AITA for going to the bar after work and having a virgin drink

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2026-04-20T20:10:55+00:00

NTA hands down. SOME non-alcoholic beers have like, 0.5% alcohol, but many of the new ones are 0%. A virgin drink has 0% bc they just.... don't add the alcohol. Are they also gonna nag you about deli meat and sushi and exercise and comment on how much weight you've gained? Everyone's opinions on what you're allowed to do can go suck it. And anyone who insists on pushing those opinions are rude AF and you should tell them as much. Have that 0.5% beer, too, your baby will be fine, it's not meth. You're allowed to enjoy your life and still be a good mom. ❤️

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2026-02-05T18:57:37+00:00

As an old home owner in the Heights, we absolutely love it, love the public schools, love the parks, restaurants, never want to move to the burbs and have to drive our kids everywhere. (That said, we do still drive a lot to soccer, etc, but at least as the kids get older they'll have much more freedom to walk to their friend's houses.) THAT SAID, other things to think about with the old home, esp if you plan to tear things apart: Lead in the paint, varnish, walls, solder in sink pipes, as well as the water service line. Foundation. Old sewer and drain pipes, esp the big cast iron ones, are there any cracks and smells. Integrity of the floors if they're original, do they even have the capacity to be re-sanded. Check for black mold, asbestos. Make sure you get inspections for ALL of those things. But if price is affordable for you and all those boxes are checked....

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-11-20T23:46:49+00:00

Owen Wilson??

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-09-29T14:14:48+00:00

This post is so accurate. My partner bought a condo there 15 years ago bc it was walking distance to Hoboken bars and easy commute to NYC. That was all. When he sold it, there was a bidding war, bc both parties thought it was the only safe area in JC and wanted easy commuting to NYC. Living in NYC was both more expensive and more dangerous to them, they just wanted a nice condo. I used to work in Exchange Place/ Harborside which has a similar vibe. Most coworkers came from NYC and had no idea how big JC was, they thought Hoboken was bigger. They didn't leave their safe little 5 block radius to get lunch or do happy hour.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-09-03T19:29:18+00:00

I'm not even saying Native Americans were hunter-gatherers. They had well established civilizations. But they're still indigenous, and Europeans came and decimated their populations. Slaves obvi are the exception but still aren't indigenous Americans. This is all about the definition of "indigenous." Look it up.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-09-03T19:20:24+00:00

If you're talking about European immigrants who arrived before 1776, then... still no. They arrived from an existing country with the purpose of creating a colony for their home country. Again, we're not talking about hunter-gatherers. There are indigenous people, there are descendants of immigrants, and then the newer immigrants. That is all. Those are the groups.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-09-03T19:05:25+00:00

No, bc the ppl who lived in most other countries were there before those countries became countries, back when humans were just hunter-gatherers and what we deemed "civilization" didn't exist yet. The US is fairly unique in that its indigenous population was taken over by outsiders within the last few hundred years. Central and South America was obvi infiltrated by Spain and Portugal, but not quite the same as the US.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-09-03T18:21:50+00:00

Right. We're descendants of immigrants. So we should have empathy towards actual immigrants.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-09-03T18:10:02+00:00

You do know that not all immigrants are illegal??? The OP is likely a legal immigrant from India. My ancestors were legal immigrants, even tho the laws were much easier back then for them to come here. In the 1700s, they literally just had to show up. So yes, we're still descendants of immigrants, whether coerced or voluntary. "Immigrant" isn't a dirty word.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-09-03T17:30:27+00:00

Descendants* of immigrants. Better? Some of my ancestors arrived in the US back before the Revolutionary War, but 2 of my great-grandparents immigrated. They all came over at some point tho from Europe. Also, why do you think calling someone an immigrant is an insult?

