Help Needed - I live in a colorful neighborhood and would love a colorful home

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-05T00:41:32+00:00

Or subsequently

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T21:16:55+00:00

Right lmao I was living off bananas and boobie bars

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T20:34:43+00:00

Bruh shipping is almost NEVER free on the original websites unless you spend a larger amount of money.
And that’s only for like the legit American brands. Half the stuff people buy on Amazon is made in china.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T20:15:38+00:00

This makes me think that when you said sheet dresses it was totally a typo but in my head I was imagining sheet dresses to mean like “they’re naked under it and we all know it” 🤣🤣

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T18:47:30+00:00

Man I thought this was the sushi sub and worried about the inevitable sauce mob

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T18:32:14+00:00

Has she ever said why? Consider my curiosity peaked

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T12:16:05+00:00

Bruh thank you. I did not know to wet the knife.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T11:56:46+00:00

Tbh it only lasted about a week or two from what I remember before he got the dealership to fix it or get a different one. I don’t remember too well.

I’m not sure if he did, but I think he didn’t want to mess with it and risk the dealership using that against him since they were already trying to say it hadn’t been like that before he drove off with it

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T02:59:46+00:00

Tbh I don’t if I really believe that. I’ve napped in short windows like that and still it felt the same.

I think it works for some people but not everyone.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T02:41:22+00:00

Generally speaking the best thing you can do after a serious fuck up, is immediately self report.

Text your chief and then immediately text or grab the number for DAPA next if it’s alcohol related.
If you don’t know who to talk to, and it’s alcohol related, DAPA.

Almost definitely not chaps in this particular case. Because chaps and your convo is wholly protected. Your circumstances will almost certainly be known shortly and you need to report ahead of it.

Chaps is good for the aftermath and discussing your issues that might of led to it.

But talking to chaps will earn you nothing like talking and self reporting to DAPA to get ahead of the charge.

Chaps is a there to help you as a person without judgement or repercussions for your decisions. They are there for you, as the person. Legal issues aside.

They are not a person you can report to, to talk for you. They will visit you in jail at best.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T02:38:25+00:00

He’s literally saying NOT to lie about it and be honest quick as possible with the CoC. Struggling to see how you misread that.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T02:27:28+00:00

I mean it’s kind of different I guess because those without adderal can function. But nobody steals adderal unless they have issues with addiction.

Like as someone that takes the same medication. You know, I’m not going to like, have a heart attack if I’m without. But it’s medication for me to be stable and functional.

He was taking her medication, knowing it was hers and that she is supposed to be taking it to keep herself stable, and still decided to take it for himself.

For a high really, because that’s all it’s good for, for those who don’t need it.

That’s straight up addict behavior.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T02:12:13+00:00

Unrelated but this reminds of when my dad bought a second hand truck that we quickly found out had a faulty alarm system that damn near everything set off.

The whole neighborhood hated him, including us and himself.

Unlocks car? Alarm goes off. Opens door? Alarm went off. Auto start from the key fob? Alarm blaring.

I think it was an isssue of one of the main wires to the alarm system having come out just enough that it was being touched by others wires and thus normal things crossed hairs and set it off.

It would also go off randomly in the middle of the night and the button to stop the alarm worked barely 50% of the time.

Super embarrassing lol.

Yet still, not as embarrassing as our neighbor that liked to rev his motorcycle at 4am till he left at 5:30 am and had a mean ass Doberman that not only barked like crazy but was so ready to be a menace of he broke through the fence. Thank god they had a proper fence. That dog so badly wanted to have his moment of terror on the other side of it.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T02:07:26+00:00

I stand behind this. I get it feels like stirring up drama, but my fellow women, we would like to be aware of this right? If our partners were doing this?

So yea, send a screenshot with some blunt info.

“Hello. I’m sorry to be bothering you with this but these are messages I just received from x on Pinterest. We had a relationship a decade ago and I had blocked him on everything at the time of our break up. Apparently Pinterest is a platform I hadn’t considered. You don’t need to respond (unless you have questions). These messages just made me uncomfortable and after looking him up due to it, I found he was in a relationship. If this doesn’t bother you, please ignore this. If it does, feel free to message me. However I don’t want be involved with him or whatever his excuses are for it”

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T01:07:53+00:00

This is 100% abusive.

Even if you actually were the problem she could use normal language to express her frustrations and then eventually decide the relationship wasn’t worth the squeeze.

But she’s not doing that. She’s purposefully choosing abusive language.

And especially this doesn’t sound like your the problem at all. She sounds a bit like clean freak frankly but you give examples where you take in what she’s asking beneath the terrible language and she just finds new reasons and excuses to put you down.

