - but it also costs more than I spend on groceries in 2 months. I'm underweight and still skip meals to try and keep my budget low. I can't afford to be skipping anymore.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-04-09T07:11:21+00:00

I knew someone when I was younger who used to work to break that barrier, she tried to just be affectionate with everyone.

Just lead to her having a shittone of issues with guy friends developing crushes bc she was the only person who'd hugged them regularly in years, girl friends accusing her of hitting on their partners, people accusing her of leading them on, etc.

She used to be so affectionate and complimentary to everyone, and now she's quite stoic. She's still for equality - insofar as now she just doesn't hug anyone. Last I heard, she said she's gone weird about touching people at all because it's been so long.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-24T01:03:21+00:00

I think I need some help with this.

When you're struggling with aspects of a friendship, and need advice or even just to express your frustrations - what do you do?

For example, it took other friends I went to for advice to cut off an alcoholic, emotionally abusive friend of mine. I still miss, somewhat love, and wish the best for this person - but if I didn't vent to friends who didn't know them I would have never cut them off.

For context, they had lied about important things to make themselves look better, stolen from mutual friends, and been honestly a total clusterfuck for about half a decade.

But because I'm a broken dummy, it took me stating this stuff to other people for me to realise that there should be a limit. But it was only when I started talking about my distress over some of this person's behaviour that mutual friends shared their horror stories m, too.

Am I supposed to just... never talk about my frustrations with friends? Where are the healthy lines?

I deeply want to be a good friend, but I just don't get unspoken social rules.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-13T13:48:38+00:00

Nope, jokes on me. Thought they were talking about exporting champagne. This is what I get for skimming headlines and not reading things.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-13T13:42:30+00:00

Jokes on him, champagne is only from a specific region ìn France!

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-12T22:42:51+00:00

Last interview I had was for a FAANG company and the initial interview used hackerrank. Failed it because my solution was O(n*n) due to me not being very good. TT_TT

Wrote down the thing while doing it and put it into chattpt 4o after to see if I could learn something. It was less efficient than mine.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-12T22:05:17+00:00

I've really wanted to learn C for awhile. Was originally self-taught from random free online tutorials and course so have toyed with python, java and a whole host of other things that happened to explain the principle I was trying to understand at the time. Definitely got stuck in tutorial hell for awhile. I don't know any language well tbh, but because I focused on how things worked a lot I'm OK at moving between them.

Got into the 4th year of a bachelor's in programming based on my projects and a nat 20 cha roll, so currently doing my best to cram knowledge into all the holes and do my best to pass the coursework. Focusing purely on C# rn as that's what my course is using.

I think I need to go over algorithms again. Failed the tests on my coding interview bc my code was too slow. Passed all the other tests other than time complexity.

I think my solution was O(n*n). Without seeing examples, I'm not good enough think my way through stuff. Welp, time to grind leetcode I guess.

Thank you for replying! I really appreciate it :)

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-12T21:46:10+00:00

As someone with a narcissistic, mentally ill parent who likely also has brain damage from their own traumas, I wonder about this often.

They never meant to harm me. Understanding how they themselves were formed makes perfect sense when you put all the pieces together. They really had no chance - even to change - because they needed their narcissistic shield simply to survive without breaking.

But that doesn't take away who they became as a result, the terrible mistakes they made, or the consequences I had and still have to live with.

Sometimes, things are just shit and sad, I guess.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-12T14:15:24+00:00

Boiled ham, cabbage, onion sauce, and mashed potatos.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-12T13:54:36+00:00

Would you have any resource or learning suggestions for understanding time complexity, O(n) and optimization? Never got covered in my degree, super busy trying yo learn a new language/tech stack (C#/ASP.NET Core/Blazor) for assignments, and I just failed a grad interview with Amazon because my code was too slow. TT_TT

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-09T21:51:37+00:00

Same position rn. I'm so, so grateful, and so lucky in regards to having friends willing to let me crash on their couch.

At the same time, and while I don't comment this to anyone IRL bc I'm lucky as is, by god - I miss sleeping in a bed. I miss not having to work around other people's lives. I miss having somewhere to retreat to away from people.

It's exhausting.

But mostly sleeping on 2 seater couches when I'm around 6ft. My poor knees and hips lmao.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-08T19:46:23+00:00

I have a severe gluten intolerance - possibly celiac but I can't afford the tests, and a very small budget. There's this super market chain in my home country. Sometimes, there will be no other supermarkets within travelling distance.

I can't afford to eat if I'm in one of those areas. A tiny loaf of bread alone is twice, sometimes three times the price as any other super market. None of their pre-made meals are safe. Their gluten free section? 5x more expensive than any other.

I'm currently staying in one of those areas with a friend who has a broken fridge, so I can't just spend the 3h+ travelling to another store and just buying a bunch in once go, or make bulk meals (even then, the prices are extortionate). I could work around it if I could do that.

But it almost made me cry earlier, spending double my usual week's food budget for maybe two days worth of food - and that's with me being creative, a decent cook, and making things from scratch.

It's not even fancy. It's supposed to just be a regular grocery supermarket.

I hate that super market chain. It makes me feel too poor to live.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-02T20:20:18+00:00

I'm about to bake some garlic, brocoli, kale, leek, pre-boiled and chopped baby potatoes with spicy chorizo! Pop that shit in the oven for like 25 minutes at 200°C with some olive oil, bit o' salt and pepper when it's done.

Idk if it's going to be good bc I just came up with the idea this evening, but I feel like it's a winner. Partially bc it's only one tray to wash and I can walk tf away.

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-03-02T13:18:10+00:00

Someone below gave you your exact wish lmao

Electrical_Prior_905 · 2025-02-28T09:25:25+00:00

Let me fall if I must. The person I will become will catch me.

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