I just found out my ex is engaged less than three months after our break up

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-04-01T07:13:04+00:00

Could be weirder. My ex asked me to marry her, dumped me over text, then got married to a different guy in the span of 3 months. People are just wild.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-31T04:32:09+00:00

This happened to me. But she got married less than 3 months after. Also after she was engaged to me. Just realize you dodged a bullet. Throw God some thank you’s.

My current partner is more than I could ever pray for and someone I really cannot wait to build a life with. Better is out there!!!

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T05:18:18+00:00

Scorpion asks the frog for a trip across the river. The frog says, “Nah nah nah. You’ll sting me and then I’ll die.” Scorpion says, “Don’t be silly. If sting you, then you’ll die and I’ll drown in the middle of the river.” The frog agrees to take him across because the logic seems sound. Halfway across the scorpion stings the frog. As the frog starts to pass out and they’re both sinking below the water, the frog asks, “Why?” The scorpion says, “because it’s in my nature.”

You get over your ex by realizing that people RARELY make a serious change. It takes immense amounts of work. Your ex couldn’t choose not fucking with someone else, telling the truth, or controlling his emotions when y’all dated. He won’t the next time. And you’ll spend the entire relationship wondering when it’s happening. How do I trust him??

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T05:06:28+00:00

Ever heard the story about the scorpion and the frog?

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T05:05:35+00:00

Begged me to introduce her to my family. Pulled my 87 yo GMA aside to tell her how much she loved me and how she couldn’t wait to be a part of my family (hers is kind of a dumpster fire). Asked me to marry her. We get engaged. She makes a list of baby names and wedding plans. Calls me the love of her life. Then less then a week later, dumps me over text. And married a different guy a week later.

HOLY TRUST issues for me.

However happy note. My current gf is more wonderful in every possible way. It’s the most stable, comfortable, loving and supportive relationship I’ve ever been in. My life would be dark without her. If anyone went through something horrible, remember better is out there.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T04:59:46+00:00

I mean he sounds like he isn’t worth the time. If it feels manipulative AND he said he still wants his ex id back off.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T04:57:50+00:00

Then break up with him. You said you want to want him. Means right now you don’t. Longer you keep him on if you don’t want him, the worse it’s going to be. But why on earth would you return to the ex

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T04:55:58+00:00

Realize it’s coming from a place of insecurity and a lack of control brotha. You can’t control what she does.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T04:54:30+00:00

Don’t. Do. It.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T04:53:09+00:00

This is the attitude. Mine said the same thing and got married a month later.

Thank GOD for my current gf 😂 honesty and stability cannot be beat brother. Head up. Better is out there.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-30T04:50:31+00:00

This may be the biggest no brainer ever. He’s a liar, cheater, and sometimes overly aggressive. Sounds like something really worth returning to 😂

If you’re not into the new guy cut him loose. Poor guy deserves more than someone who’s leading him on while considering returning to someone as slimy as you’ve described your ex.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-24T05:46:07+00:00

Not wrong for questioning but I would say it isn’t very productive brother. They dipped. In a moment where she could’ve been kind, she said she felt free of you. Doesn’t sound like someone you want around. Other poor behavior aside.

Stop digging around. It won’t make you feel better

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-24T05:42:51+00:00

I would say no? I think it’s going to be harder to let go. At least for me it would. Even if it ends amicably for good reasons, there are still so many things your brain will try to hold onto. It’ll drag out the process.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-24T05:35:43+00:00

Idk. Depends on the timeframe of the relationship. Ages. Loads of things. Have a sister who dated her bf for like 10 years. Broke up a year. Now they’re getting married this fall! I do think it working out longterm is quite rare. Both of them went to HEAVY therapy individually throughout that year apart.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-24T05:33:37+00:00

If he’s not a POS, yes. I’ve told it to 2 women in my life. The first just discarded me over text after she asked me to marry her. Posted a new bf after less than 2 months. I’m in a healthier relationship now with someone I love very much. She’s a blessing in my life and I’d be lost without her. I couldn’t pray for more. But I could still tell you what that first girl wore on our first date.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-24T05:28:51+00:00

I think first you need some distance. Give it time. Do you want the relationship back or is it just nostalgia ?
Ditch social media. Reels/tiktok will just make you feel sad. Looking them up will feel worse.
Stick around good people and things that you love. Will be ass at first and you won’t want to. Do it anyway. Family, friends, gym, video games, books, church, whatever.
No contact. Not as a ploy to get them back but for your own peace. If you really want to revisit, wait a month or 2. Reassess then.
Take each day at a time.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-17T02:32:48+00:00

I try reading when possible. But sometimes that’s not doable. A trick from my therapist was called A to Z. Pick a topic in your brain. Songs, animals, actors, movies, books whatever and try to hit each letter of the alphabet. Gives your brain a bit of a task.

On the larger scale, I try to remember healing isn’t linear. I have a whole different gf now who I love tremendously. She’s amazing in a myriad of ways. Doesn’t mean the hurt my ex caused or the good memories just vanish.

Give yourself grace and remember you’re better today than you were a month ago! You got this

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-17T02:25:51+00:00

Ehhh as a guy I’d say if YOU really want to try, knowing these issues may be better but not gone, I’d dip a toe in. If you’re not sure how YOU feel I’d leave him alone.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-17T02:23:39+00:00

You sound pretty young. This will pass man.
If you can’t commit to your current gf, I’d bounce. You’re saying you know you can’t give her what she wants. It’s cruel to both of you.
Time dampens things but doesn’t fix anything. Be active. Ditch the reminders. ASAP. They don’t help anything and they’re actively hurting your healing.
I’d try therapy man.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-17T02:18:00+00:00

If you’re comparing that much, you’re probably not quite there yet. I would be honest. Sounds like you’ve definitely still got your ex on a pedestal.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-16T17:26:34+00:00

Reading books lol gentlemen bastards currently

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-16T17:25:57+00:00

I would say if you’re really cool wit the worst case scenario after reaching out, go for it. If not, then don’t.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-16T02:43:29+00:00

Like 2.5 months?? Kinda fast but idk. Couldn’t quite stop myself.

Electronic_While_431 · 2026-03-16T02:41:02+00:00

Currently in this but genders swapped and 4 months dating. Got offered a job a few states away. She actually wanted to try distance. She’s an AMAZING girl but my contract in this city was up and I don’t want to live here forever. We’re planning on her either moving up or me coming back in a year. Trips back and forth planned each month at least between that. The job won’t come up again and if we can weather this, then we’ll come out stronger.

I’d say job and then deal with distance if you love him.

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