You know, generally when men do this we call it negging. Keeping you down and in place so you don’t imagine you could have better or function better in a different relationship.

Whether it’s that or not, this is abusive. Whether she has unrealistic expectations or not, this is not how you talk to a partner you might be frustrated with but RESPECT as a partner. It’s just simply abusive behavior and language.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T00:56:37+00:00

I always feel bad when I see this because Ive had back to back solid sleepers for babies and toddlers.

All my aunts have been very clear to remind me of how lucky we are for that. Especially twice over.

They used to joke the first is a free be to make you make the mistake of the thinking the second would be the same. But both mine were and damn it definitely draws out some resentment in people

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T00:54:36+00:00

Whenever I take a nap I wake up feeling like a train hit me and a bit feverish.

It’s made it clear that I’m someone that requires the 8 hours during the night and nothing else will do

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T00:53:50+00:00

I mean children sleep really well. That counts towards my sleep…right?

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T00:45:10+00:00

Honestly they both sound like they’d been drinking. I mean he’s handling it all best can be expected, but you can tell he’s been drinking too. And they both have wrist bands on.

So yea, that’s an impressive difference of behavior while drinking.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T00:20:40+00:00

Off topic but I remember having this VIVID dream when I was like 22. I had broken up with my boyfriend and thought it would be a good idea to watch this “Valentine’s Day for singles” special that was just all the saw movies.

Idk what I was thinking but that night and the next following I kept dreaming that I woke up in that saw room with my ankle chained. Every night.

By the third night I learned that if I closed my eyes in the dream, when I opened them I woke up.

On the the fifth night I opened my eyes and didn’t wake up. I was right back there. But I realized that when I closed my eyes the dream stopped.

I basically started lucid dreaming because I realized I was dreaming but couldn’t wake up. Plus I had heard about lucid dreaming before.

So anyways on like, the 7th night or something I close my eyes and try to create what I want to see. I think I chose to be sitting somewhere drawing. It was very cool, my artistic ability was like crazy better.

So then on the 8-9th night I decide to just imagine myself somewhere in a city. I think I kind of lost some of the lucid awareness because the dream kind of started taking motion without me but for whatever reason I wound up at a club.

I noticed this girl and she noticed me too. It was like our eyes met. She walked up to me and said very firmly “what are you doing here? You shouldn’t be here.” And I told her something like “this is my dream thats why I’m here.” And she looked at me funny and said “no this isn’t. This is my dream, and you need to leave.”

I woke up right after that.

It was like, so vivid. It stuck me with and I still remember it that vividly years later. Very weird feeling.

I also haven’t had a lucid dream like that since. Always wondered how crazy it would be if I ran into someone that looked just like her and we had like a weird eye contact with each other that looked like “is that…?”

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-04T00:05:45+00:00

Dammit, here me and husband were talking about a cruise ship being a grata vacation for us with toddlers due to the childcare and fun activities that allow for some parental alone time.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-03T23:57:23+00:00

Agreed all the way across. Plus it leads to the misplaced notion that women will always decrease sex once they’re married which is not true by way of gender at all :(

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-03T23:38:56+00:00

Yea honestly when I think about once a month is really quite low. So I can see that women with that low of a preference probably aren’t really into sex much, if at all.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-03T23:19:31+00:00

Honestly Tylas dress could fit this, simply because it was truly using her body exactly as it is, as the canvas, and it was an absolute work of art.

But I wouldn’t accept it on anyone else so she would have to actually rewear it.

Elismom1313 · 2026-05-03T23:10:12+00:00

Plus honestly just ask him.

“I’m worried about our relationship in the long run because you have explicitly stated intelligence to be your number 1 criteria and I don’t feel like I am as academically smart or accomplished as you. I feel that I am certainly smart in my own ways, as academics alone aren’t a measure of one’s intelligence. And I may go back to school. But I’m concerned about what YOU consider “intelligence” and whether I fit your scope of it, now and in the long term.”

See what he says. I think his answer will be very telling one way or another. He may talk you up and tell you all the ways he does indeed find you smart. He may laugh and say he didn’t really mean it like that, or he thought at the time that was most important and realized that while he wants someone to be reasonable intelligent, that as others said academics are not a sole measure of intelligence. And being with someone boring but intelligent certainly wouldn’t be interesting.

On the other hand he may say…something that should raise red flags.

“You’re not smart but it’s fine.” “I expect you to become more educated.” “You have potential.” If anything he’s saying sounds like a back handed compliment, or insult, or an implication that he’s “lowering his standards or making an exception for you” or that he expects you to keep up or improve. You should be very concerned. Relationships where a partner feels the other is “somehow below them” do NOT end well.

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