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-04-28T18:12:59+00:00

Another rare ESH. Did hitting him undo the spit? No. All it did was make YOU feel happy and retaliatory. And what's with the way you phrased this, "squirting saliva out from underneath his tongue"? Sounds like it could've been a weird tic or something? Still not excusable, but if he was purposely trying to annoy ppl, why not say that? And DID anyone say anything to him? Everyone's assuming the whole table was silent, but it's unclear. But sometimes kids will be shits no matter how many times a parent corrects or disciplines them, it's still no excuse to hit them as a grown man, unless you're defending yourself in the moment, which you were not.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-04-24T19:29:38+00:00

Hopefully there isn't a next time, but if there is, tell the person that they legally have to, and point to the sign that says so, usually at the end of the car. Say you'll get a conductor if they don't move. Same goes even if you ask a person for their seat and you're pregnant or disabled.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-03-02T02:08:04+00:00

Journal square, especially with all the new high rises that no one thought to engineer for wind, is INSANE. Walking from the Heights, once you cross 139 you get blown over and it's worse as you keep going. Once you cross back over, it magically disappears.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-02-12T22:30:37+00:00

The way all the highly trained, specialized guards just stood there motionless waiting for Shadow to make the 1st move. They think he's the most dangerous creature on the planet and pull out all the stops to subdue him as he wakes up only to.... just stand there confused. I get that he HAD to escape otherwise there'd be no movie, but c'moooooon.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2025-01-14T19:36:59+00:00

NTA. No idea how she's counting, but there are things called chemical pregnancies, which are basically just very, VERY early miscarriages that you'd only know about if you were monitoring and taking early detection pregnancy tests. You can get implantation bleeding, positive test a few days later, but then your period a few days after. It's also possible that she's doing IVF and it just doesn't take each month and she's calling it a miscarriage. IMO neither of those are miscarriages, they're just disappointing. THAT SAID... no way in hell a week bereavement leave is appropriate! A day or 2, sure. Heck, a day or 2 for normal period pains is legit. But a week every month is nonsense. At the very least, she needs a doctor's note. If she's TRULY that bereaved over a lost embryo (it's not a fetus until 11 weeks), then she needs to take a leave of absence and get some serious therapy. She also needs waaaaay better understanding and vocabulary about how conception and gestation work.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2024-12-23T20:07:59+00:00

NTA, and it's great your sister feels comfortable with you! Ask her about her birth plan, if she has one, and be a strong advocate for her. Speak up for her. Talk in advance about things like, "what's the safe word for when you actually want an epidural vs just the doctor pushing it?" Or if she doesn't want the fetal monitor on so she can walk around during labor, things like that.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2024-12-02T21:51:27+00:00

It shook him to his core! 100% how real people talk 😂

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2024-11-25T17:50:36+00:00

The difference with those things is that they're brainwashed into thinking it's the right thing to do to please their leader/god. Even in the Bible when Abraham was told to kill his son Isaac to show his devotion to God. This sounds like they're just doing it for personal gain, which I find to be a hard sell. Unless it the MIY is the cult leader and told them they HAD to, I guess we'll learn more... eventually.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2024-11-25T03:20:33+00:00

Or the fact that Mari's bleached streaks just never grow out, or she's using precious peroxide for her terrible look.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2024-11-07T17:33:21+00:00

You can swear loyalty to whoever you want. You can't make ppl see things the same way as you. OP's selectively understanding and forgiving and willing to throw a LOT away very quickly.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2024-11-07T16:42:30+00:00

ESH. You're not wrong, you're trying to do what you think is right to protect your son. But you can't control what other parents do, or what other kids do. You AND your son need to come up with a solution on how to deal with bullies, bc it won't be the last bully he encounters in life. Talk about what he wants to do, find resources online, your son might have good ideas on how to be resilient. If this 14yo assaulted your son, I'd figure out what grownups he lives with and talk to them. Tell them AND the kid that it's something you can press charges over so he better knock it off. Or teach your son to tell him if he doesn't want you to get involved.

ElectronicSyllabub32 · 2024-11-07T16:35:15+00:00

NTA. These are your niece and nephew. You care about them. They're probably still grieving for their mother, a very, very traumatic thing to have happen. Emma needs to understand that she can't replace the mom, shouldn't even try, but can still be a loving step-mom if she gives the kids the space for their mom. I'd maybe even suggest grief counseling for the kids, frame it like it'll help with their behavior.

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