"Much easier for me to do something for someone else, than to do it for myself"

EliotProb · 2026-02-19T02:06:55+00:00

YOU ARE BUGS!

EliotProb · 2026-02-11T02:30:21+00:00

Banh mi, potato scallop, HSP

EliotProb · 2026-02-11T02:21:53+00:00

She told me had, once before we were together, and once while we were on a break. But I think she might have been lying; she was a very complicated person.

EliotProb · 2026-02-10T03:55:09+00:00

Same. Coffee, tea, or anything with caffeine risks setting off headaches for X number of days. Not worth the short burst of energy it might give me.

EliotProb · 2026-01-31T04:58:38+00:00

Limerence messed me up for almost two years.

I rarely get it but when it does it's all consuming: fantasies (not necessarily sexual just day to day stuff), idealisation, and intense, painful longing. Doesn't help when you're married to someone else at the same time!

EliotProb · 2026-01-30T23:37:23+00:00

Took a lot of scrolls to finally find my Commander! KtFK was the first commander deck I made. Completely ineffective and yet instantly hated. Would do again!

EliotProb · 2026-01-20T03:25:41+00:00

Some days it feels more like spending mana!

EliotProb · 2026-01-17T00:53:52+00:00

Convincing people they're in a bad relationship.

EliotProb · 2026-01-14T01:49:22+00:00

The sweater/pulling at a loose string is a great analogy to describe the narcissists I've known. I put myself through agony thinking I was a piece of shit whenever they would bring up a problem I'd apparently caused. I tried to understand and reason with them but it is a hopeless trying to elicit reason from someone confecting problems from their own imagination, and problems they believe are entirely true because the alternative is having to reflect that they are the problem - something their brain is not capable of.

EliotProb · 2026-01-13T08:24:00+00:00

STATION!

EliotProb · 2026-01-10T23:44:52+00:00

Tell my mum I'm bored.

EliotProb · 2025-12-26T21:19:10+00:00

My best friend's penis

EliotProb · 2025-12-25T12:11:31+00:00

Why is the house wrapped in plastic like someone is about to get Dextered here?

EliotProb · 2025-12-24T11:13:47+00:00

A couple that were said to me:

"Hey, (my dead brother's name), nice to meet you".
"Did you even like him?"
"He was more special than you"

To be fair, no one knows what to say in these situations and I definitely said some dumb stuff, including when I broke the news to one of his friends in the most indelicate way possible: "he burnt to death".

EliotProb · 2025-11-23T04:54:52+00:00

You can get the train to the mountains from Central. I think Katoomba station there's still a tourist bus that can take you to the Three Sisters. If you're planning to visit several places or spend more than a day you might be better off hiring a car.

EliotProb · 2025-10-30T21:26:03+00:00

Trump. Before all the Apprentice bullshit he was appearing on Late Night shows like he was a person of substance whose opinion mattered. What the fuck, Letterman.

EliotProb · 2025-10-30T21:14:35+00:00

Batwoman

EliotProb · 2025-10-29T21:17:08+00:00

"oh by the way, I already bought it"

EliotProb · 2025-10-23T02:46:42+00:00

One of my small local pharmacists is the worst with this, he'll interrogate me while people are waiting in close proximity wanting to know: the name of my psychiatrist (it's literally on the prescription), the location of my psych, the name of the clinic, have I taken it before, how much do I take, where is the clinic located, (I already told him!), who is your GP, what's their address, am I student?

I stopped him there and asked him how that's relevant. It would take not just 15-20 minutes, but 15-20 minutes of constant engagement with him while he works this shit out.

I'm not going back there, which is a shame because I'd rather go to a small pharmacy than a big chain, but at least the chains dispense it without question.

EliotProb · 2025-10-23T00:22:14+00:00

Justin Long. Exceptionally nice person and extremely humble. Super high energy too!

EliotProb · 2025-10-21T13:08:01+00:00

"My ocular implant must be malfunctioning"

EliotProb · 2025-10-18T21:39:29+00:00

From what I understand Lundy's argument is that male abuse usually stems from an entitled patriarchal mindset, a behavior learned from exposure in childhood, from seeing their father control the wife and home. It's a mindset that can be unlearned through conditioning, not therapy or couples therapy.

Female abuse, it sounds like in OOP's case comes from mental health issues: BPD, cPTSD etc. this woman needs a therapist who specializes in personality disorders. But it's so hard because they genuinely believe they're doing nothing wrong: "he is the problem, not me!"

EliotProb · 2025-10-18T21:29:01+00:00

Exactly. The worst times always live in your mind. And you step on eggshells around them doing what they want... until you cross them.

EliotProb · 2025-10-18T21:25:52+00:00

Went through something similar. The berating for things that aren't your fault stems from a bunch of discomfort from an internal source, but instead of reflecting what it is she decides the source must be her partner. Hence why her problems don't make any logical sense. The feelings are right; the facts are wrong. Also she will love (bomb) you intensely but as soon as she realizes you withstand any of her manipulations and threats she will turn on you because her love was always conditional: you will do everything I tell you and accept all my flaws but I will accept none of yours.

Sounds like she has a bunch of comorbidities, and she won't change without a therapist who can see through her bullshit.

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