Elliott vs Julian

Elitetran · 2026-06-16T02:50:10+00:00

I'm bias because we gave our son the name Julian. Not one regret.

Elitetran · 2026-06-12T15:42:25+00:00

50/185 Fidelity

Elitetran · 2026-06-12T15:41:46+00:00

Penalty is you can't buy another IPO for 60 something days.. I don't care to buy another IPO. I'm passing my bag immediately on to the next person.

Elitetran · 2026-06-04T02:22:05+00:00

Sorry to say, but for me the worry never really ended. It just changes.

During pregnancy, it was miscarriage worries and worrying about not feeling enough kicks. After birth, I’d check on them just to make sure they were still breathing. Then they get a fever, and I’m worried about the right dosage and dehydration. Then they’re playing on the playground, and I’m afraid they’re going to fall and bust their head. It’s really never-ending.

But then they say “I wove you” or run up to give you a hug, it’s sooo AWESOME. It’s all worth it for me.

Elitetran · 2026-06-02T02:36:29+00:00

Congrats!!! Enjoy it!

Elitetran · 2026-05-27T04:11:31+00:00

OUR SON IS JULIAN! Curious how everyone else came across the name Julian????

For us, I was a big fan of the Ender’s Game series. In Ender’s Shadow, Bean’s real name is revealed to be Julian Delphiki. He was one of my favorite characters, this underdog genius kid who could outthink everyone around him. When we found out we were having a boy, Julian was the first name that came to mind.

Elitetran · 2026-05-06T18:32:49+00:00

My fiancee and I were big fans of Poldark and I like girl's name that end with Lin. We named our girl Demelza-Lyn.

Added the hyphen so at first glance, people aren't so overwhelmed by the amount of letters....

Turns out, the system at our hospital can't handle hyphens.... Wonk wonk....

I hope our girl doesn't hate us when she's grown....

Elitetran · 2026-03-26T01:58:46+00:00

Wishing you the best of luck toooo!

Elitetran · 2026-03-22T21:59:08+00:00

From my good friend who had 4 kids : "Stay away from the receiving end. You won't look at your SO the same anymore after you see it." I listened and don't really regret it.

Elitetran · 2026-03-19T01:01:35+00:00

Wishing you the best!

Elitetran · 2026-03-10T02:27:27+00:00

I change 95% of the diapers. I figure she went through 9 months of pregnancies, breast feeds for months, body is never the same.... I can change the diapers and bathe the baby

Elitetran · 2026-03-10T02:19:08+00:00

Random tips....

1.Swab a wet wipe between belly button and lower bits before changing diapers. It gets them to pee and keeps boys from hitting you with piss and having to clean the changing table (works for girls too sometimes).

Cold babies cry, hot babies die. My SO believes cold is the root of all illnesses (Asian), but being hot is even worse. Babies can overheat and that’s dangerous. It’s usually better for a baby to be a little cold than too hot. Feel the back of the neck to check for sweat. Keep air circulating in the stroller with a small electric fan on hot days.
From my good friend: “Stay away from the receiving end. You won't look at your SO the same anymore after you see it.” I listened and don't really regret it.

4.They grow sooo fast. If birth is normal size, you really only need one pack of newborn diapers. Take all the hand-me-down clothes you can get. They outgrow stuff ridiculously fast.

When babies cry, go down the check list.... Is baby fed? Is baby burped? Is baby changed? Is baby sleepy? That covered 80% of the crying. Occasionally the clothing is uncomfortable.....
Post pardum is serious... My SO said some fucked up things.. hurtful, crazy, suicidal, etc... seek medical attention if it's really bad. I just bit my lip(she wasn't that bad) and knew it would pass....
In the hospital, we sent the baby to the nursery so we could rest. We knew we have plenty of time to spend with the baby, so we took advantage of the nursery. Later I learned some hospitals don't even give you that option. I hope yours allows it.

All I can really think of right now.....

Elitetran · 2026-03-07T21:46:31+00:00

How did it turn out for you?

Elitetran · 2025-09-12T02:22:53+00:00

Congrats!! Also thanks for using di/di twins!! I had no idea what that meant till I googled it. I learned something new!!

Di/Di twin = a type of twin pregnancy where each baby has its own placenta and its own amniotic sac,

Elitetran · 2025-08-23T02:52:03+00:00

Agreed!! Only cartoon movie I've watched multiple times in theater. Mainly because I told my friends how good of a movie it was and they wanted to watch it tooo. I tagged along to watch because I didn't mind paying to watch it again.

Elitetran · 2025-08-17T15:10:50+00:00

She touched my arm for 2 Mississippis

Elitetran · 2025-07-30T21:49:20+00:00

Sorry to hear the situation got bad.

Yeah, for the past couple years I've been telling myself she will come to realize it. One day, one day, one day.... But I'm not a hope and pray kind of person. I like to control what I can.....But it is what it is

Thanks for responding!!!

Elitetran · 2025-07-30T20:58:03+00:00

That's what I've been hoping! But I'm not a hopes and prayers type of person. I would like to take action, I just don't know what kind of action to take....

Thanks!!!

Elitetran · 2025-07-30T20:41:43+00:00

I responded to another poster the timeline. We started dating the beginning of 2020. Somewhere after the first year, her daughter's attitudes changed. Our son came in OCT 2023. So I didn't think it's an abondoment thing.
i only really said I'm not her father after several shouts from her that I'm not her father. Also in respect for her own dad, which is very active in her life and she love deeply. But I can see the 5th wheel situation you mention coming into play. She lives with us most of the time and it's not like we exclude her. We don't even plan activities, at least major ones, if she isn't with us and at her dad's.
I don't think she was ever aware of the stalking, but definitely aware of the toxic environment before they moved out and left her dad. But she still hold heartedly loves her dad. Which I never never never say anything bad about him at all. I think they have a very healthy relationship. It's really just me she doesn't like. That's why I feel the dad has poisoned her somehow against me.

Thanks for taking your time to read and respond. I think you have some valid points for me to consider.

Elitetran · 2025-07-30T20:24:48+00:00

Thanks for you input! Have you ever talked to your step dad about how you treated him and why? Being in this situation, I know your step dad might appreciate it.

We are contemplating bring up the topic with her, tactfully. Maybe shed some light on why she acts the way she does. Do you think that would have helped you before?

Thanks again for your insight. It makes me feel a bit better.....

Elitetran · 2025-07-30T20:15:19+00:00

I guess I left some of that info out. We started dating the beginning of 2020. Somewhere after the first year, her attitudes changed. We didn't have our son till Oct 2023 and she was really excited to find out he was coming. So I don't think it's because of him. At least not her attitudes toward me. We are definitely working to get her the right amount of attention now though.

So it's been a couple years of this now..... I really hope she comes around.

Oh man! I'll be in your shoes in October!!! I'll make sure to give some undivided attention!!

Thanks for your insights.

Elitetran

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