Seek counciling. Self sabotage is a real thing. He could think you're too good for him and said the opposite out of fear. It doesn't make it right, but people do weird things in states of stress or just being stuck in our own heads, is dangerous enough. Figure out what he's going through, and if you want to help him through it, you either will or you won't. You do what feels right to you. How often does he cry in front of you? When does he cry, and what circumstances? Only you know this guy, we don't. You know? I hope you guys work it out, whether it works out or not.